Marriage and the Power of Divorce

I can't imagine having sex with a woman twice and not even trying. That's like using your body as a dumpster. Or mouth or butt or wherever he finished

Mrs. Gravy said:

Mrs. G dilemma:
New man...1st encounter, overnight his place...him...my view...slightly selfish as in, he came twice; me not...I mean the journey was fun, but I would occasionally like to reach the destination...
He has eye bolts placed in reinforced framing in the 4 corners of his bed...alludes to some kink but doesn't tell me what it is....says he likes "mean" women...has never had a woman take care of him in any way and doesn't know how to act when she does even with just a body massage which the giving of is a skill I possess.

I like to be manhandled sometime, as in pull my hair and smack my ass as hard as you want...but also...turnabout when I want to be completely in charge.
I am not well practiced in "mean"...but he pushes my buttons. WTF...where do I start? I think I may enjoy dominant role...but I am here for suggestions in how to channel my frustration into outcomes.

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Time to buy a strap on and google pegging.

Mrs. Gravy I would start with watching some videos on Dommes, to get a feel for what they do. But ultimately you need to find out what he really likes in this regard, because if you go a little too far it might scare him.

Also, I never understood guys that don't get the woman off. Yeah, there are times when its just a quickie or something, but I feel it is of the utmost importance to make sure my woman is sexually satisfied.

Don't know if this is the right place but I have a problem:

I'm in a long term relationship for two years and we have been living together for a year. We haven't had sex for 6 months and it was infrequent before that. She has a few genuine health problems that cause occasional back pain/migranes/hormone changes and stress with her college course, I've tried to be understanding about that but I'm not a saint. I either get a preemptive "ouch my stomach" or nothing back when I try to initiate anything. I know it's not always made up, I had to take her to hospital once and she has two sets of medication. Recently she has appeared to be in good health though and just has college stress.

I thought I'd found my soul mate and we built a nice life together but we are arguing more now because of this. She doesn't know, I haven't talked to her about this at all, I don't know what her take on why we aren't getting on is.

I have almost zero relationship experience other than this, I was typical social anxiety virgin nerd type. My last (short) relationship the same thing happened and it ended very quickly because we didn't love each other. I have no clue how to approach this.

Mrs. Gravy said:

He reinforced his bed to add eye bolts for "detaining"...wtf could I do that would scare him?

and, yeah...at least man with baggage and no future for me cared about my satisfaction.
Fuck...
OH, anD another man sent me drunk unsolicited dick pics ..wtf

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If you hint vaguely nicely Noodle will sent you a barrage of dick pics.

Chris said:

Don't know if this is the right place but I have a problem:

I'm in a long term relationship for two years and we have been living together for a year. We haven't had sex for 6 months and it was infrequent before that. She has a few genuine health problems that cause occasional back pain/migranes/hormone changes and stress with her college course, I've tried to be understanding about that but I'm not a saint. I either get a preemptive "ouch my stomach" or nothing back when I try to initiate anything. I know it's not always made up, I had to take her to hospital once and she has two sets of medication. Recently she has appeared to be in good health though and just has college stress.

I thought I'd found my soul mate and we built a nice life together but we are arguing more now because of this. She doesn't know, I haven't talked to her about this at all, I don't know what her take on why we aren't getting on is.

I have almost zero relationship experience other than this, I was typical social anxiety virgin nerd type. My last (short) relationship the same thing happened and it ended very quickly because we didn't love each other. I have no clue how to approach this.

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Ask for hand/blowjobs until she is healthy enough for sex. If she refuses move on. You're only young once, don't waste it on someone who is broken like that. If she cares about you at all she will want to help you out as much as you help her out.

Mrs. Gravy said:

Oh, my.

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He has poor impulse control, and a smart phone. And it's only on the internet.

Mrs. Gravy said:

G and I had healthy experimental sex...albeit many moons ago. I am not averse to an array, but fuck, if I want to make myself cum, I will just stay home.

Going to use G's phone for Google and porn hub now...

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Well. See us in a few months.

Oooh oooh. Google "milk enema". That was a thing for a while.

Also "facesitting" and "cfnm" and "cbt". I think those eyehooks are for him.

Mrs. Gravy said:

Hahahahahaha
How many times can I say how much I love it here. Humor, unvarnished opinions...it's quite the comfy den.

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The best part if we don't need to text. My actual dick pics are somewhere on this forum.

Chris said:

Don't know if this is the right place but I have a problem:

I'm in a long term relationship for two years and we have been living together for a year. We haven't had sex for 6 months and it was infrequent before that. She has a few genuine health problems that cause occasional back pain/migranes/hormone changes and stress with her college course, I've tried to be understanding about that but I'm not a saint. I either get a preemptive "ouch my stomach" or nothing back when I try to initiate anything. I know it's not always made up, I had to take her to hospital once and she has two sets of medication. Recently she has appeared to be in good health though and just has college stress.

I thought I'd found my soul mate and we built a nice life together but we are arguing more now because of this. She doesn't know, I haven't talked to her about this at all, I don't know what her take on why we aren't getting on is.

I have almost zero relationship experience other than this, I was typical social anxiety virgin nerd type. My last (short) relationship the same thing happened and it ended very quickly because we didn't love each other. I have no clue how to approach this.

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Well here's the thing. You have to talk to her about it, there's no other way. Silence will build up resentment and your relationship will suffer or end.

If it's truly medical, like no BS straight up she does not feel good a lot then you need to decide if that's something you can live with. This is the type of thing that will just fester and lead to break ups and divorce. Some people can handle someone with a condition like that and some people aren't ready for it.

If it's something else, you both have to have a real sit down about it. Some women get into this mode where they figure they've got the man on the hook now and are content. Some don't even realize they do it, they just focus on their own sexual desires which may be minimal compared to your drive. If not that, then what?

The key is you need to talk to her about it.

Anecdote from me. When my wife was planning our wedding I was basically getting 0 sex. Probably as long as you if not more. It drove me insane. People here told me to talk to her about it because I was considering shutting the whole thing down over it. She came to terms with the fact that while she got caught up and basically forgot about sex, i was sitting there wondering who I was marrying. We've never had the 2 times a day everyday thing like other guys here constantly post about, but our sex life is pretty healthy.

I say this but I haven't had sex in 6 months, at least not piv. I want to strangle her doctor.

Deathwing said:

Like in a couple years when she becomes a successful doctor but you meet this cute chick in your college class that's TOTALLY into you.

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He told me he doesn't post here because he doesn't want to explain this hahahab