Marriage and the Power of Divorce

McCheese said:

So, called her and talked for about an hour. Here's a summary:
- She said she's going to the doctor to check on her libido and see what she can do about that.
- She said that she's been feeling a lack of closeness with me over the last few months. This made me go wtf, because I have made efforts to be physical with her, such as putting my arm around her when we are watching TV, or put my hand on her leg when we're sitting in bed...stuff like that.
- She also said she wishes we had been spending more time together. I pointed out that on numerous occasions I have suggested spending time together, but she didn't want to because she preferred to do something with her family, or she had some TV shows on that she wanted to watch. On the other hand, in the 3 years we've been together, I have NEVER said "No thanks" if she asked about spending time together (unless I physically couldn't because of work or something like that).
- Ultimately it came back to kids. She said a few times that she didn't understand how kids can outweigh everything else that we have. I think this is the key, because if she thinks like that, I'm pretty sure that's a telltale sign that she doesn't have any true desire for kids. I think only someone who doesn't feel a desire for kids could brush them aside so easily.
- The real kicker is that for the first time in our 3-year relationship she FINALLY said the words "I love you" to me, and it was the last thing she said before we hung up. Probably the last words I'll hear from her.
She really, really didn't want things to end, but I just can't take the chance of continuing the relationship and waiting for the super slight chance she might want kids in the future. If she doesn't, I'd be bitter and resentful, and that isn't fair to either of us.
Sucks

*Edit* Two reasons I called instead of meeting: 1) it's a pretty long drive to her, like 50 minutes with traffic. 2) I didn't want to get sucked back in in a moment of weakness. I'm glad it was over the phone, cause she started crying and I probably would have broken if I had been there.

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