Marriage and the Power of Divorce
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Aldarion
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To be clear, it aint overtime, thats just the job. Joys of a salaried position. I should work 80 but you gotta draw the line somewhere.
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Noodleface
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I thought my house was bad and I went to a hoarders house last night. On the plus side he only had 5 cats. Place was disgusting as fuck.
My house is spotless in comparison.
My house is spotless in comparison.
What in the hell were you doing at a hoarders house? i was under the impression the most hoarders aren't very welcoming to visitors due to embarassment. Then again, most people arent that shameful these days.
Noodleface
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One of our band mates has a home studio and we used it to practice last night. Sounded incredible. Saying it's a hoarder house is slightly unfair, but all surfaces piled with junk, dirty pots in sink and on oven, cat shit everywhere, trash on floor. And the one real sign of a hoarder in the making.. Inside his oven was just regular stuff being stored there.
Cad
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It sounds like first world problems but I would love it if my wife would stop and only clean like every 3rd day or some shit. She'll come home and like pick fuzz out of the rugs and sweep and dust and wipe all the appliances daily. House is fucking spotless, I don't even like letting my kids have people over because they'll touch something and she'll flip and clean everything when she gets home.
I can go turn her knick-knacks that nobody ever touches about 10 degrees off center and she'll notice on her first pass. She's a little insane.
ZyyzYzzy
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Itlan
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Is he Spanish? Because this is normal in any Spanish home. Pots, pans, etc. always in the oven.
There were also always sewing supplies in these:
trex
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For starters I could not sleep 14 hours for one night a month even if I wanted to. Hell, if I have 6 hours uninterrupted I'm that emoji with hearts for eyes. I have two enormous responsibilities who cant even sort of take care of themselves...I cant slack on my job or one of my kids could end up dead.
Were legally bound. You do all realize that's what being married is, right? Im pretty surprised to hear that some people would consider their wife a mooch if she stayed home and took care of the kids...lets look at this logically, k? Right now, with no further schooling, I could make about $50,000/yr before taxes. What is daycare for 2 kids? $900/kid/mo? That's $21,600/yr-- can't you pay daycare pretax? So now, if I dont have to pay taxes on my daycare money I'm making $28,400/year! That means I now make $13.65/hour before takes...so someone else can watch my kids. That's below minimum wage in Seattle. We have some friends who have two working parents and their lives seem so hectic with two in daycare. They hang out with their kids for like one hour in the evening before it's time to get the kids ready for bed. And that time is spent trying to get the kids to eat their dinner...it's just not for us. Plus, like I said, we're having more. If you have one kid and want to pay $72,000 just to get your kid to K and not lose your spot at your job, be my guest. This guy who thinks his wife can take one year off/kid and then waltz back into work is fucking insane.
and as far as the homeschooling goes, we're only homeschooling if the kids are in private sports. We think that elementry school is made for working parents...if the kids time can be better spent with activities than school's 4+ hours of busy work then we'll be doing that. They're not going to be at home all day and they will certainly still be socalizing. And still have time to squeeze in extra music and art lessons that will likely be all but eliminated from public schools once our kids are there. They're socalizing now...we have at least one outing with other SAHMs and kids/day and host at least one playdate/week.
If the kids have 2 left feet and/or are mongaloids, we'll send them to school and I'll volunteer.
Aldarion
dont feel bad. At least someone who truly cares about them and who they turn out to be is watching them. When we go to parks sometimes the daycare kids are acting like brats and the workers don't give a shit. If my kid is being a dick to some other kid, my kids going to be in trouble.
Noodleface
maybe if your wife didnt work 3 nights a week shed have the energy to let your kid grow up in a clean house? You say he's home 24/7 with one of you? In filth? Tisk tisk... And for what? So you can drive a Highlander instead of a Rav4?You say that now but they won't always be this age.
You keep bringing up "so somebody else can watch my kids" like this is some kind of bad thing. This isn't against you when I say this. Kids should be taught by professionals. Kids should be socializing with other kids and not their mother that doesn't leave the house because they need to be home schooled. If your time is wasted "trying" to get your kid to eat dinner you probably don't need to have more kids. Not saying that's you, I saw that is a friend. Don't want to eat kid? Okay go to bed since it's bed time. Tomorrow let me know if you are hungry. Parenting done.
If you don't let them have 4 hours of busy work what the hell are they going to do when they get a job, a career, that has 8 hours of busy work? Just because you don't love it doesn't mean it's busy work. It has a purpose. The term busy work is being abused by you. Busy work is stuff that doesn't really need to get done, it's there to occupy time. Maybe Oregon is vastly different but I have monitored my kids school work and they don't have that much busy work. They get done with their school work early in class or at home and they move on to something they enjoy more.
What kind of private sports preclude your kids from going to school? News flash, private sports are usually with kids that go to school and the practices won't interfere. I have had a kid in private sports. All the kids that went to the one school hung out and shunned the 2 or 3 that didn't go to that school. Have you played sports? Private sports?
Even better the kids will be made fun of because their mommy can't cut the apron strings? That might be worse than home schooling. If you do go that route don't volunteer in their class.
All day care kids are brats in your eyes because that's the way you choose to see the world. Why don't you try a single day a week with your kid in some kind of managed care. See how productive your life will be. See how much happier your kids might be. If you let them be brats they will be brats to their nanny or at daycare or at school. If you don't let them be brats with you and you pick good child care providers they won't be brats there either. That behavior starts at home, not in daycare.
How little you know of his situation or really anyone else's. Mind boggling.
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