Marriage and the Power of Divorce

So after reading all of your opinions on the situation this morning, you've given me a different perspective. I've known that I haven't been pulling my weight, financially, but at the very least, I am an excellent father. My wife has told me as much. Anyway, I have a few interviews today and tomorrow, which is good.

My wife had work last night. She's a nurse that works three 12-hour shifts from 7p-7a every week. I got my daughter to bed at a very reasonable hour last night (7:30p) because we were up until almost 11p the day before for 4th of July fun. She slept until 8a when I finally woke her up. The day started good enough. I made eggs for breakfast. I'm a master at breakfast, so I CAN cook. It's just that I don't have the finesse to make things always taste as good as my wife does. She inherently knows which seasonings to put in things, where as I need to read the instructions over and over again, and even then, things are acceptable but not great. As such, I don't really try with anything except breakfast. Maybe I should.

Anyway, after breakfast, my wife arrived home from work. I had made her eggs as well, so she ate them before taking a shower. I took my daughter to school and then went in to town because I needed gas. I got home around an hour after dropping her off, and to my surprise, my wife was still awake. She was sad. A few tears here and there, but holding a tissue. My first thought was "Oh no, something happened to her grandfather." Mainly because when we talked yesterday, she didn't cry. It was very matter of fact. And her grandfather is getting very old, and has been in and out of hospitals a lot lately. He's 92. But she said she was thinking about Natsumi and I all night, and she was really sad that she wanted to end it. She said that she did love me, and sees that I am trying, but she's under a lot of stress. I told her that I had made this post on the message board trying to detail the entire story of our lives together. The community here had given me a change of opinion, while also reinforcing the opinion that I was a piece of shit (in so many words). I told her that no matter what happens, I want her to be happy. Well, and our daughter also. And if mom's happiness comes with me not being around, that is what it is. I will accept it without a fight and get a job doing Resident Management where they provide me with a free place to live on premise of whatever building I would be taking care of.

She cried a bit more, and said that she no longer wants a divorce. I'm also in tears at this point. She wants to keep having all of the happy family moments that we always have, just wants more of them. Less computer/TV time, and more board games/family togetherness time. We don't even have any board games here, so I need to pick some up. She said that she still loves me, and it might be the pregnancy that is causing these emotions, and that she is unsure of herself because of it. But I've always been her strength.

We kissed, and she went to bed. It was a long night at work, and she is exhausted. I'm looking forward to my interviews today.

Hooray! Trollface saved the marriage

Picasso3 said:

Hooray! Trollface saved the marriage

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Plot twist!

Cad said:

Why not rent a place for a while until you find the perfect place?

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Well, my place up here is a rented place.

The complication comes from our animals, specifically our birds and chickens...Can't have those in an apt.

Not for nothing, but I put a lot more weight on what MG says than anyone else in this thread. She at least puts out the female perspective. As guys, the rest of us always miss shit that female insight picks up on.

In regards to both Cad and MG, yes. I DO have Multiple Sclerosis. I also have Rheumatoid Arthritis. (won the unlucky lottery there). Back in PA, they were terrible, but all of my symptoms are virtually non-existent out here. My neurologist back in PA said that might be the case before I moved down here, because being closer to the equator has major beneficial effects on problems such as mine. Even going from PA down to Florida or Texas is helpful. He has patients that have crippling diseases that have moved to Texas and are doing fantastic. And there's almost zero chance that the children will ever develop MS as a result. Hawaii is just a little more so. I'm actually on the same latitude as the middle of Cuba. As a result, I've been off of all of my medications for both ailments for a year now, and I feel fantastic. Hawaii is great for my condition. That's another reason why I'm not interested in going back to PA full time.

Big_w_powah said:

Well, my place up here is a rented place.

The complication comes from our animals, specifically our birds and chickens...Can't have those in an apt.

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Ship the chickens to Xarpolis for practice.

Happy to be a problem solver.

And Xarpolis, good luck bro. And take a look at Serious Eats, it's a good place to learn some techniques and try some recipes used by real humans (read: not chefs). When in doubt, salt.

I picked up a book not long ago called Ratio about a month ago. It has to do with cooking, telling you the proper ratio of ingredients to use for almost any dish to have it turn out tasting decent. To be honest, I still haven't even looked at it outside of a second ago to read the cover. I'll have to make dinner tonight.

If they had 100 hours of work for me to do a week I would gladly do it. I'd be able to retire in like 2 years.

Instead I play WoW all day because they barely have 10 hours of work a week for me to do.

Xarpolis said:

... I also have Rheumatoid Arthritis. (won the unlucky lottery there). Back in PA, they were terrible, but all of my symptoms are virtually non-existent out here. My neurologist back in PA said that might be the case before I moved down here, because being closer to the equator has major beneficial effects on problems such as mine. Even going from PA down to Florida or Texas is helpful. He has patients that have crippling diseases that have moved to Texas and are doing fantastic. And there's almost zero chance that the children will ever develop MS as a result. Hawaii is just a little more so. I'm actually on the same latitude as the middle of Cuba. As a result, I've been off of all of my medications for both ailments for a year now, and I feel fantastic. Hawaii is great for my condition. That's another reason why I'm not interested in going back to PA full time.

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Okay..and I didn't realize that when I said move where the money is, you are literally in needing 24/7 medication for pain if you move to far north. Just keep your options open.
Watch this perhaps it will be some inspiration.

One thing that bothered me - at this point no job should be beneath you.

Additionally If you ever need a resume critique you can take out your name and people can look at it here.