Marriage and the Power of Divorce
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ZyyzYzzy
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Utnayan
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Going to be serious on this one and not shit post
Make sure you open dialogue. It isn't fair that you are working your ass off and when you tell her you aren't interested in something, she blasts you for not wanting to do it. My wife and I work opposite ends. I have a standard 8-5 Mon-Fri. She is a nurse and works nights with a varying schedule. If anything, it makes me appreciate how much my wife does even more. Because dinner is always on the table, house is always clean, and financially speaking we both do very well. I deal with a TON of traffic each day. So about 12 hours in a car each week. She knows this, and even offers to drive to various places so I do not have to drive. It's a give give situation (I do a lot for her too) and at the end of the day, it isn't one sided. Although sometimes, if anything, she gives a lot more than I do sometimes.
From the rant post you had, it sounds like (And please do not take this the wrong way) that you have a wife who doesn't understand what it is like to be you. Takes that / you for granted, and quite honestly, that's bullshit if that is the case. Before more resentment kicks in, you may just want to sit down and have a firm discussion of "Hey... I am off my ass 70 hours a week... When a weekend comes, sometimes I just want to stay at home with NOTHING to do. If you want that to change, get a job and help contribute to the family earnings, I can work less or find a new job, and we can do more things that you * and * I want to do"
I could be totally off base, but that's my thinking from reading the post you had left.
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Did anyone disprove such? Could have sworn Aamina was a cucksy English teacher from Canada too.
Big_w_powah
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It actually made me laugh. I know I'm not that fuck, its no biggy. Thanks for having my back though!
Going to be serious on this one and not shit post
Make sure you open dialogue. It isn't fair that you are working your ass off and when you tell her you aren't interested in something, she blasts you for not wanting to do it. My wife and I work opposite ends. I have a standard 8-5 Mon-Fri. She is a nurse and works nights with a varying schedule. If anything, it makes me appreciate how much my wife does even more. Because dinner is always on the table, house is always clean, and financially speaking we both do very well. I deal with a TON of traffic each day. So about 12 hours in a car each week. She knows this, and even offers to drive to various places so I do not have to drive. It's a give give situation (I do a lot for her too) and at the end of the day, it isn't one sided. Although sometimes, if anything, she gives a lot more than I do sometimes.
From the rant post you had, it sounds like (And please do not take this the wrong way) that you have a wife who doesn't understand what it is like to be you. Takes that / you for granted, and quite honestly, that's bullshit if that is the case. Before more resentment kicks in, you may just want to sit down and have a firm discussion of "Hey... I am off my ass 70 hours a week... When a weekend comes, sometimes I just want to stay at home with NOTHING to do. If you want that to change, get a job and help contribute to the family earnings, I can work less or find a new job, and we can do more things that you * and * I want to do"
I could be totally off base, but that's my thinking from reading the post you had left.
You're not off base 100%. Maybe like 5% given one thing? She handles the house well but has an aversion to working. Things just worked before, with my previous job. Its an entirely different environment now.
She saw me work my 40, with the occasional extra 10-15 (like, once every 2 months?) before...
Ultimately, I think the nail's been hit on the head here a couple of times--I don't think she understands how much harder I work at this job, than I ever have at any other. Take today for example..Travel for 2 hours, I'll be working today from 9 to at least 9. Tomorrow will be 8-9 minimum, to travel Wednesday back to the office to put in 9-11 hours AFTER the 2 hour minimum drive.
Thats if things go smoothly here. Its exhausting, and I just don't think she sees it because she barely sees me except for the weekend, during which time I do my best to not let her know how beat down I am.
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Big_w_powah
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Imagine living it--The thing is, I dont have the luxury of flinging my laptop across the room frisbee style and pulling a "fuck you fuck you fuck you, you're...well, no fuck you too im out" style exit, without some income providing place to exit to...
I'm working on that side of things, oh so very hard.
Big_w_powah
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Thats difficult to do. She, erm, well, just has trouble holding a job--ends up super stressed and its gotten to the point it has affected her health negatively when working before.
Damn she was smokin when she worked at Walgreen's warehouse, though.
Utnayan
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Ok well then my advice is this: Since you are the bread winner of the family and she won't work, she needs to understand you shouldn't have been chastised for not being excited about something when you are drained from all the stress on your back of holding the family together financially. That doesn't mean she isn't doing anything around the house to help. But what that does mean is marriages are about give and take. I wouldn't let that fester. Doesn't need to be a knock out drag down argument, just a bit of, "You know, I am working my ass off for us. It would be nice once in a while if I wouldn't get called out and given a pass every once in a while when it comes to just wanting to stay home. I guarantee you if I had less hours to work I wouldn't mind, but for now, ease up a bit"
Just my two cents.
Just my two cents.
Izo
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Maybe he's being a dick and taking her for granted? Your advice would add to problem. Talk to her GF's, find out what the problem is. 3 sides of a coin and all.Ok well then my advice is this: Since you are the bread winner of the family and she won't work, she needs to understand you shouldn't have been chastised for not being excited about something when you are drained from all the stress on your back of holding the family together financially. That doesn't mean she isn't doing anything around the house to help. But what that does mean is marriages are about give and take. I wouldn't let that fester. Doesn't need to be a knock out drag down argument, just a bit of, "You know, I am working my ass off for us. It would be nice once in a while if I wouldn't get called out and given a pass every once in a while when it comes to just wanting to stay home. I guarantee you if I had less hours to work I wouldn't mind, but for now, ease up a bit"
Just my two cents.
iannis
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Nah, aamina was retarded but he was also not great with English. Like he didn't know what a lot of words that he used meant.
Oh wait, fuck.
Aamina signed his posts though. Not even tanoomba does that. Holdover from the bbs days when you had to. I don't think tanoomba is that old. He's late twenties I suspect, which means he missed bbses.
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TrollfaceDeux
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tanoomba used to do that early on.
so he did it.
we called out on it so he stopped doing it.
ZyyzYzzy
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You should really have amod change your name back to trollface
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Big_w_powah
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Nester
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If your children are old enough for full time school, why would your wife not work?
I just do not get it, seems like the ultimate cuck to me.
This is not direct at Big W directly, its directed to the universe.
There is no house that takes 40 hours a week to KEEP, there is no meal plan that takes 40 hours a week to prep....
I just do not get it, seems like the ultimate cuck to me.
This is not direct at Big W directly, its directed to the universe.
There is no house that takes 40 hours a week to KEEP, there is no meal plan that takes 40 hours a week to prep....
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Big_w_powah
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Noodleface
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If my kid wasn't home all day I'd expect my wife to work at least a part time job for most of the week
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ZyyzYzzy
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Sucking off a gaggle of cocks each day is a part time job
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