You may not look at it that way, but she definitely will, and even if you explained it to her that you"re going purely for the fun and travel companionship aren"t looking for sex, she"d still have to explain it to her friends, and that"s therealproblem. In America, we have this fantastic ideal of a romantic weekend and it"s perfectly acceptable to go out and spend 72 hours with one person and most likely bone her dry, but in Asia it"s contemptible, not acceptable.Ancalagon said:
There are exceptions, but by and large the kind of woman willing to do this is not the kind that her countrymen are interested in. I can say from personal experience that this matters - your Chinese co-workers are going to look down upon you if you"re dating a "slut," even when you feel like things are going at a snail"s pace by Western standards.
My advice would be to take it slow if you are actually interested in her. I really wouldn"t expect anything out of it though, also keep in mind she might have a boyfriend. Asian girls tend to keep that information private, until you"ve become very direct with her about dates, sex, etc, or if you outright ask, where as an American girl would drop that knowledge at the first sign of flirting. I dated a girl for a few weeks before she told me she had a boyfriend, and only told me when she was ready to break up with him (cuing my entrance, which I of course declined).
Chinese women tend to be more open minded about dating foreigners than Korean (and likely Japanese) women, but if she"s telling her friends about it, it"s going to matter that you"re charming, polite (a trait that Americans have a reputation for lacking in Asia), and treating her with a pace on par or maybe slightly faster than a Chinese man would.
Hope this helps. Don"t get yourself into something you can"t easily get out of, as your taste in women is going to change a ton the longer you live there. You"re likely to meet 100 women like Jenkey in the next year.
