Marriage and the Power of Divorce
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Your wife fucking up means you made a mistake trusting her. So getting mad at the other guy, whom you had no idea about, lessens blame on your wife and yourself. I don't think anyone thinks this explicitly, it's likely very much subconscious. But it's definitely in the thought process when people stay in bad relationships.
Tarrant
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I suppose, but the blame still lay with he, imo. Like I said, the other guy wasn't fully innocent either but I never thought of him as a home wrecker. I thought of my then wife as the homewrecker because she was the one who I shared a home with and the one who made the decision to wreck it.
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Oh, I'm not saying it's right one way or the other. Just how the human mind works. There's another human(the other guy in this case) involved, so if that person hadn't made choices X, Y, Z, this terrible thing wouldn't have happened! Otherwise, they have accept all the introspective baggage that comes along with trusting someone and having that broken.
Cad
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It's not an either/or situation. Your wife can be shitty for breaking your trust and the other person can be shitty for doing what they did, just the same. I don't think a lot of the blame is on the third person, but they are by no means innocent.
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Of course, I'm not trying to absolve the third party by any means. People might attack the third party for the wrong reasons, though, instead of looking at themselves and their own relationship first.
I guess I'm kinda repeating what was already said. I think I was trying to point out that people like to attack the third party because it feels like it might absolve themselves from having made a mistake? idk
I guess I'm kinda repeating what was already said. I think I was trying to point out that people like to attack the third party because it feels like it might absolve themselves from having made a mistake? idk
iannis
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Pretty much.
I get a free car every two years doing this. I've only broken my leg twice.
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Mrs. Gravy
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Ya know what I like? I like that a blip of a dilemma from me, that has already been resolved, has prompted so much intercourse.
For those of you who have English as a second language, the word intercourse has more than one meaning...in this use, for instance it means an exchange of thoughts.
(TBH, I used it on purpose because it made me giggle.... I am an odd chick.)
For those of you who have English as a second language, the word intercourse has more than one meaning...in this use, for instance it means an exchange of thoughts.
(TBH, I used it on purpose because it made me giggle.... I am an odd chick.)
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Noodleface
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It's a healthy discussion at least. That's how we work Mrs g
When the onoes fiasco happened.... We still bring it up like 3 years later..
A fucking Jurassic Park truck... For Christ's sake
When the onoes fiasco happened.... We still bring it up like 3 years later..
A fucking Jurassic Park truck... For Christ's sake
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ZyyzYzzy
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