I haven't been in this thread in months. I should preface this by saying I'll have been married 10 years in August. But Onoes' new chick sounds like this girl I work with.
This girl is 25 years old, single mom, and has a 4 year old. She ended up dating a guy we work with about 2 years ago (around when I started here). Turns out that he fucked around on her with another girl we work with, who apparently was really good friends with both of them. I didn't start talking to this chick until about October of 2013.
She's absolutely nuts.
- She stopped "dating" the coworker around the time I started talking to her, but she'd fuck him probably once a week.
- Every single day she'd bitch about what an asshole he was. He "didn't care about her" and "treated her like shit."
- She would get upset when the two coworkersparkednext to each other.
- She'd constantly complain that he was fucking women in other cities, and even in town. She was a total hypocrite though, as she even admitted to me to sleeping withfourguys in the same week (raw with all of them, by the way).
- Claims that the entire office is against her due to everyone taking the other girl's side.
- She'd always claim that management hated her. Really, there was a vast amount of paranoia with her.
He was (and probably is) a piece of shit to her. Apparently during the Super Bowl in 2013 (he's a Niners fan) he got incredibly drunk and beat the shit out of her (I think he may have tried to choke her too). She was naked (I'm not sure why) and he basically kicked her out of the house and locked her outside. She ended up going to his neighbors who called the cops. I'm assuming she just didn't press charges, but he was arrested and I guess management found out about it and made him go to counseling of some sort.
About 2 months ago I snapped and told her I couldn't deal with her bitching about him anymore and that topic was now off limits. She got super upset about how insensitive I was. At this point I didn't really want to talk to her ever again, but I could tell how nuts she was and it worried me that she'd either retaliate towards my wife, or try to get me fired somehow. She kind of mellowed out, but after 2 more weeks or so she was back to bitching about him (while still sleeping with him).
At the beginning of May, I told her she was fucking crazy and I couldn't talk to her anymore. She flipped the fuck out. She said some pretty messed up shit which I basically ignored (like, I didn't respond at all). But then she told me she hoped I died, and I was kind of forced to respond. I think she realized she overstepped the crazy a bit when I said death threats were out of line. We didn't talk for a few days, but then she texts me saying "Seriously? That's low, especially for you. Karma is a bitch!" I had no idea what she was talking about, but she claimed I told people in the workplace something I had promised not to (I'm assuming the Super Bowl incident). I hadn't actually said anything about her to anyone. In fact, I hadn't told anyone we even talked because no one really gets along with her and I didn't want that rubbing off on me. She dropped it by the end of the day and I haven't heard anything about it since. I'm starting to think she just made it up because she enjoys the drama.
Either way, it reminded me a bit about this chick Onoes is dealing with. The biggest thing she'd always say about him is how she didn't understand why he didn't love her like she did him. Despite the abuse and cheating, she just couldn't figure it out. And it's been going on for
years. Granted, it's partially his fault for still fucking her. But she also did the same thing with me. She wanted to know how I could throw our friendship away so quickly. She needed an answer, and apparently her wishing me dead wasn't a good one. I'm really hoping she finds a new job soon just so I never have to worry about this psycho again.
The best thing though, for me, is that it's made me appreciate my wife on a whole different level. My wife is one of the most grounded women I've ever known. This situation has made me want to work on making my marriage work as much as possible just because I don't ever want to have to deal with anyone half as crazy as this girl.