Marriage and the Power of Divorce

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Borzak said:
My long time girlfriend of over 20 years and now my ex girlfriend
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Am I reading this right and you broke up with her over this marriage thing? Or did your long time girlfriend AND a random ex girlfriend both suddenly propose to you? Cause if it's the first one, you a big dummy. If it's the second one, you're right to be spooked.
 
Vanderhoof

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He has to go sleep on his buddy's couch for a month every 8 years so they don't get common law married.
 
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Borzak

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One person. We lived on an off together for years and had an "agreement" to get married. I was scared to death of her father. He's a "land man" which in the part of the world he lives is a nice name of someone who screws people out of timber or mineral rights. She worked for him for a while and agrees with this.

Anyway I'll think about it. Getting expensive now. She flies in from Austin to New Orleans and comes up here an hour away on aa bi weekly or weekly basis.

The biggest downer would not be getting married. But she works at the university of Texas and lives in Austin. She works for a company that organizes and shows things the library has and goes out around on display to other areas and libraries and such. She owned a bookstore and Amazon killed that off. I thought I had it all figured out (famous last words) when I got a job as vp an hour and 15 minutes away. The other Vp his wife worked in austin and she commuted. They lived halfway between. Fantastic plan. Then I got sick. Neither one of us wanted kids which was a good fit. She was a student of mine while I was in grad school. Just folling advice of my major professer. Of course he was married to a woman who was his student years before.

Probably 25-40% of my post in the last 6 months she has made for me.

Serious thinking I'm not prepared for.
 
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Khane

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Are you afraid of being a burden to her or just iffy on the idea of marriage in general?
 
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Borzak said:
One person. We lived on an off together for years and had an "agreement" to get married. I was scared to death of her father. He's a "land man" which in the part of the world he lives is a nice name of someone who screws people out of timber or mineral rights. She worked for him for a while and agrees with this.

Anyway I'll think about it. Getting expensive now. She flies in from Austin to New Orleans and comes up here an hour away on aa bi weekly or weekly basis.

The biggest downer would not be getting married. But she works at the university of Texas and lives in Austin. She works for a company that organizes and shows things the library has and goes out around on display to other areas and libraries and such. She owned a bookstore and Amazon killed that off. I thought I had it all figured out (famous last words) when I got a job as vp an hour and 15 minutes away. The other Vp his wife worked in austin and she commuted. They lived halfway between. Fantastic plan. Then I got sick. Neither one of us wanted kids which was a good fit. She was a student of mine while I was in grad school. Just folling advice of my major professer. Of course he was married to a woman who was his student years before.

Probably 25-40% of my post in the last 6 months she has made for me.

Serious thinking I'm not prepared for.
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She sounds like a good mate and friend, man. I'm glad you have someone like that.
 
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Deathwing

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Wife: Person A and Person A's husband will be coming over for dinner after they get out of work.

The husband has chosen they/them for pronouns, so now I have to ask what "they" refers to in that sentence. I know what you're going to say, the conjugation on the verb should 95% of the time clear up whether "they" is referring to singular person or a group. But this is text messaging, how can I be sure I trust the person to be accurate?

It was actually a spelling error, "they" was singular in this instance and referring to just the special snowflake. I asked her why it's ok to let individuals degrade collective lingual functionality. Her responses were:

It's in the dictionary.
You asked and I clarified.



Every disagreement that involves rubbing more than two brain cells together on her part, I feel myself getting closer to divorce. I apologize for the broken record rant, I'm sure some of you are rolling your eyes me. That's fine, I deserve it.

I think part of the reason I'm reticent, aside from divorce itself being a giant undertaking, is that I feel like I'll be a worse person afterwards. I'm already pretty bitter towards 3rd-wave feminism and a divorce would only intensify that. I have an established pattern of cutting things and people out of my life that become disagreeable instead of dealing with the problem. A divorce feels like more of that same bad pattern.
 
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Deathwing said:
Wife: Person A and Person A's husband will be coming over for dinner after they get out of work.

