Marriage and the Power of Divorce

The worst is when one or both parents are divorced.

The Ancient_sl said:

The worst is when one or both parents are divorced.

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The worst is when you parents divorce, your dad remarries, but your mom is still single and quite resentful about the whole ordeal. They haven't been in a room together in the last 10 years other than for my wedding and my 1 year olds 1st birthday. Makes holidays lovely, I'd like to start hosting them but I'm not sure if that is going to work.

Kirun_sl said:

Women that have to use online dating to score some dick are desperate as hell, crazy as shit, socially awkward, or hideous.

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You can find some pretty attractive, non-crazy people under the "socially awkward" grouping. My long-term relationships that came from online dating all resulted in worthwhile relationships that had no crazy and in which I batted above my average looks wise; they were all pretty socially awkward or isolated. That includes my current living together relationship which is probably going to lead to marriage.

It probably also helped that getting laid wasn't my main objective from online dating.

Tuco_sl said:

Schedule all holidays with both of them invited, situate them so they are all close together, stealthily bring up topics of dispute, wait for inevitable fallout, end holiday asap, go back to gaming, ???, profit.

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You bring up an important point.

Isn't the main point of holidays so we can just game all day?

We used to do a big Christmas on Xmas Eve with my Mom's family, then in the morning it was just the four of us, then on Christmas Day we went to my dad's family for a big dinner. It was pretty good. Now everyone is all over the place and I'm attempting to create the tradition in my home. It'll be like pulling teeth.

As far as gifts go, my wife loves opening stuff. So I end up buying her a bunch of small things so she can have fun. But that's pretty much gone with our daughter now. She gets showered with gifts. With the family, we just have a Yankee swap. Everyone buys a gift that pertains to whatever theme we choose and it has to be under $20.

We are so far away from our family (mine is in Texas, my wife's is in Florida) that it really sucks around the holidays. I think that people tend to take that for granted. I know I did when I lived with my family. My grandmother died last month and it was long expected, but still, being unable to be there for family it was hard. And strange, really. Holidays are the same way.

On the marriage front things have been getting better on my end. I am hoping this persists, I am really optimistic. She has really given an effort to be more involved, I am trying to do my part to reciprocate.

I'm glad to hear it man, that's great. I wish you continued success in that regard.

Joined Tinder. Matched with and talked to a girl 4th of July who was in a neighboring town. Found out the next day she lives a couple hundred miles away. Kept talking to her anyway. She is driving all day tomorrow to go on a date/spend the night with me. I'm excited, and hope its not a story, but thought I would give you a "Onoes might get his kidney stolen story" advance warning.

I hope she's not insane.

Based on your picture, your history, and the fact that some chick is going to drive all day to get laid by you...

popcorn.gif time.

To properly judge, however, please post tinder pic....in case something does happen.

Onoes_sl said:

Joined Tinder. Matched with and talked to a girl 4th of July who was in a neighboring town. Found out the next day she lives a couple hundred miles away. Kept talking to her anyway. She is driving all day tomorrow to go on a date/spend the night with me. I'm excited, and hope its not a story, but thought I would give you a "Onoes might get his kidney stolen story" advance warning.

I hope she's not insane.

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Only good things can happen from this.

Holidays with my family is getting weird. It used to be that everyone went to Grandmas for Christmas and Thanksgiving. Well when grandma died my mom (tried) to be the matriarch of the family. All that did was cause my mom and her sisters to hate each other so each branch of the family just minded their own business for about 2 years. My younger brother got married and the wedding my mom and my aunts seemed to make up. Then my sister in law fucked up invited everyone to her house for Christmas.

Sweet mother of god you would have thought she killed a litter of puppies and ate a baby the way my mother and aunts acted. I think a big reason I'm with who I'm with because she treats holidays like I do, "who gives a shit." Except the anniversary, that shit is a big deal and I can understand that.

Onoes_sl said:

Joined Tinder. Matched with and talked to a girl 4th of July who was in a neighboring town. Found out the next day she lives a couple hundred miles away. Kept talking to her anyway. She is driving all day tomorrow to go on a date/spend the night with me. I'm excited, and hope its not a story, but thought I would give you a "Onoes might get his kidney stolen story" advance warning.

I hope she's not insane.

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She's driving a few hundred miles just to get banged?

Jx3_sl said:

Holidays with my family is getting weird. It used to be that everyone went to Grandmas for Christmas and Thanksgiving. Well when grandma died my mom (tried) to be the matriarch of the family. All that did was cause my mom and her sisters to hate each other so each branch of the family just minded their own business for about 2 years. My younger brother got married and the wedding my mom and my aunts seemed to make up. Then my sister in law fucked up invited everyone to her house for Christmas.

Sweet mother of god you would have thought she killed a litter of puppies and ate a baby the way my mother and aunts acted. I think a big reason I'm with who I'm with because she treats holidays like I do, "who gives a shit." Except the anniversary, that shit is a big deal and I can understand that.

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Same thing with my family. One of the aunts tried to become the matriarch. The problem is she's a major bitch and everyone hates her, everyone loved my grandmother. Some people just don't get it.

Since we've bought the new house a lot of people want us to host things, which is understandable, but fuck me if I'm hosting Christmas at my house with my retarded family.

So, for the better part of a decade I've had a really hard time trusting women and have mainly just been banging them and letting them fall to the wayside eventually without spending any kind of money on them. Well I finally met a chick that I had a lot in common with and had gone out with her a few times and things were going great. I wasn't a super nice guy or overly aggressive on sexual stuff since she had stated she wanted to take it slow.

Well on our 3rd date she wanted to just watch movies at her place so I went on over and prior to starting the movie she had mentioned going out the next night for dinner when she got off (@ 6pm) as well as ideas for future dates. Well at the end of the night after the movie had ended I went in for our first kiss and got rejected. She told me she was shy about that so I just let it go. Well She then stated she was going to bed and asked if I was staying the night or what. Well since she had just rejected me on a kiss and had mentioned going slow I took that as "get the fuck out" so I gathered up my things and she walked me to my car. During the walk to the car I told her to just hit me up if she wanted to grab dinner the following night where she promptly told me she didn't know if she would get off in time since she wouldn't get off til 9pm.... The next day she texted me to let me know it wasn't going to work and she wasn't ready for a relationship, serious wtf on my part.

I'd be lying if I said I wasn't crushed by this completely confused.

Sounds like she just got out of a relationship and wanted that closeness back, but didn't want sex.

Well I didn't go for sex.

Kiss = sex. Girls bro.

I wouldn't be surprised if that's what she thought.