Khane
Got something right about marriage
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You're like a stone's throw away from whacking it to vore.
What kinda vore we talking? Carnivore? Herbivore? Khaneavore?
You're like a stone's throw away from whacking it to vore.
The only time actual height numbers come up is when guys are trying to say they're 6' or 6'1 and clearly 4-5" shorter than me (I'm 6'2) or when women ask for some weird reason. Otherwise no guy actually asks how tall you are and there's no real reason to ever talk about it outside of impressing women. Which is stupid, because almost all guys are significantly taller than almost all women, so why do they give a fuck? No reason.Grown-ass adults telling each other their height. I can't recall any of my coworkers heights beyond shorter than me, about the same height, or fucking tall. Nor can I recall ever telling them the same.
Do you work at a roller coaster?
Now you have my attention.Haha did I really post that in thread? Woops.
Khaneavore.What kinda vore we talking? Carnivore? Herbivore? Khaneavore?
What does Xie Xie means?
I don't speak communist.
Why hello there! Ask and you shall receive! Yeah I bought a business and start Monday, despite the fact that my marriage is slowly deteriorating. There's no talk of divorce or anything, so this is just the marriage part.I look forward to seeing you in the Marriage and the Power of Divorce thread
Man, that's rough, but good on you for stepping up for your kids. Some kids don't even get one responsible parent, so there is a lot to be said there. Good luck with the kids and the business!Why hello there! Ask and you shall receive! Yeah I bought a business and start Monday, despite the fact that my marriage is slowly deteriorating. There's no talk of divorce or anything, so this is just the marriage part.
My wife texted me this morning asking me why I'm the sole owner of the LLC and she's not on the business. She has heard all these stories of husband and wife couples working together and thought that's what we are. I explained that both husband and wife in those examples work 50 hour weeks in order to make it work, and that if she wants to be added to it, she's going to need to put in a solid 40 each week as an investment (because she has no money and has been a stay at home for 12 years). So now she's hurt because I don't trust her (this is the woman who took $12k in payday advances out of my paycheck, lost it all to slot machines at the casino, then hid it from me for almost 11 months using credit cards until all the credit cards were maxxed out and I found out during a phone call with a bankrupty attorney; GEE I WONDER WHY YOUR HUSBAND DOESN'T TRUST YOU).
I'm not blameless because I'm not the supportive husband I used to be. I just gave up trying to motivate her and focused on our kids.
We have two boys that are 5 and 6. Older son has autism but is a very sweet kid. He cannot carry a conversation but can vocalizes basic needs. Since Thanksgiving 2020 I have been working two jobs, 7 days a week most of the time in order to pay the bills and put food on the table. My wife takes care of the house, and right now that means playing FFXIV 6-10 hours a day. The kids get on the bus to school, and it's just her from 7:30am to 3:20pm every weekday. With that in mind, despite working 7 days a week I still:
- Take the kids out to play at the playground because she has social anxiety and can't handle crowds (she goes to birthday parties and family social functions but 2-4x a week I take the kids somewhere for a couple of hours each trip)
- Do half the grocery shopping (anxiety)
- Do half the laundry
- Do half of the cleaning and picking up after the kids.
- Do the dishes half the time (I have left on business trips on a sunday night, to come back to the same dishes in the sink on Friday night).
- Cook half the meals
She complains that I don't respect her, and I told her she doesn't respect herself; the house is always a mess and taking 15 minutes a day to pick up a little is just a bridge too far. I tell her we should go get counseling; she thinks it's a waste of time and money (even though we did it for 2 months and it seemed to work great). Divorce isn't in the cards for me. I would not prefer it because it wrecked me as a kid, and I won't do it to my own children who need both their parents to support them. My wife and I can be roommates that happen to sleep in the same bed for all I care.
Luckily she has a lot of exterior pressure on her from my in-laws. Both her mom and sister are your typical Texas-born, evangelical, traditional housewives. They are constantly getting on her case about not holding up her end of the marriage (taking care of the house & kids). Her mom is 63 with the same back and migraine problems, but still keeps the house and has dinner ready every night for her husband. There's enough pressure there that shit would hit the fan if she wanted to separate.
