Marriage and the Power of Divorce
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Mrs. Gravy
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He is my friend, he was not well known to G and the wife not to me. Regardless, I advised him to figure out why he was pursuing me and to maybe do a SWOT analysis...and to get counseling if she would agree to go to a mutually agreed upon counselor. She is a very intelligent and hard working woman and I am certain she has more good points but she has a terrible attitude in general and is unhappy no matter what a it seems. He can't fix that, only she can.
I hope it gets better for both of them.
As for me, I have a dinner date this Wed.
I hope it gets better for both of them.
As for me, I have a dinner date this Wed.
TrollfaceDeux
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Cutlery
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My thoughts may be biased, but they're fucking awesome.
As one of the few who have been in this situation, theres nothing inherently wrong with it. Adults can make adult choices. You actually have the easy half of this...you're not cheating on anyone, so your conscience can be clear. It's not your fault, nor for you to decide whether someone else cheats on their spouse or not. That's on them. Grown ups can make grown up decisions.
Now, as far as making intelligent grown up decisions go, you only need to keep yourself grounded in the situation. He's not going to leave his wife for you. If you're planning on him doing that, it's only going to end up in disappointment.
As long as you can keep your crazy from running away with the rest of you, it can work out just fine, you can have some fun times, and then go back to your life when it's over. I thoroughly enjoy the situation every time a new woman walks into my life, whether it lasts a month or a year. It's not going to be forever because it CAN'T be forever. One or both of you have previous commitments to other people, and you shouldn't expect someone to drop those for you. As long as you can keep that situation straight in your head, then go for it and have fun.
The troubles start when you start thinking in terms of traditional relationships. You're not going to meet his parents. You're probably not going to be sleeping over. You're not going to do errands, or go to holiday parties together, you're not going to move in and you're not going to grow old together. If you're okay with that, then go have fun. What are a few fucks between friends?
Like I said, you're in the easy half of this. He's got the hard part deciding whether or not to tell his wife about it and make an open relationship or just keep it under the rug. That's a different post, though.
Just don't let the crazy run away with you (friends are good for helping with this), and it's A-OK.
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He is my friend, he was not well known to G and the wife not to me. Regardless, I advised him to figure out why he was pursuing me and to maybe do a SWOT analysis...and to get counseling if she would agree to go to a mutually agreed upon counselor. She is a very intelligent and hard working woman and I am certain she has more good points but she has a terrible attitude in general and is unhappy no matter what a it seems. He can't fix that, only she can.
I hope it gets better for both of them.
As for me, I have a dinner date this Wed.
ya did good
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Noodleface
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Update on my sister
Yesterday her boyfriend got up, drove to work, and totalled his car swerving out of the way of a cat in the road. That's the official story. Couple problems.. he doesn't work Sundays, he claimed he had one of those panicked moments where you wake up and are late for work and he just drove in. His car was brand new and the loan didn't fit into his plan for moving south (getting a new truck). She said she wasn't sure if it was actually totalled but hoped it was so that the car will be paid off.
I didn't want to be the guy to say it to her, but to me it almost sounded like insurance scam or whatever to get gap to pay off the loan.
Feel like I'm in crazy town.
Yesterday her boyfriend got up, drove to work, and totalled his car swerving out of the way of a cat in the road. That's the official story. Couple problems.. he doesn't work Sundays, he claimed he had one of those panicked moments where you wake up and are late for work and he just drove in. His car was brand new and the loan didn't fit into his plan for moving south (getting a new truck). She said she wasn't sure if it was actually totalled but hoped it was so that the car will be paid off.
I didn't want to be the guy to say it to her, but to me it almost sounded like insurance scam or whatever to get gap to pay off the loan.
Feel like I'm in crazy town.
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chaos
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Between Mrs. Gravy's erotic adventures and your sister's WIC recipient origin story, the only thing that could make this thread better is lurkingdirk's wife writing foh on his tits and posting pics. Bonus points if he has like a mediterranean body hair issue.
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Soygen
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Kirun
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This seems far more relevant for the, "Siblings and the Power of Insurance Scams" thread.
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Noodleface
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Noodleface
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What's the ramifications of what they're doing? If they say it was an accident I don't know what can actually happen
I assume his insurance will take a major hit and they'll cover the cost of the car so he can buy his truck
I assume his insurance will take a major hit and they'll cover the cost of the car so he can buy his truck
Cad
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I guess one ramification could be dying in an intentional accident. Unless the insurance has some way of knowing that he crashed intentionally it seems to me they'll just cover the accident. But if they did know, insurance fraud is a felony in most jurisdictions.
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Yeah I guess I was really asking how they could even be caught. I guess at this point just by running their mouths