I'll try one last time, but I see that you are focusing on one specific aspect and expanding it to all-encompassing blame so it probably won't matter yet again. But I'll try.Except you are swapping the analogy again. The proper analogy would be you sneak into someone elses house, and live in the attic. You leave the door unlocked, and have something I want. I come over, and murder the owner of the house's children. you know what? the owner of the house every right to be pretty pissed off at you and kick you the fuck out. but nope, you live in the attic, and the owner can't do anything about it.
Superman did not pay the price for his mistakes or heritage. Humans did. you seem to be missing that point. In this movie, it was Superman and his legacy at fault. Yes, Zod did the action, but if you open the door to a murderer, YES you are to blame as well. Or as the other analogy, if you have a hit on your head, and go hide in a daycare. kids dying is absolutely on your head, not just the killer.
Let's say I'm married, and I leave for work in the morning while my wife is still in bed sleeping. I forget to lock the door. Someone finds that the door is unlocked and walks in and murders my wife. Assuming that the murderer would have just walked away if the door were locked, yes, I am indirectly responsible for my wife's murder. However, the vast majority of the blame still falls on the murderer himself, because he CHOSE to commit the act. 99.999% of the time if I forgot to lock the door, nothing bad would have happened, or it would have happened whether the door was locked or not. I should feel terrible, and I should feel guilty, and I should probably check the fucking door every day from then on out...but it is still an accident, and it is still not something that I could have predicted would have happened.
You're mad at the fact that Superman didn't act guilty or distraught, and that he's upset that the government is trying to monitor him. I AGREE WITH YOU! That part was terribly portrayed (or not at all), and just a scene or two (Tuco's orphanage, a tear at the end as Superman surveyed the wreckage, or him telling the General that he vows to never let this happen again...something) would have made it much better. I AGREE! But you're conflating all of that with blaming everything on Superman. You said it multiple times, so I'm not making this shit up, you blame Superman for all of it, and that's not fair. He SHOULD feel bad about it, no doubt, and he SHOULD be working with the government to make them feel safer with him around. They did an absolutely shit job in that area, and I agree. But he's not responsible for Zod's actions any more than I am responsible for my wife's murderer's actions. What you want, essentially, is for Superman never to be allowed to be responsible for locking a door before he goes out ever again, because he failed once and horrible things happened. I get why you think that, but it still doesn't mean that he's 100% responsible for everything that happened like you keep saying.
You need to separate the two, and you aren't. I feel we will never agree on this, and that's fine, but it seems a shame because I think you're letting it cloud your judgment of the parts of the movie that were actually pretty good and entertaining. Believe me, no one wanted this movie to be perfect more than I did. It wasn't, not by a good margin. But it was still pretty damn good, and I wish that you had enjoyed it as much as I did, that's all.