Mazim said:
I didn"t threaten. She"s never given me a reason to suspect cheating. She is flirty but so am I....
Its nothing big or dramatic, just a lack of respect on a few different occasions.
That"s all it takes sometimes. I broke up with a girl over wearing a seatbelt.
Dated her sophomore year of college. Same college town, homes were 2.5hrs apart so during breaks and the summer we only did weekend trips to see eachother.
She lived in the middle of fucking nowhere in rural NY. Town of I"m guessing 5,000. Her dad, her brother, and most of the males in her family were members of the Volunteer Fire Deparment. and every guy in town was Uncle this, or Uncle that. Just deep rural, NOT white trash though. They all had nice cars and big pickups, and snowmobiles, etc. They were not poor.
This was hard for me to deal with. She herself wasn"t very country like until I met them I had no hint of it other then her liking Country music. (This was another almost deal breaker) But when I went to visit her I was the rich CT college boy. It was awkward as fuck.
Now whenever we drove any where she had me drive. I always drove my car (obviously) and I always drove hers to, she didn"t like driving which was fine. However she was panicky at times, she didn"t backseat drive, but she did need to point out anything that was a possible risk. She explained it as nervousness when she was in cars because her dad was a Volunteer Fire Deparment chief and she had seen a lot of motor vehicle accidents. It was irritating to deal with, but she had good reason to be like that so it was nothing against her.
The thing that killed it for me was one night we were going out to dinner all in her parents car. Her dad and mother in the front seats. Myself, her and her grandmother were in the back seat. Just as we get going I put on my seat belt, I ask her to shift for a second so I can buckle it and she doesn"t at first and then asks me, "Why? We"re in the back seat, its not illegal." She didn"t understand my argument that I did it because of safety and concern for my life. So we had a quick back and forth where she basically insinuated I was less manly because I wore a seat belt. She was truely of the rural white patriot mind set of "It"s my god given right to do it, unless its illegal" In that moment there was an absolute un-ignorable difference in our cultures and upbringings.
And that was it ended the relationship that very weekend. There are many attributes I like in girls, very few are a deal breaker/must have. Basic common sense is one. Now I"m not talking like logical in relationships, not using emotions, etc. no girl has those traits. They"re all "girl crazy" I"m talking about basic common sense.