Basically I'm in it for the kids. I still love my wife in some ways but I can't spend any more time or emotional capital to help her get her shit together at this point. If I stop focusing on the kids or my career, collectively as a family unit we will all be dragged down with her. She can sit there and play FFXIV/Sea of Thieves/etc., and I will just treat her like a live-in nanny who I happen to share a bed with.
Make sure the business stays slightly in the red or black going forward. Remember that she will be able to rake you over the coals for 50% of everything when she finds some degenerate catboi willing to feed her emotional needs and ditches you.Why hello there! Ask and you shall receive! Yeah I bought a business and start Monday, despite the fact that my marriage is slowly deteriorating. There's no talk of divorce or anything, so this is just the marriage part.
My wife texted me this morning asking me why I'm the sole owner of the LLC and she's not on the business. She has heard all these stories of husband and wife couples working together and thought that's what we are. I explained that both husband and wife in those examples work 50 hour weeks in order to make it work, and that if she wants to be added to it, she's going to need to put in a solid 40 each week as an investment (because she has no money and has been a stay at home for 12 years). So now she's hurt because I don't trust her (this is the woman who took $12k in payday advances out of my paycheck, lost it all to slot machines at the casino, then hid it from me for almost 11 months using credit cards until all the credit cards were maxxed out and I found out during a phone call with a bankrupty attorney; GEE I WONDER WHY YOUR HUSBAND DOESN'T TRUST YOU).
I'm not blameless because I'm not the supportive husband I used to be. I just gave up trying to motivate her and focused on our kids.
We have two boys that are 5 and 6. Older son has autism but is a very sweet kid. He cannot carry a conversation but can vocalizes basic needs. Since Thanksgiving 2020 I have been working two jobs, 7 days a week most of the time in order to pay the bills and put food on the table. My wife takes care of the house, and right now that means playing FFXIV 6-10 hours a day. The kids get on the bus to school, and it's just her from 7:30am to 3:20pm every weekday. With that in mind, despite working 7 days a week I still:
- Take the kids out to play at the playground because she has social anxiety and can't handle crowds (she goes to birthday parties and family social functions but 2-4x a week I take the kids somewhere for a couple of hours each trip)
- Do half the grocery shopping (anxiety)
- Do half the laundry
- Do half of the cleaning and picking up after the kids.
- Do the dishes half the time (I have left on business trips on a sunday night, to come back to the same dishes in the sink on Friday night).
- Cook half the meals
She complains that I don't respect her, and I told her she doesn't respect herself; the house is always a mess and taking 15 minutes a day to pick up a little is just a bridge too far. I tell her we should go get counseling; she thinks it's a waste of time and money (even though we did it for 2 months and it seemed to work great). Divorce isn't in the cards for me. I would not prefer it because it wrecked me as a kid, and I won't do it to my own children who need both their parents to support them. My wife and I can be roommates that happen to sleep in the same bed for all I care.
Luckily she has a lot of exterior pressure on her from my in-laws. Both her mom and sister are your typical Texas-born, evangelical, traditional housewives. They are constantly getting on her case about not holding up her end of the marriage (taking care of the house & kids). Her mom is 63 with the same back and migraine problems, but still keeps the house and has dinner ready every night for her husband. There's enough pressure there that shit would hit the fan if she wanted to separate.
Basically I'm in it for the kids. I still love my wife in some ways but I can't spend any more time or emotional capital to help her get her shit together at this point. If I stop focusing on the kids or my career, collectively as a family unit we will all be dragged down with her. She can sit there and play FFXIV/Sea of Thieves/etc., and I will just treat her like a live-in nanny who I happen to share a bed with.
Dissatisfied housewife with emotional problems spending all day playing MMOs? Sadly we know how this ends.My wife takes care of the house, and right now that means playing FFXIV 6-10 hours a day.
Staying together "for the kids" is a horrible thing to do. It just predisposes them to have bad relationship habits and seek out bad partners. Thats on top of whatever trauma they will experience seeing you two argue/fight/whatever.Divorce isn't in the cards for me. I would not prefer it because it wrecked me as a kid, and I won't do it to my own children who need both their parents to support them. My wife and I can be roommates that happen to sleep in the same bed for all I care.
