Marriage and the Power of Divorce
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iannis
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That's really strange and really confusing. Its not confusing because you're in the thick of it, that's just confusing behavior.
My guess is that she wasn't trying to play a game, she's just confused as well. You know how that is after a decade of not trusting women.
It might be something REALLY simple like... she has herpes. I'm not trying to be a jackass or make a funny or shit. But something so very simple that you just wouldn't know, because the entire internal debate is on her end. It can be stuff like that. Or it could be something equally simple which makes no sense. Like you did something that reminded her of her brother/father. I dated a girl that, through no fault of her own, looked like my grandmother (in pictures, she wasn't 40 years older than me.) I gave it an honest to god old college try because she was a nice girl... but that shit got weird FAST. I told her exactly that's what it was, but I don't know if she believed me. I don't know if I'd believe a girl if she told me, "Uhh... the way you eat soup... god, you remind me of my brother."
iannis
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But the upshot is that this is as bad as it gets. And you'll be alright in a couple of days to a week as long as you allow yourself to feel the confusion and the hurt. It'll go away.
There's no particular reason to avoid women or hang on to those trust issues. They served their purpose. I mean, you know, don't give 'em your pin on the first date. But...
There's no particular reason to avoid women or hang on to those trust issues. They served their purpose. I mean, you know, don't give 'em your pin on the first date. But...
Hekotat
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I'm sure I'll never figure out what actually happened but to not kiss me then basically ask me to stay the night really fucks with my head. Only thing I could figure is she wanted the D and I didn't give it to her so she jumped ship. I have no idea though.
Famm
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She wasn't that into you dude. If she was the kiss would have happened. Why she wasn't into you or if you could do something different, we don't have enough insight to say. But there's really nothing more complicated to it. If she was attracted you'd have gotten the kiss at least.
Famm
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Also, when she said "are you staying the night or what?" that was an opportunity to make another move on it. Obviously I don't know the tone of voice or facial expressions involved, but you basically chose to run away. You miss 100% of the shots you don't take. Worst case she's like, "uh, no I mean you're not" and you are in exactly the same place as you are now. Best case you get that kiss and maybe some heavy petting or more and you are seeing her again soon.
Essentially she gave you a hit of rejection and you allowed that to color your attitude which was possibly the big turn off. Her initial interest went cold. Or she was just never that into you and you finally made her solidify the issue when you actually tried to escalate.
Essentially she gave you a hit of rejection and you allowed that to color your attitude which was possibly the big turn off. Her initial interest went cold. Or she was just never that into you and you finally made her solidify the issue when you actually tried to escalate.
Noodleface
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When a girl asks "are you staying the night or what?" you can easily follow that up with "do you want me to?"
Never make assumptions with women dude. For all we know, she had 17000 scenarios going on in her head and she was overanalyzing everything the entire night. A guy is simple. a woman is retarded.
Never make assumptions with women dude. For all we know, she had 17000 scenarios going on in her head and she was overanalyzing everything the entire night. A guy is simple. a woman is retarded.
Noodleface
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We're talking women. And also we don't know the delivery. It could have been an annoyed ask like "why haven't you left yet?" or it could have been a "stay the night and pee in my butt" request.
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I guess. Bullet dodged if it's the first one, that kind of communication would drive me nuts.
I don't know why it would fuck with your head. Maybe she wanted to really take it slow, like she said. Sleeping over doesnt mean she wants you to fuck her. She already knows you're interested with the kiss attempt. Maybe she was happy you tried to move things forward and wanted you to stay (ie she wasnt just being polite with that question). You'll never know now, so need to dwell. I'll just say if a girl that I'm interested in asks me to stay over, I say yes without hesitation. There really isn't much downside to it. And if she was just being polite, and ends up saying "lolz just kidding, get out" you know exactly where you stand and can move on without thinking about it. Plenty of fish in the sea, etc..
It's like in ghostbusters man..if someone asks you if you're a god, you say yes. Same principal here.
Khane
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Sounds to me like she is just one of those "hot and cold" type of people. One minute they act very distant and uninterested and the next they are all up in your shit, with no warning. It's practically bi-polar. Just wait for the "I'm sorry, I overreacted, I guess I just got a little nervous because I like you so much" text to confirm.
BrotherWu
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Except that part about sleeping next to a new girl that wants to take it slow having a raging boner the whole night.
You never know, maybe the girl would change her mind (this never happens, right?!!) and take care of it. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
Khane
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Except having to wake up early to go back to your place to shower and get dressed for work the next morning.
Women are really fuckin' weird sometimes. About a year and a half ago I had gone out a few times with a nurse (pertinent for obvious reasons). We're back at my apartment and we start getting into it when I pick her up and start taking her to the bedroom. Right in front of it she says, "No let's not go into the bedroom, I feel like that's really slutty". So I'm thinkin OK she just wants to make out, but nothing more is gonna happen. So we go back into the living room which has a huge bay window and translucent, see through curtains in broad daylight and she takes off my pants and we bang it out for any neighbors to see everything.
TL;DR Dumb broad said that the bedroom, the most private room in every house ever to have sex in, was too slutty for her so instead she wanted to fuck on my couch in front of a huge window in the middle of the day.
Women are really fuckin' weird sometimes. About a year and a half ago I had gone out a few times with a nurse (pertinent for obvious reasons). We're back at my apartment and we start getting into it when I pick her up and start taking her to the bedroom. Right in front of it she says, "No let's not go into the bedroom, I feel like that's really slutty". So I'm thinkin OK she just wants to make out, but nothing more is gonna happen. So we go back into the living room which has a huge bay window and translucent, see through curtains in broad daylight and she takes off my pants and we bang it out for any neighbors to see everything.
TL;DR Dumb broad said that the bedroom, the most private room in every house ever to have sex in, was too slutty for her so instead she wanted to fuck on my couch in front of a huge window in the middle of the day.