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So we exchanged a few more texts at about 5pm that afternoon, she said she wasn"t sure what she wanted to do, I threw a few ideas out, and she responded that she was gonna eat dinner with her family and call me later.
So later comes and she calls around 7pm. I had just done a J and was playing an intense game of NHL09 with a bud that came over, so I called her back a little while later.
Long story short, as it turns out, she had lost her job lsst Friday, and not mentioned it because she was upset and/or embarassed about it. Wasn"t her fault, she was a temporary replacement for someone who went on maternity leave and they came back earlier than expected, so her work gave her a month"s pay and a thank you. Not bad since she"d only been there 6 months. So that, combined with the new birth control and large amount of beer I guess somewhat explains her losing her mind on Sunday. Especially the sobbing and crying about how much of a "trainwreck" she is and how I shouldn"t want to be involved with her.
She said she"d pretty much been moping around the house for the past few days, watching TV series and sleeping and didn"t want to come out given her current state of emotion. We chatted for a little over half an hour before I remembered my buddy was sitting on my couch watching TV, and I let her go and told her to call me when she"s up for hanging out or doing something. Things seemed to be alright.
It"s funny how girl"s minds work. You"d think she"d just come forward and talk about having lost her job. Instead she gets hammered drunk, sexually aggressive, then angry, then crying, then angry again, then sobbing. Chicks
Aychamo said:
Sounds like she"s already ended things man. That sucks, back to square one!
I was of the same opinion, until I found out the details above. Back on the fence again.
Turkish said:
Walk away, dude. Walk away now, walk away fast. Fuck the bullshit. You don"t need to wait for another chick to come along to walk away from this shit. This is a red flag.
I dunno, I think you guys are too eager to walk/run away. It"s not like sticking around for awhile longer is preventing me from doing anything else or limiting me in any way.
Tyen said:
Sounds like she is playing 2 dudes at once.
Nah, totally not that kind of girl. I don"t think anyway. Unless she"s blatantly lying about her family and volunteer commitments, she doesn"t have enough time to be playing 2 dudes at once. She (was) working full time, then one or two nights a week the Coors thing, then two nights a week volunteering, one night a week family dinner, and pretty much all day Sunday church/family.
Snugglebear said:
C"mon guys, she goes to church, volunteers with disabled children, has a large extended family she attends to every week, and is a full time whore or whatever you call that "party girl" job. She may just be busy and couldn"t get back to Eomer.
The whole point of her Coors thing is that she"s supposed to make herself unattainable, it"s not like she"s giving guys lap dances or whatever. And as I laid out above, she is a pretty busy chick unless she"s lying to me about what he does. Or at least, she WAS busy.
Heylel said:
I"m not saying it"s worth the hassle, but some people just function this way. Especially when people have been hurt in the past, it makes trusting someone new very difficult, and the old habits are hard to break.
Worst case scenario, you"ve had a good time with her and some fond memories to look back on.
That"s kind of how I"m looking at it. No harm in seeing where things go.
Azrayne said:
This. Don"t overreact and call it off, or approach her and try raise the subject. Just ignore her unless she initiates contact for a while.
She"s trying to control you and make you chase after her, don"t play into it. Remember, "she" should be glad that "you" are giving her your time of day.
Yeah, that"s kind of how I plan on moving forward. This week, it was her who initiated first contact after the trainwreck on Sunday when she chatted me up on Facebook, and again yesterday when she joked about texting me at 3am. I made it clear last night that I was going to wait for her to get her shit sorted and call me when she felt better, and that"s what I"ll do.
bofa said:
It"s gonna be tough to turn that back around man...I"d forget about her, had that shit happen to me once already where you try to come in from the "i"m going to treat her different from the other assholes" angle and blows up in your face.
I guess I look at it like this: I don"t want to play games, I"m fucking sick of it. If I have to play games and be someone who I"m not to stay with a particular chick, then fuck it, I"ll find a different one where I don"t. Maybe that"s some idealistic, naive bullshit that will only result in me getting dropped for the first Outlaw Biker to come along, but fuck it. I"m in no big rush.
bofa said:
What do you guys think...bad news bears or "stfu panzy..let her stay...show me pic"s of the tats"?
Do it. Do it.
And get pictures.