The husband has chosen they/them for pronouns, so now I have to ask what "they" refers to in that sentence. I know what you're going to say, the conjugation on the verb should 95% of the time clear up whether "they" is referring to singular person or a group. But this is text messaging, how can I be sure I trust the person to be accurate?

It was actually a spelling error, "they" was singular in this instance and referring to just the special snowflake. I asked her why it's ok to let individuals degrade collective lingual functionality. Her responses were:

It's in the dictionary.
You asked and I clarified.



Every disagreement that involves rubbing more than two brain cells together on her part, I feel myself getting closer to divorce. I apologize for the broken record rant, I'm sure some of you are rolling your eyes me. That's fine, I deserve it.

I think part of the reason I'm reticent, aside from divorce itself being a giant undertaking, is that I feel like I'll be a worse person afterwards. I'm already pretty bitter towards 3rd-wave feminism and a divorce would only intensify that. I have an established pattern of cutting things and people out of my life that become disagreeable instead of dealing with the problem. A divorce feels like more of that same bad pattern.
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Cutting it out of your life is dealing with it
 
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Soygen

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She's inviting SJWs into your house?! Like a vampire, you never invite them in!
 
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Pemulis

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Setting aside the fact that the guy in a marriage has chosen to be plural, I just don't understand the hubris of someone who would come into your home and demand some kind of special treatment. I mean, how often are you going to refer to a guest in the third person anyway? And now that you've been made aware of this fact, you are pretty much bound to follow "their" rules or be considered insensitive. F that. It's your house. While they're there (both of them), put on a football game, drink beer, scratch your nuts, and burp loudly.
 
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Deathwing

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Soygen Soygen More like sycophants. Like, I don't truly believe they're SJWs, I don't believe my wife is, but it's popular. Under the right circumstances, I will play along too. I HAVE played along. My boss rehired an intern and put him on my team this time. Except now he's a she. Didn't look much like a she, but I made sure to use the preferred pronouns.

Pemulis Pemulis I haven't actually had an opportunity to use the "wrong" pronoun with this person yet. All the arguments of this faggot's retarded decision have been between my wife and I when referring to this person. This is the stupidest part! You rarely refer to someone in the third person while they're present, so the effects of forcing people to use preferred pronouns comes when said person isn't even present.
 
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Soygen

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I feel like anyone who declares they/them pronouns are fully blown SJW. I've never met a single person who has even told me their pronouns, let alone something stupid like they/them.
 
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Deathwing

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The two people I know that are playing the pronoun game, at least to the capacity I know them, have not come anywhere close to the caricature SJWs I've seen on the internet.

Nevermind, just finished writing that and reminded myself that one of them is the wife to the person that made the "Fuck the Patriarchy" needlepoint.
 
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chaos

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Deathwing said:
Wife: Person A and Person A's husband will be coming over for dinner after they get out of work.

The husband has chosen they/them for pronouns, so now I have to ask what "they" refers to in that sentence. I know what you're going to say, the conjugation on the verb should 95% of the time clear up whether "they" is referring to singular person or a group. But this is text messaging, how can I be sure I trust the person to be accurate?

It was actually a spelling error, "they" was singular in this instance and referring to just the special snowflake. I asked her why it's ok to let individuals degrade collective lingual functionality. Her responses were:

It's in the dictionary.
You asked and I clarified.



Every disagreement that involves rubbing more than two brain cells together on her part, I feel myself getting closer to divorce. I apologize for the broken record rant, I'm sure some of you are rolling your eyes me. That's fine, I deserve it.

I think part of the reason I'm reticent, aside from divorce itself being a giant undertaking, is that I feel like I'll be a worse person afterwards. I'm already pretty bitter towards 3rd-wave feminism and a divorce would only intensify that. I have an established pattern of cutting things and people out of my life that become disagreeable instead of dealing with the problem. A divorce feels like more of that same bad pattern.
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So, I'm sure this will be a super popular take around here, but is this really this big of a deal or are you possibly just having other issues you're pissed about and using this as an excuse/opportunity to have feelings about those other issues? You could have handled it differently, laughed it off, or just said "look I don't want to be around that stuff". Instead you're like "let me pick a fight with my wife". i mean, what was even the objective here?
 