You guys havent lived until you've had giant sex. Ever heard of a full body job?
So... did you smash?Dissatisfied housewife with emotional problems spending all day playing MMOs? Sadly we know how this ends.
Staying together "for the kids" is a horrible thing to do. It just predisposes them to have bad relationship habits and seek out bad partners. Thats on top of whatever trauma they will experience seeing you two argue/fight/whatever.
Also had a bizarre encounter with a woman off a dating app. Matched with her on bumble and when I responded to her initial message she messaged back saying she wanted to call me right away. While talking to her she says shes constantly surprised how taken back guys are when she tells them the first time she meets up with them to get a drink or cup of coffee she doesnt consider it "date". To her that is just a "meetup" to verify they are who their profile says they are. To her a date is going and having a sit down meal at a restaurant.
She ended up asking me if I was up to get a drink so being bored and intrigued at this I say sure and make plans to meet at some local place. I get there a few minutes after her so shes already drinking a beer. Sit down and have a rather meh conversation that is exactly as she said, basically verifying I was who I said I was. After about 20 minutes as shes finishing her beer she says shes ready to get out of there and so we leave. Never experienced anything like that before, it was like she was speed dating or something.
Putting this into context really made the thing hilarious. Talking to her she said she hasnt worked for 2+ years now due to corona and shes in no rush to find a job, and the best part was shes a very average looking 39 year old woman. So baffling a person in that position could be so utterly dismissive of men when it comes to dating.
Hope not. That whole event sounds like a rape accusation waiting to happen.So... did you smash?
Man, you boys have been out of the game for a LOOOONG fuckin' time if having a quick meetup for coffee/drink is "weird". That was about 85% of my "first dates" with chicks from dating apps. Many times just as a quick thing on my way home from work or out running errands. Why the fuck would I waste my time with dinner and the whole 9 yards if the chick can't hold a conversation, looks totally different than her photos, etc.?Dissatisfied housewife with emotional problems spending all day playing MMOs? Sadly we know how this ends.
Staying together "for the kids" is a horrible thing to do. It just predisposes them to have bad relationship habits and seek out bad partners. Thats on top of whatever trauma they will experience seeing you two argue/fight/whatever.
Also had a bizarre encounter with a woman off a dating app. Matched with her on bumble and when I responded to her initial message she messaged back saying she wanted to call me right away. While talking to her she says shes constantly surprised how taken back guys are when she tells them the first time she meets up with them to get a drink or cup of coffee she doesnt consider it "date". To her that is just a "meetup" to verify they are who their profile says they are. To her a date is going and having a sit down meal at a restaurant.
She ended up asking me if I was up to get a drink so being bored and intrigued at this I say sure and make plans to meet at some local place. I get there a few minutes after her so shes already drinking a beer. Sit down and have a rather meh conversation that is exactly as she said, basically verifying I was who I said I was. After about 20 minutes as shes finishing her beer she says shes ready to get out of there and so we leave. Never experienced anything like that before, it was like she was speed dating or something.
Putting this into context really made the thing hilarious. Talking to her she said she hasnt worked for 2+ years now due to corona and shes in no rush to find a job, and the best part was shes a very average looking 39 year old woman. So baffling a person in that position could be so utterly dismissive of men when it comes to dating.
Dissatisfied housewife with emotional problems spending all day playing MMOs? Sadly we know how this ends.
Staying together "for the kids" is a horrible thing to do. It just predisposes them to have bad relationship habits and seek out bad partners. Thats on top of whatever trauma they will experience seeing you two argue/fight/whatever.
Also had a bizarre encounter with a woman off a dating app. Matched with her on bumble and when I responded to her initial message she messaged back saying she wanted to call me right away. While talking to her she says shes constantly surprised how taken back guys are when she tells them the first time she meets up with them to get a drink or cup of coffee she doesnt consider it "date". To her that is just a "meetup" to verify they are who their profile says they are. To her a date is going and having a sit down meal at a restaurant.
