no, to use your analogy, its more like the slutty girl inviting her friend over to her house and the friend raping her sister.
Then the sister when does kick the rapist out. continues to say "fuck you, I'll do what I want", after the sister asks her to hand over the house keys.
The sister was the one who was raped, and has every reason to be pissed off at her sister bringing this clown to her house, and has every reason to want to be able to make sure it doesn't happen again. while the slutty sister refuses to take any responsibility for her actions.
He opened the door to Zod. Then got pissy when the US tried to actually investigate him, and rightfully as they should.
Between his heritage, and directly using the Key and setting off the beacon. its his fault, even if its an accident. its still his fault.
Which is why he actions at the very end are such a problem. If he sat there and said, I'm sorry about this. That would be totally different.
End of the Superman 2. Superman replaces the American flag, and apologizes to the president for letting it happen, for not being there, when he was needed. "it won't happen again". And in that one, Zod coming to Earth wasn't even his fault. that was random chance.
In this one, its his fault, and he is totally antagonistic. Zero remorse is shown.
Luthor and every other human would be 100% in the right, in doing everything they can to investigate him, as well as blaming him and his presence for what Zod did.
Look at how Landis's calls superman and Zod adults in a world of children. superman is hiding out in a daycare. zod comes and kills the children. And when confronted after stopping zod about why hes hiding out in a daycare, superman responds by saying "its my business, ill stay here if I want to" The dynamic is totally changed. He is not here protecting us anymore, then his actions are incredibly reckless and hard to morally justify.