Marriage and the Power of Divorce

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Frenzied Wombat

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Cad_sl said:
I don't know what wedding vows you took when you got married (oh wait) but afaik the common marriage vows don't say anything about sex or monogamy. And whatever the agreement is between two other people is literally none of your business or concern.
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I don't judge anybody (well, in terms of cucking ok), they can do as they please if it's agreed to by both parties. My parents were thrice divorced by the time I was 18, cheated like mad, and basically whatever "marriage vows" they took weren't worth the paper they were written on. All that paper did was make things extra painful and extra expensive for all people involved, especially the children, when shit went south. Yes, a city hall marriage doesn't have monogomy vows, but if it's at a church/synagogue it's either explicitly or implicitly stated--cheating is grounds for divorce. I have never been married partially because I consider marriage serious business (unlike most in Dallas who are divorced by 25) and won't commit to anything if I don't plan on playing by the rules.
 
Noodleface

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a_skeleton_03 I tried to argue this last time and I was called close minded too. I just gave up and left it alone. There's no point in arguing it here
 
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Noodleface_sl said:
a_skeleton_03 I tried to argue this last time and I was called close minded too. I just gave up and left it alone. There's no point in arguing it here
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Real men let their women get butt fucked by black dudes. Open your mind you unenlightened retard. It 2016. Come on people.
 
Cad

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Frenzied Wombat_sl said:
I don't judge anybody (well, in terms of cucking ok), they can do as they please if it's agreed to by both parties. My parents were thrice divorced by the time I was 18, cheated like mad, and basically whatever "marriage vows" they took weren't worth the paper they were written on. All that paper did was make things extra painful and extra expensive for all people involved, especially the children, when shit went south. Yes, a city hall marriage doesn't have monogomy vows, but if it's at a church/synagogue it's either explicitly or implicitly stated--cheating is grounds for divorce. I have never been married partially because I consider marriage serious business (unlike most in Dallas who are divorced by 25) and won't commit to anything if I don't plan on playing by the rules.
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It's not cheating if everyone is aware of whats going on. There's your disconnect.
 
Fifey

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A marriage is you and another person deciding to incorporate, nothing more. What terms you negotiate before the merger is up to each individual.

Quit being prudes.
 
Cad

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Tenks_sl said:
Real men let their women get butt fucked by black dudes. Open your mind you unenlightened retard. It 2016. Come on people.
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I mean if thats what you want and thats what she wants? Your wording "let" implies a conflict where none exists; we're just saying when both of you are on the same page and want to do something outside the norm, as long as you're communicating and everyone is on the same page, it's fine.

This idea that the woman is "cucking" you or you're "cheating" on her is asinine when she is doing what you WANT her to do, and you're doing what she WANTS you to do. You guys can't grasp the consent and communication involved I guess.
 
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Cad_sl said:
I mean if thats what you want and thats what she wants? Your wording "let" implies a conflict where none exists; we're just saying when both of you are on the same page and want to do something outside the norm, as long as you're communicating and everyone is on the same page, it's fine.

This idea that the woman is "cucking" you or you're "cheating" on her is asinine when she is doing what you WANT her to do, and you're doing what she WANTS you to do. You guys can't grasp the consent and communication involved I guess.
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No one here is confused Cad. a_skeleton_03 may have a bit different of a stance but it has long been Noodle and my stance that cucking is weird and something completely bizzare. It doesn't make me closed minded or confused about consent. It makes me wonder heavily about people who engage in it, though. It is fine to have an opinion of "That is fucking strange."
 
lindz

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Vandyn_sl said:
This goes back to my question of if your husband sleeps around too (he doesn't it seems). Since you say this took a long time for you to reach this point, what if the shoe was on the other foot. What if after you sleep with this guy in NY he comes to you 6 months later and says 'can I sleep with this chick in...' Are you going to be cool with that?
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Yes it was years to get to this point, but it years with being open with one another about what we both want: that has always been him wanting me to sleep with other men. Within those open discussions, I brought up regularly that one of the reasons I might never be ok with it, is that he might be interested in sleeping with other women if it ever happened. He assured me that was never part of it and he knows I'd never be ok with that. Is he lying? Maybe. Though if he is, we have pretty big problems that go beyond this stuff.

Is this a hypocritical view? It might be. But realize the fantasy is not open marriage - it is the idea of me being with other men, me owning my sexuality, me being wanted by other men.
 
Cad

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Tenks_sl said:
No one here is confused Cad. a_skeleton_03 may have a bit different of a stance but it has long been Noodle and my stance that cucking is weird and something completely bizzare. It doesn't make me closed minded or confused about consent. It makes me wonder heavily about people who engage in it, though. It is fine to have an opinion of "That is fucking strange."
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What is sexually arousing to one person can be disgusting to the next. It's perfectly fine. You're absolutely entitled to conduct your sex life however you like. It's the puritanical judgment you guys lay out anytime something not absolutely conventional comes up that is off-putting and fucking weird. Fifey is right you guys are fucking prudes.
 
lindz

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Noodleface_sl said:
a_skeleton_03 I tried to argue this last time and I was called close minded too. I just gave up and left it alone. There's no point in arguing it here
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I don't think you're closed-minded Noodle. I think everyone has different values and as long as both parties are happy, that's fine.

But I mean, arguing on the internet can often seem fruitless.
 
lindz

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Tenks_sl said:
No one here is confused Cad. a_skeleton_03 may have a bit different of a stance but it has long been Noodle and my stance that cucking is weird and something completely bizzare. It doesn't make me closed minded or confused about consent. It makes me wonder heavily about people who engage in it, though. It is fine to have an opinion of "That is fucking strange."
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Dude, I think it's fucking strange and I'm engaging in it.
 
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