Alright I need some advice, I"m out of my fucking element on this.
Preface: My last serious relationship was four years ago, towards the end it wasn"t going smoothly. I told the girl like a bajillion times that I"m willing to stick it out with her through her personal issues, but if she doesn"t think the relationship will work then we need to end it. Eventually she"s like we need to take a "break" I leave for about a week to give her time to sort out her feelings, apparently a break was code word for fucking some dude she met on the internet in our bed. Needless to say I was pissed that she choose to go the way she did, it really did a number on me trusting women. Though I can"t honestly say I didn"t expect this, and our relationship was essentially shit near the end.
Fast forward, I"ve dated casually for the last four years and I"ve been insanely picky. But about three months ago I started getting to know a coworker of mine and we hit it off. We have almost everything in common, same world views, same life aspirations, same everything. Everything was going perfect, great sex, great times.. nothing but laughter and fun. I"ve honestly never connected with a woman like I have this one. She"s probably one of the nicest people I"ve met, great cook... smoking hot.
All is well.. until about two weeks ago when she starts becoming distant, doesn"t answer my texts or my phone calls. She stood me up earlier this week and I confronted her about it. Girl breaks down about how she"s so disappointed about where she is in her life, how"s she hates her job, and how she said she"d never want to work for a heartless corporation (She wants to work for volunteer organizations) and ended up doing it anyways because times were tough. Essentially having her quarter life crisis.. she proceeds to tell me that she"s just wanted to be alone lately, and she"s been beating herself up and has been pretty angry. She feels like she"s going to project these feelings towards our relationship and ruin it if we keep spending as much time together. She wants to have a "break" for awhile where I give her the space she needs to figure herself out. She specifically says it isn"t breaking up, she just needs to time to figure it out. I had bought her a cheapo AMD laptop for her birthday, and she refused to accept out of guilt for how she was making us take a break.
Now I"m at an impasse, I"ve been supportive of the idea because I"ve been her in situation before, but at the same time my gut instinct is there is something more going on that she doesn"t want to tell me. I"m kind of flip flopping between me trusting her, and what is probably my experience from my previous relationship. Anyone been in something like this before? Had it work out? Had it blow up? The girl so far has been my dream woman.. I"m just not sure if I"m just waiting for something that"ll never happen and I"ll end up being the fool again.
