Marriage and the Power of Divorce

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alavaz

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Khane said:
If I go on a couple of dates with a woman who admits to having it and showing symptoms from time to time that is going to be the end of it for me. It's not like I'm looking to get married and if I am now a carrier, and test positive, that is something I will have to tell every woman I date in the future. I will not be dishonest about something like that, and it would make dating a lot more difficult and uncomfortable. That's basically what it comes down to. Plus the random flare ups which would be bothersome.

To the HPV point, that's a virus the body can fight off. For men, the worst case scenario is warts (which could eventually become cancerous if you don't get them taken care of). It's not a lifelong commitment (heh heh).

I understand what you guys are trying to say, but I think you're maybe being a little flippant about it.
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lol "test positive," do people even get tested for that? Or do they just get a cold sore and go "oh shit, I have a cold sore." In all honestly you are the only person I've ever met who would A. break it off with an otherwise good girl over them and B. disclose it to all of your future dates if you ever got them yourself.

I feel like I have to ask now, you do know that cold sores (HSV1) and genital herpes (HSV2) are not the same thing right?
 
Koushirou

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I've got cold sores as well, probably flares up about 3 times a year or so for maybe a week. Also got it from who knows where as a kid, since I've had them for as long as I can remember. It's not something I went and busted out on first dates with folks, but it's something I disclosed when the prospect of any heavy physical contact started coming up. I'm not going to suck someone's dick without giving them a heads up on that first. That just seems like common courtesy.
 
Khane

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alavaz said:
lol "test positive," do people even get tested for that? Or do they just get a cold sore and go "oh shit, I have a cold sore." In all honestly you are the only person I've ever met who would A. break it off with an otherwise good girl over them and B. disclose it to all of your future dates if you ever got them yourself.

I feel like I have to ask now, you do know that cold sores (HSV1) and genital herpes (HSV2) are not the same thing right?
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Of course I know they are different strains. But you're acting like I'm saying I'd end my marriage over it when all I said was I'd stop dating someone I otherwise barely knew. But I don't want to risk having to explain to all my future dates that I have HSV-1. Because even if some of you don't think it's a very big deal, a lot of women would probably stop calling after that conversation.
 
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Alex

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I've never disclosed it to any date. It's honestly never on my mind because it flares up so rarely. Maybe that makes me an asshole.
 
Khane

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Well, you can pass it to the genitals via oral, even if it's unlikely. Though it seems like I'm in the minority about whether that makes you an asshole.
 
iannis

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Oh, it makes you an asshole to spread herpes.

Lotta assholes in the world that tell themselves you probably already had it anyway.
 
alavaz

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I mean hopefully you're not motor boating genitals with a big ol lip sore. The rest of the time I doubt anyone is thinking about it.
 
Khane

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You can spread it even when not showing symptoms, even if unlikely. Seems disingenuous to me though, to claim it's not really a big deal but to still keep it a secret from the people you're dating. Why not tell them if it's no biggie? Surely they won't care.
 
Alex

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I'll make sure to go back and share the info with every person I've ever shared a joint with, tried each other's beer or cocktail, drank from a bottle of water. Or I'll just ostracize myself entirely. Sounds way easier.
 
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Khane

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Alex said:
I'll make sure to go back and share the info with every person I've ever shared a joint with, tried each other's beer or cocktail, drank from a bottle of water. Or I'll just ostracize myself entirely. Sounds way easier.
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The chances of spreading it via bottle sharing are incredibly remote. Spreading it from direct contact, or spreading it to their genitals is an entirely different story. Let's not pretend they are even close to the same thing.

I get it, it's an uncomfortable conversation to have and chances are the person won't be receptive. The truth of HSV-1 is that it's an annoyance, but the perception is entirely different and that's the rub.
 
Cad

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Khane said:
The truth of HSV-1 is that it's an annoyance, but the perception is entirely different and that's the rub.
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Almost like it’s over stigmatized, I wonder if anyone said that at the beginning of this stupid ass derail.
 
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Amod Amod please rename thread to Marriage and the Power of Poz Loads.
 
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Nobody answer him. I don't want to know!
 
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