I"m contemplating a situation that could (hilariously, for you guys at least) explode in my face. Spoilered for length, I wrote way more than I expected.
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I"m currently living abroad and teaching English. This past week I started teaching a new class and after the first lesson, as everyone is gathering their things to leave, one of the students came up and began chatting with me. She"s an incredibly hot, 24 year old Russian girl (For reference, I"m 25). Obviously I chatted back, but I didn"t think anything of it cause it"s common for students to talk to me as the class ends.
Next lesson, same thing, but this time we talk longer and she offers me her cellphone number when the topic of me being new to the city and not knowing many people comes up. I say goodbye and go gather my stuff from the teacher"s room while she leaves. However, when I got downstairs to the main lobby I see this girl standing just inside the front door on her cell phone. I walk past her and go through the door and say "good night", but she immediately follows me through and asks if I want to go to a nearby cafe. I accept and we head to the cafe and sit, drink tea, and talk for about an hour and a half.
During our conversation the topic of films came up, so after we leave the cafe we walked by a theater to see what films are playing. It was kind of late at this point (as I teach night classes) so we decided to call it a night. I offered to walk her home, since we"re in the middle of a fairly large city, and she accepted. So I walked with her back to her apartment building"s entrance and said goodnight. I said, "See you on Friday (the date of the next English lesson)" and she says, "Yeah, see you on Friday, but you can call me tomorrow."
So today, after work, I gave her a call and chatted for a couple minutes and decided spontaneously, what the hell, and asked if she had any plans on Sunday. She said no, so I told her we should go to Mega (this sort of super-mall where they have a multiplex theater and stores/restaurants) and see a movie. She said sure, and we left the conversation at that cause she was out with her friends and I didn"t want to keep her occupied, plus I was walking on the freezing cold street and my fingers felt like they were about to fall off.
Flash forward an hour: I"m at home making dinner and low-and-behold, I get a text from her out of the blue. "Hi ". I respond back "Good evening. " Yes, with the smiley face. Bitches love smiley faces. A couple more texts are exchanged over like 30-45 minutes.
Thinking I"ve learned something from this thread, I stopped responding to the texts. After all, I"m going to see her tomorrow at the next class, no need to indulge her further tonight. But after 3 ignored texts she finally sends one that contains her home phone number and "U can call ". So I finally caved and called her up, and we ended up chatting for 2 hours.
Obviously her being my student makes this all sorts of icky and risky, plus introduces a ton of variables that wouldn"t normally exist. I figure these are the possibilities:
1) She"s trying to get a good grade out of me. - Possible, but I think this is unlikely. It"s a bullshit "language mill" school and the only thing that counts towards your grade is the final exam at the end of the course. You basically buy your certificate.
2) She"s just a really friendly, outgoing person who is trying to make my introduction to this new place a little easier. - Very possible. She is VERY friendly and outgoing, and during our lessons she"s one of those students who volunteers answers and opinions at every opportunity.
3) She"s just doing all this as an excuse to practice her English more in a 1-to-1 setting. - Again, Very possible. She"s expressed a real desire to improve her English so that she can travel abroad to get her masters degree.
4) She"s trolling for a greencard. - Always possible with Russians, but I think it"s unlikely. She seems far too well educated and has too much family here.
5) She"s actually really into me. - Possible, I"m "not ugly and not stupid" (her words. She"s very sarcastic and said it in a joking way obviously).
Honestly I"m thinking it"s either 5, or a combination of 2 and 3.
I"m planning on trying to steer it away from the friend zone and towards relationship. However, if that fails, depending on how surprised/naive/upset she is if, for example, I go in for a kiss and get rejected, she could cause huge work problems for me. I figure I really need to judge her intentions accurately so I don"t misread and torpedo myself.
If I do manage to make a relationship out of it, there will be the ever-present risk of my coworkers/boss/other students finding out and turning my cruise into a failboat.
*edit* I should mention that my school is sponsoring my visa and paying for my apartment. So I"ll become a homeless, illegal alien should I lose my job.