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Deathwing said:
Wife: Person A and Person A's husband will be coming over for dinner after they get out of work.

The husband has chosen they/them for pronouns, so now I have to ask what "they" refers to in that sentence. I know what you're going to say, the conjugation on the verb should 95% of the time clear up whether "they" is referring to singular person or a group. But this is text messaging, how can I be sure I trust the person to be accurate?

It was actually a spelling error, "they" was singular in this instance and referring to just the special snowflake. I asked her why it's ok to let individuals degrade collective lingual functionality. Her responses were:

It's in the dictionary.
You asked and I clarified.



Every disagreement that involves rubbing more than two brain cells together on her part, I feel myself getting closer to divorce. I apologize for the broken record rant, I'm sure some of you are rolling your eyes me. That's fine, I deserve it.

I think part of the reason I'm reticent, aside from divorce itself being a giant undertaking, is that I feel like I'll be a worse person afterwards. I'm already pretty bitter towards 3rd-wave feminism and a divorce would only intensify that. I have an established pattern of cutting things and people out of my life that become disagreeable instead of dealing with the problem. A divorce feels like more of that same bad pattern.
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Why did you marry w SJW liberal feminist in the first place? I'm curious, may have missed that part.

Also thoughts and prayers.
 
Deathwing

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chaos said:
So, I'm sure this will be a super popular take around here, but is this really this big of a deal or are you possibly just having other issues you're pissed about and using this as an excuse/opportunity to have feelings about those other issues? You could have handled it differently, laughed it off, or just said "look I don't want to be around that stuff". Instead you're like "let me pick a fight with my wife". i mean, what was even the objective here?
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I would say "I don't want to be around that stuff" if I felt that would actually happen. And by "stuff", I mean I don't want any needlepoints in my house, no bumper stickers on my car, no magnets on my fridge, no tshirts on my son, and no preferred pronouns in my conversations.

I get your take, I really do. The amount of effort to call a few people by their preferred pronouns is so close to zero that it's meaningless. But it's also dangerous appeasement. Just see the above for what else it has been allowed to slip in because it's just water under the bridge. Where and when do you put your foot down?
 
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Khane

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Deathwing said:
I would say "I don't want to be around that stuff" if I felt that would actually happen. And by "stuff", I mean I don't want any needlepoints in my house, no bumper stickers on my car, no magnets on my fridge, no tshirts on my son, and no preferred pronouns in my conversations.

I get your take, I really do. The amount of effort to call a few people by their preferred pronouns is so close to zero that it's meaningless. But it's also dangerous appeasement. Just see the above for what else it has been allowed to slip in because it's just water under the bridge. Where and when do you put your foot down?
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How do you feel about these people in general? Do you not mind being around them or would it be preferable if you never had to interact with them again? There's a couple that my gf has been friends with since she was in high school. They've known each other a very long time and the woman is fine but I absolutely cannot stand the guy. He's an insufferable, petulant little twat. So I had a long conversation with her about why I didn't like him and explained I don't want to hang out with them anymore because of him. I'll never tell her who she can and can't be friends with, and didn't try, just told her if she's hanging out with them in any capacity and he's there I won't be in attendance. She doesn't love the idea but she accepts it. Of course, being married with children is a different ball of wax but have you thought about having a conversation with your wife about not wanting to associate with them?
 
Deathwing

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For the most part, they're fine. My wife is super nonconfrontational. When I was arguing(and probably will again) about the "Fuck the Patriarchy", her concern was very little about the message and mostly that her friend made it for her. That kind of apathy and nonrealization of appeasement is what troubles me the most.
 
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Khane

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Deathwing said:
My wife is super nonconfrontational.
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Do you at least chuckle over the irony of that needlepoint from time to time then? It's gotta be entertaining having new guests in the house with such an aggressive phrase hanging on the wall. It's like saying "Welcome, do you accept my challenge?"
 
Deathwing

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She hangs a LOT of stuff on the walls. Usually, I'm grateful because I decorate like a man. But it also makes it hard to notice the bullshit. She honestly doesn't see "Fuck the Patriarchy" as confrontational. One of her counterpoints was that no one has said anything about yet :rolleyes:
 
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