She ended up asking me if I was up to get a drink so being bored and intrigued at this I say sure and make plans to meet at some local place. I get there a few minutes after her so shes already drinking a beer. Sit down and have a rather meh conversation that is exactly as she said, basically verifying I was who I said I was. After about 20 minutes as shes finishing her beer she says shes ready to get out of there and so we leave. Never experienced anything like that before, it was like she was speed dating or something.
Putting this into context really made the thing hilarious. Talking to her she said she hasnt worked for 2+ years now due to corona and shes in no rush to find a job, and the best part was shes a very average looking 39 year old woman. So baffling a person in that position could be so utterly dismissive of men when it comes to dating.
Maybe, some girls I found just feel the word “date” automatically means romantic involvement and they do t want to commit to that sort of level of things. Back when I was dating heavily, I had two good prospects that both said at the end of the dinner we hate that it “wasn’t a date” and it was just getting to know one another to see if future dates would be a thing. Both split the check on the meal, I ended up not going back out with one due to drama and the other and I went out a few more times, hooked up and until last year, maintained friendly contact.Obviously that girl is a believer in the rule that sex comes on a certain date, so she wants to be clear the first date isn't a date. It's the only reason I can think of for not wanting to call the meetup a date.
Why hello there! Ask and you shall receive! Yeah I bought a business and start Monday, despite the fact that my marriage is slowly deteriorating. There's no talk of divorce or anything, so this is just the marriage part.
My wife texted me this morning asking me why I'm the sole owner of the LLC and she's not on the business. She has heard all these stories of husband and wife couples working together and thought that's what we are. I explained that both husband and wife in those examples work 50 hour weeks in order to make it work, and that if she wants to be added to it, she's going to need to put in a solid 40 each week as an investment (because she has no money and has been a stay at home for 12 years). So now she's hurt because I don't trust her (this is the woman who took $12k in payday advances out of my paycheck, lost it all to slot machines at the casino, then hid it from me for almost 11 months using credit cards until all the credit cards were maxxed out and I found out during a phone call with a bankrupty attorney; GEE I WONDER WHY YOUR HUSBAND DOESN'T TRUST YOU).
I'm not blameless because I'm not the supportive husband I used to be. I just gave up trying to motivate her and focused on our kids.
We have two boys that are 5 and 6. Older son has autism but is a very sweet kid. He cannot carry a conversation but can vocalizes basic needs. Since Thanksgiving 2020 I have been working two jobs, 7 days a week most of the time in order to pay the bills and put food on the table. My wife takes care of the house, and right now that means playing FFXIV 6-10 hours a day. The kids get on the bus to school, and it's just her from 7:30am to 3:20pm every weekday. With that in mind, despite working 7 days a week I still:
- Take the kids out to play at the playground because she has social anxiety and can't handle crowds (she goes to birthday parties and family social functions but 2-4x a week I take the kids somewhere for a couple of hours each trip)
- Do half the grocery shopping (anxiety)
- Do half the laundry
- Do half of the cleaning and picking up after the kids.
- Do the dishes half the time (I have left on business trips on a sunday night, to come back to the same dishes in the sink on Friday night).
- Cook half the meals
She complains that I don't respect her, and I told her she doesn't respect herself; the house is always a mess and taking 15 minutes a day to pick up a little is just a bridge too far. I tell her we should go get counseling; she thinks it's a waste of time and money (even though we did it for 2 months and it seemed to work great). Divorce isn't in the cards for me. I would not prefer it because it wrecked me as a kid, and I won't do it to my own children who need both their parents to support them. My wife and I can be roommates that happen to sleep in the same bed for all I care.
Luckily she has a lot of exterior pressure on her from my in-laws. Both her mom and sister are your typical Texas-born, evangelical, traditional housewives. They are constantly getting on her case about not holding up her end of the marriage (taking care of the house & kids). Her mom is 63 with the same back and migraine problems, but still keeps the house and has dinner ready every night for her husband. There's enough pressure there that shit would hit the fan if she wanted to separate.
Basically I'm in it for the kids. I still love my wife in some ways but I can't spend any more time or emotional capital to help her get her shit together at this point. If I stop focusing on the kids or my career, collectively as a family unit we will all be dragged down with her. She can sit there and play FFXIV/Sea of Thieves/etc., and I will just treat her like a live-in nanny who I happen to share a bed with.