Marriage and the Power of Divorce
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I work 40 hours a week but I do it as shift work.
2 days on, 2 days off, 3 days on, 2 days off, 2 days on, 3 days off
My wife works 24 hour shifts and has to do one weekend a month.
We see our kids probably more than Trex because we have found jobs that we like the rotation of. If we want to pull them out of school for an extra day on a long weekend to drive up to New York and go see Cats over the weekend we just do it.
2 days on, 2 days off, 3 days on, 2 days off, 2 days on, 3 days off
My wife works 24 hour shifts and has to do one weekend a month.
We see our kids probably more than Trex because we have found jobs that we like the rotation of. If we want to pull them out of school for an extra day on a long weekend to drive up to New York and go see Cats over the weekend we just do it.
How could you possibly see your kids more than trex? Homeschooling in a closet has to max face time.
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Noodleface
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So he doesn't have to live in a closet.For starters I could not sleep 14 hours for one night a month even if I wanted to. Hell, if I have 6 hours uninterrupted I'm that emoji with hearts for eyes. I have two enormous responsibilities who cant even sort of take care of themselves...I cant slack on my job or one of my kids could end up dead.
Were legally bound. You do all realize that's what being married is, right? Im pretty surprised to hear that some people would consider their wife a mooch if she stayed home and took care of the kids...lets look at this logically, k? Right now, with no further schooling, I could make about $50,000/yr before taxes. What is daycare for 2 kids? $900/kid/mo? That's $21,600/yr-- can't you pay daycare pretax? So now, if I dont have to pay taxes on my daycare money I'm making $28,400/year! That means I now make $13.65/hour before takes...so someone else can watch my kids. That's below minimum wage in Seattle. We have some friends who have two working parents and their lives seem so hectic with two in daycare. They hang out with their kids for like one hour in the evening before it's time to get the kids ready for bed. And that time is spent trying to get the kids to eat their dinner...it's just not for us. Plus, like I said, we're having more. If you have one kid and want to pay $72,000 just to get your kid to K and not lose your spot at your job, be my guest. This guy who thinks his wife can take one year off/kid and then waltz back into work is fucking insane.
and as far as the homeschooling goes, we're only homeschooling if the kids are in private sports. We think that elementry school is made for working parents...if the kids time can be better spent with activities than school's 4+ hours of busy work then we'll be doing that. They're not going to be at home all day and they will certainly still be socalizing. And still have time to squeeze in extra music and art lessons that will likely be all but eliminated from public schools once our kids are there. They're socalizing now...we have at least one outing with other SAHMs and kids/day and host at least one playdate/week.
If the kids have 2 left feet and/or are mongaloids, we'll send them to school and I'll volunteer.
@Aldarion dont feel bad. At least someone who truly cares about them and who they turn out to be is watching them. When we go to parks sometimes the daycare kids are acting like brats and the workers don't give a shit. If my kid is being a dick to some other kid, my kids going to be in trouble.
Noodleface maybe if your wife didnt work 3 nights a week shed have the energy to let your kid grow up in a clean house? You say he's home 24/7 with one of you? In filth? Tisk tisk... And for what? So you can drive a Highlander instead of a Rav4?
I told her to quit her job. She makes no money there, she does it to get out if the house I'm sure.
Also our house isnt filthy, it's cluttered.
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Stay at home moms. Talking about how hard their "job" is more than any other professional on earth.
They can't even just call themselves a parent because then they realize they are the same as everyone else minus a job. I'd like to see other women start doing that.
"I'm a corporate finance mom"
"I'm a chemical engineer mom"
Suddenly "Stay at home mom" sounds exactly like what it actually is. Lazy.
They can't even just call themselves a parent because then they realize they are the same as everyone else minus a job. I'd like to see other women start doing that.
"I'm a corporate finance mom"
"I'm a chemical engineer mom"
Suddenly "Stay at home mom" sounds exactly like what it actually is. Lazy.
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Koushirou
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The whole "time with kids" keeps coming up, but I mean shouldn't the quality of what you do with your kids matter more? Whole lot of parents spend a whole lot of time beating the shit out of their kids and controlling their lives. Guess they got better parenting than someone with two working parents. Also, this whole idea of kids that get "raised" by someone else turn shitty is bullshit. That shit starts with the parents. What you instill in them is what they'll take out into the world with them. Most people are just lazy or don't care and fuck it up.
