Girls who broke your heart thread

yes, my point remains. For all I know, not to long ago could have been yesterday.

Dabamf said:

P.P.S. After I resolved the issue with DG (minus making sure she kept her word by seeing her apartment draped in black penis wallpaper) she was over last night and I stupidly referenced my leaving Korea in 16 months again and she got upset.

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1. You never resolved the first issue, nor do you seem to understand why it was an issue in the first place. By all indication shes fucking someone else and even after giving "permission" you still haven"t seen her pad. Either you are full of shit and were never given the go ahead OR you don"t have the balls to actually use your granted ability to see the apartment.

2. You have described this relationship as being at a similar level of intimacy as a first month relationship due to linguistic and cultural barriers. Yet you must refrain from mentioning that you will be leaving in 16 months? And she weeps and ignores you if you do? Sure seems like something is going on beyond a 1 month relationship. Why would she even vaguely hope you would be staying in a foreign nation for a "casual" relationship? She wont even let you come over to her fucking home yet holds out hope you will spend years with her? An event 1.5 years in the future? Story makes tons of sense bro.

Eomer, my prediction was wrong. I was expecting a reply probe from her within hours. Brekk actually had a fantastic point though. A disinterested all business reply is probably a clearer message than ignoring. In any event, that"s 1 step closer to fully breaking contact with her.

Tarrant220 said:

She"s probably just either not wanting to think about it or holding out hope you"ll change your mind. in 16 months if shit is still going good who knows, maybe she"ll want to follow you back over, how would that make you feel? Lord knows it wouldn"t be the first time something like that has happened.

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I"m not opposed to the idea of bringing a girl from here back with me. I like a lot of the characteristics of Korean girls. But difficulty communicating is a dealbreaker. She would have to be absolutely fluent in English or me fluent in Korean (the former is required when living in the states...woman has to have her own friends/life), and that is not the case nor likely to be the case in 16 months when we"d be faced with that decision. And I"d only do it if it really was an amazing match...I"m not a guy who just wants "an Asian wife." So in this case, while I can"t read the future, realistically its very unlikely.

And she is 31, I"m 25. Her age is the main reason I had that talk with her. I know she wants a family and kids, and at her age every day spent with me is absolutely time "wasted" in terms of finding a partner for life. I"d like her to continue to waste time with me, but I care about her and want her to have all the info possible to do what"s best for her. I even told her if she wants to break up with me because of it, I will understand (more tactfully put of course).

Ultimately it has a good chance of tainting the remainder of the relationship or ending it alltogether. I knew that going in. But whenever I"m in doubt, I err on the side of just telling someone the truth.

It sounds like she likes you a lot more than you lead us to believe around here.

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I"ve only ever posted problems, frustrations, or triumphant success stories. I"ve told you guys significantly less of the story than, say, Eomer or Tarrant usually tells. That"s why I mistakenly expected a little benefit of the doubt around here with the apartment story, since no one knows the context. But that"s history.

This message is hidden because Gryeyes is on your ignore list.

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Hope you didn"t type too much.

Well on ignore or not you respond. Wasn"t trying to fuck up your LARPing of understanding relationships. And really I wouldn"t blow up your spot except how utterly conflicted and douche bag you are. Dont fake the funk if you cant live your life that way.

Basically you are a conflicted faggot spewing advice from an armchair you are unable to understand or follow in your own life. Meaning your advice has no relation to actual knowledge and you are just spitting nonsense with the intention of being a bitch. I wasn"t jumping on the train of people who detest you for whatever reason. Nothing I brought up requires "Belief", you don"t walk how you talk.

Your bullshit makes no sense, making you a hypocritical tool. And while being a hypocritical tool doesn"t invalidate any advice you have given by default. It definitely lends some perspective to the "advice". Summarily designating you as a hater idiot spewing shit that you are unable to incorporate into your life.

Real easy to tell others to "man up" when you have no fucking clue what that means in practice. Plug your ears and hum, you are still a piece of shit for spewing talk you cant walk.

