Tarrant
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Well I went out of town this weekend, took a girl friend with me to visit some friends that live about 90minutes south of me. Was an enjoyable time and I took this time to kind of work the situation with my ex a bit.
Saturday night we were all sitting around playing Rock Band....my throat has been sucking it up as of late and the only position open was the damn mic so I took a break and logged onto wow for a few.
BOOM, the screen hasn"t even loaded and I get a whisper from my ex. Asks if I was out of town, I told her yeah, told her I was taking a break from Rock Band blah blah blah. Now she knows about this girl I"ve been hanging out with....which she dislikes a good deal it would seem. Here is basically how part of our convo went from my chat log.
Mind you this girl I have been hanging with is pretty hot, like kinda outta my league hot and she HAS expressed interest. I"m fine with hanging out and what not, just not ready for more at this point....my ex however does not need to know this.
Fast forward to the next morning my ex texts me at 9am telling me good morning and asking how I slept. I ignore it for a few hours then hit her back eventually with just a normal "slept okay, still a bit tired" We chat for a few then that was it.
While driving home said girl said she hd a "surprise" waiting for me for the trip home, unless that surprise was falling asleep, I never got it, I assumed it was the typical female road trip surprise though.
On the way home my ex texts me asking how it"s going, I tell her okay, my friend fell asleep. (I was texting another friend at the time and accidentally sent to the ex this treat...." before I got my surprise though and I was bummed out." She asks what the surprise was, I play dumb, "I dunno lol" she makes the connection....says maybe she was gonna give me a BJ. I said "that"d be cool...."
Nothing for a few then she asks if I woke her up, I told her no but I was stopping to get gas maybe she would wake up on her own.
While getting gas shes texting me up a storm so I just call her (I hate texting) and we chat for a few. She again asks if she woke up, i said no to which she says....
"Well you should wake her up and see if she wants a drink, see if the surprise was actually something other then something sexual. If it is, tell her to go back to sleep."
Usually I wouldn"t talk about such things with her as it has the potentional so fuck things up, but it was kept light hearted and it let me see a deeper into a few things with the whole situation that I wouldn"t normally get to see into. The topic was kept short in length.
I laughed, she said to stop laughing at her (she was laughing too). She then asked if I could swing by (out of my way) on the way home after I dropped this girl off and bring her a coffee before she has to make an hour long drive herself to pick up her parents. I told her no, to which she gives mini guilt trips, something I would have fell for not long ago...and which was hard not to this time. I told her no and kept true to my word.
We texted a few times more later that evening and that was the day pretty much.
I think I handled it pretty well, now I just have to bide my time this whole week until she comes over on Sunday to stay the night. I"ll be able to tell then what progress I"ve made once Sunday hits.
If she tried to come over this week if a class gets out early (a 35minute drive for her, she used to sneak over when her classes got out early and her mom babysat her son)then I"ll know for sure we"re taking slow but steady steps in the right direction.
Saturday night we were all sitting around playing Rock Band....my throat has been sucking it up as of late and the only position open was the damn mic so I took a break and logged onto wow for a few.
BOOM, the screen hasn"t even loaded and I get a whisper from my ex. Asks if I was out of town, I told her yeah, told her I was taking a break from Rock Band blah blah blah. Now she knows about this girl I"ve been hanging out with....which she dislikes a good deal it would seem. Here is basically how part of our convo went from my chat log.
We chatted for a few minutes until it was time for me to take over Bass again.
Mind you this girl I have been hanging with is pretty hot, like kinda outta my league hot and she HAS expressed interest. I"m fine with hanging out and what not, just not ready for more at this point....my ex however does not need to know this.
Fast forward to the next morning my ex texts me at 9am telling me good morning and asking how I slept. I ignore it for a few hours then hit her back eventually with just a normal "slept okay, still a bit tired" We chat for a few then that was it.
While driving home said girl said she hd a "surprise" waiting for me for the trip home, unless that surprise was falling asleep, I never got it, I assumed it was the typical female road trip surprise though.
On the way home my ex texts me asking how it"s going, I tell her okay, my friend fell asleep. (I was texting another friend at the time and accidentally sent to the ex this treat...." before I got my surprise though and I was bummed out." She asks what the surprise was, I play dumb, "I dunno lol" she makes the connection....says maybe she was gonna give me a BJ. I said "that"d be cool...."
Nothing for a few then she asks if I woke her up, I told her no but I was stopping to get gas maybe she would wake up on her own.
While getting gas shes texting me up a storm so I just call her (I hate texting) and we chat for a few. She again asks if she woke up, i said no to which she says....
"Well you should wake her up and see if she wants a drink, see if the surprise was actually something other then something sexual. If it is, tell her to go back to sleep."
Usually I wouldn"t talk about such things with her as it has the potentional so fuck things up, but it was kept light hearted and it let me see a deeper into a few things with the whole situation that I wouldn"t normally get to see into. The topic was kept short in length.
I laughed, she said to stop laughing at her (she was laughing too). She then asked if I could swing by (out of my way) on the way home after I dropped this girl off and bring her a coffee before she has to make an hour long drive herself to pick up her parents. I told her no, to which she gives mini guilt trips, something I would have fell for not long ago...and which was hard not to this time. I told her no and kept true to my word.
We texted a few times more later that evening and that was the day pretty much.
I think I handled it pretty well, now I just have to bide my time this whole week until she comes over on Sunday to stay the night. I"ll be able to tell then what progress I"ve made once Sunday hits.
If she tried to come over this week if a class gets out early (a 35minute drive for her, she used to sneak over when her classes got out early and her mom babysat her son)then I"ll know for sure we"re taking slow but steady steps in the right direction.