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were having more kids, a_skeleton_03. ill probably have 12 years total/straight of not getting good sleep.
i danced @a_skeleton_03 and i missed SO much school for it. half of the kids i danced with were homeschooled. i would have been a lot less stressed out if i wasnt constantly shuttled from one activity to the next, constantly doing makeup work, etc. i wasnt even really friends with school kids until i was in late jr high/early high school. the girls i danced with are the only ones i'm still in touch with. my cousins swim and they miss 4+ days of school a month. they have lots of homeschooled kids in the club and their club has 3 practice times a day. the kids can go to all or none of them.
you really have no idea what your talking about. i never had to take a pe class and had a "study hall" as 7th period from 6th grade on so i could leave school 2 periods early to get to dance.
for the 100th time, i dont care if you have someone else raise your kids. all i said is its not for us and im surprised by the number of people who are still having old school sized families with 2 working parents. i think a lot
of people have that biological urge to procreate and dont really think about the kids whole life. my mom never knew what was going on with school, could only make it to half of my in town dance things and was in her own world.
yeah, 4 hours of busy work is very important if you have kids in the traditional school route. you could also have kids that have true reasons to be busy. just a thought. i definitely think the latter will give you a more diciplined, harder working kid, but whatever. youre not killing my dog sending you kids to public school. its not the homework thats busy work, its being at school for 6 hours when they could learn what they need to know in less time.
tons of kids around here are homeschooled. there are tons of gettogethers.
im not saying all daycare kids are brats. im saying daycare kids CAN BE brats and the teachers never seem to care as much as i think they should. theyre doing their job, the kids are safe, but i can gaurentee that if the kids parents were there the child would a. be acting differently or b. be disciplined for acting out.
i danced @a_skeleton_03 and i missed SO much school for it. half of the kids i danced with were homeschooled. i would have been a lot less stressed out if i wasnt constantly shuttled from one activity to the next, constantly doing makeup work, etc. i wasnt even really friends with school kids until i was in late jr high/early high school. the girls i danced with are the only ones i'm still in touch with. my cousins swim and they miss 4+ days of school a month. they have lots of homeschooled kids in the club and their club has 3 practice times a day. the kids can go to all or none of them.
you really have no idea what your talking about. i never had to take a pe class and had a "study hall" as 7th period from 6th grade on so i could leave school 2 periods early to get to dance.
for the 100th time, i dont care if you have someone else raise your kids. all i said is its not for us and im surprised by the number of people who are still having old school sized families with 2 working parents. i think a lot
of people have that biological urge to procreate and dont really think about the kids whole life. my mom never knew what was going on with school, could only make it to half of my in town dance things and was in her own world.
yeah, 4 hours of busy work is very important if you have kids in the traditional school route. you could also have kids that have true reasons to be busy. just a thought. i definitely think the latter will give you a more diciplined, harder working kid, but whatever. youre not killing my dog sending you kids to public school. its not the homework thats busy work, its being at school for 6 hours when they could learn what they need to know in less time.
tons of kids around here are homeschooled. there are tons of gettogethers.
im not saying all daycare kids are brats. im saying daycare kids CAN BE brats and the teachers never seem to care as much as i think they should. theyre doing their job, the kids are safe, but i can gaurentee that if the kids parents were there the child would a. be acting differently or b. be disciplined for acting out.
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This whole fallacy of someone else raising your kids doing a worse job is asinine anyway... there's someone watching my kid right now and she's been sitting on the floor playing ball with him for the last fucking hour, talking to him, getting him to read. They're going to the park later, he has like 20 little friends that meet every day. It's fucking great. I go sometimes. Mostly not.
But the nanny pays attention to him like a distracted 24/7 parent never would..because it's her job! She will sit there and teach him letters and words for 3 hours straight because I tell her to. Try telling your wife to do ANYTHING. *cat claws noise*
Then when she's off we sit there and do the same thing and do the parent time, he sleeps with us mostly and he's my mini-me on the weekends.
But yes it is horrible to have a professional teacher teaching your kids things as if it's their job. They're totally being corrupted by those "other" people.
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I would rather my kids spend 4 hours of busy work at school a day (mine don't have any busy work) and be able to handle real life with other adults someday than to take them out of school just to be a hipster.
You are talking to somebody home schooled .... but hey you know better. Go about your life, make fun of people that procreate too much yet start working on your third kid before you even have a plan locked down for your first two. You got this.
You are talking to somebody home schooled .... but hey you know better. Go about your life, make fun of people that procreate too much yet start working on your third kid before you even have a plan locked down for your first two. You got this.
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