I am a nerd, not a "The Big Bang Theory" kind of nerd, but a nerd nonetheless.
I am 32 years old, i had 6 relationships that lasted six months or less. In February i met a girl on a dating website, our Romanian equivalent of plentyoffish.com.


She was kindof cool, we had planned to spend our vacation in Barcelona, and i thought of asking her to move in with me during that vacation. But she asked me to move in with her even before that.

So i did. I moved in her apartment in September, and things started to go to hell from there. We keep fighting because i am too messy and i leave bread crumbs on the table when i eat. We fight because i spend too much time on the computer. She thought i was gonna propose to her during Christmas Day, and she got mad when she found out i intended to propose to her in april next year, on her birthday. She believes it is "too late". She wants to have my children next year, i want to way until 2011.

It is basically a clusterfuck. We want similar things, and yet we fight because of different "when" and "where" and "how". She believes in GOD but is a Reiki practitioner. She believes in spells, in spiritual energies, in spiritual healing. I despise that kind of beliefs. I like to play computer games, she despises that activity, she considers it too childish. I smoke, she hates smoking.

My question is, can two people that have so many irreconcilable differences
be happy as a married couple ? Am i just afraid i will remain lonely , and because of that fear i put up with her crap for so long ?

This is she... the blonde one.

wamphyr said:

It is basically a clusterfuck. We want similar things, and yet we fight because of different "when" and "where" and "how". She believes in GOD but is a Reiki practitioner. She believes in spells, in spiritual energies, in spiritual healing. I despise that kind of beliefs. I like to play computer games, she despises that activity, she considers it too childish. I smoke, she hates smoking.

My question is, can two people that have so many irreconcilable differences
be happy as a married couple ? Am i just afraid i will remain lonely , and because of that fear i put up with her crap for so long ?

This is she... the blonde one.

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Short version: No way this is going to end well. And once she has your kid, she has you by the balls.

Get out while you can.

wamphyr said:

My question is, can two people that have so many irreconcilable differences
be happy as a married couple ? Am i just afraid i will remain lonely , and because of that fear i put up with her crap for so long ?

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1. You obviously cannot respect or value her intelligence, since she believes in all kinds you perceive as stupid. People can have differences and be perfectly accepting of each other. But if you view their beliefs as moronic there isn"t much you can do about that. Does she even present her beliefs in a rational perspective? Or is it just random new age whatever?

2. Maintaining a relationship out of loneliness will make you miserable. It also puts you at an extreme disadvantage. All chicks can smell needy and will most certainly use it against you. Its also kinda fucked for the girl since your primary motivation is not to be alone, as opposed to the desire to be with her. Making her fairly incidental. But your rationale should be more along the lines of "Can i reconcile our differences without me assuming she is a retard". If you can"t respect or understand her "beliefs" definitely don"t marry her.

1. I cannot respect or value her intelligence because she doesn"t posses such a thing. Alright, that was mean, i know. She is not a retard, she does know English fairly well, and she is good at her job. Its just that she is not an intellectual, nor does she have any intellectual interests, nor does she respect my passions. Talking about her beliefs in a rational manner is something that i tried doing with her, of course. She just tells me that she "resonates" with those things, and i should accept it. And maybe i could accept it, but she made it clear that she will try to teach our kids all that new age crap. And that is something that i am finding very hard to accept.

2. Well, there are some things that i enjoy about her. She is a happy person, and i am smiling all the time when i am with her. When we don"t fight, that is.
But in almost every aspect of everything we disagree.

I want the door to our bedroom closed, she wants it open. I want dark rooms, she wants open-aired rooms. I want a house in the suburbs, she wants a flat in the city. I want silence in the morning, she wants to listen to music. I could go on forever... Little things and big things, in everything we disagree.

There is much "reconciliation" to be done that i feel it is beyond my power to do it. Am i being lazy ?

