I've lost in order of importance to me my brother in 2005, my uncle in 2002, my great grandmother in 1993, my nephew in 2005 a month after his father/my brother,one of my aunts in 2010 and numerous friends before this service today.
All of the previous services were long, strung out emotional coasters of shit that took place over multiple days.
Today's service as my grandmother wanted we pulled up, casket was already over grave. A poem was read, words were said, people shook hands and reflected back on things, asked how each other was doing. much concern from many people about me who had heard of what I went through only months back but never contacted me. She was lowered down, casket case lowered down, 2 guys dumped dirt filled in grave, we threw on flowers and everyone got in their cars and left.
Total service-90 minutes start to finish. Done. Back to our lives.
I must say it was best for everyone and the most pleasant disaster I have been apart of. All of family declared this is how it will be done from now on.