Obviously you shouldn"t be together -- at least not in any serious sense (read: on the verge of marriage and children). And, even more obvious, you are loath to leave her because you (a) like the feeling of being with someone (hey, who doesn"t?); and, more importantly, (b) you have little-to-no self-confidence, and so little-to-no faith that you can find someone else who"ll give you the time of day.

You do need to break up with this woman, but you also need to make a concerted effort to better yourself. You mention being a messy eater and leaving crumbs on the desk as if that"s some unchangeable fact of life. While it"s not a big deal in and of itself, it"s emblematic of you as a person. Something that you ought not do, and which is so easy to remedy, you find impossible to change. 32 is not old. You"re not too set in your ways to change. Start now. Become cleaner. Video games are a fine hobby, nothing to be ashamed of. But if they"re more an obsession than a hobby -- do you game everyday? how many hours? -- than you need to cut back. Get in shape if you"re not already. That will effect a huge confidence boost. Blah blah.

Leave the girl, she seems to have no redeeming qualities save for a vagina. Improve yourself. Then find a better girl. I promise there are others out there who will give you the time of day.

There is much "reconciliation" to be done that i feel it is beyond my power to do it. Am i being lazy ?

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I don"t think it really has anything to do with you being lazy, even though that may be the case, I don"t know all the details. It sounds like you just have no motivation to change because you are in a relationship with someone that you don"t want to be with. From what you"ve posted (met her online, fighting all the time, etc.) it sounds like the only reason you"re even dating is because you just don"t want to be alone -- which is a horrible reason to do so. Also, moving into her apartment after 7 months probably wasn"t the greatest decision.

Basically what I"m saying is: you two are in a relationship for the wrong reasons, you have nothing in common and are constantly at each other"s throats, and your girlfriend sounds like some retarded new age hippie. Move on.

You don"t respect her career or her philosophy about life. Anything else could be absolutely 100% perfect and it would be doomed because of this fact. It is absolutely a deal breaker. You can never build a life around someone who has a belief system that you flat out don"t respect at all.

Knowing only that little you posted, I would put my life against $100 that the relationship will never have a happy ending.

You"ve obviously had success on this dating sight, at least maybe in terms of getting laid. Why fear that breaking it off with her will leave you alone? Break up with her and go slay fields of romanian pussy, then post pics.

Wamphyr. Leave that woman.
I"m making the decision for you, in order to save your unborn children.

god damn, just imagine their upbringing. your gf would poison their minds 24/7, and you"d be on damage control 24/7. eventually she"d divorce you in order to increase her access and limit yours.
your children, with this woman, would be fucked teh fuck up.

ps. you can definitely find a nerd/gamer girl that better matches your personality and is as good looking as the blond posted.

Why are you not fucking her friend?

Brad2770 said:

Why are you not fucking her friend?

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She looks even crazier. "Eat-your-liver-while-you"re-watching"-crazy.

If porn has taught me anything it"s that Romania has girls 100x hotter than that, legions of them.

Whatdoyou two have in common, to still be together? Is it just convenience? Boredom? Fear of being alone?

wamphyr said:

1. I cannot respect or value her intelligence because she doesn"t posses such a thing.

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Seriously why would you even contemplate marrying someone who you feel this way about? Being mean or not you obviously view her as a moderately retarded. Seems a doomed situation that will make both of you unhappy. Personally I wont enter a committed relationship if I perceive the other party as stupid. And your beefs are mostly fundamental logic skills, not something thats likely to change.

Crazy that people post pictures of girlfriends and ex girlfriends on a site like this. maybe I am just old fashioned or something.
I"m not pointing fingers at anyone.and I am no bastion of mortality,sooo it is just an observation.

I"ve hated a couple of my ex girlfriends I have had in the past,but still I would never post there pictures on the internet without them knowing about it. I even posted a girl I was dating once on this site,but I told her I was going to do it first in case she thought it was an invasion of her privacy.

Must be like those dudes that people meet every once in awhile that will show naked pictures of an ex girlfriend that they currently hate,and in the back of your head you are saying wow what a douche..

Maybe this is the norm now,carry on...