Marriage and the Power of Divorce

Onoes_sl said:

So. Yeah. I'm not sure what the opposition is right now, as I'm not really trying to meet a normal girl and have a lasting relationship currently. While the hair will attract crazies as well, I had this haircut when I met my wife of 11 years too, so it's not like it impossible to find semi regular people interested in a weirdo.

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I have a buddy who is the guitarist for Shattermask (Rapcore), and he had the devil horns for quite awhile, and lots of piercings as well. That's actually how we met, I sold him a ton of body jewelry. Anyway... his wife/girlfriend of many years was just a 'regular' looking gal. I'm was just pointing out that sort of look may attract a 'different' type of female, meaning the Paingiver.

I really am not coming down on the hair at all, I kinda dig it (on you, no homo).

If I saw Onoes on the street I'd just kind of assume he was obsessed with Fred Durst 10+ years ago and never grew out of it

Says the guy without a Jurassic Park truck.

That's a little harsh. He's having fun. Who cares? The dude is taking care of his responsibilities, why can't he have some red hair if he wants? This isn't 1954, red hair isn't necessarily indicative of emotional problems.

chaos_sl said:

That's a little harsh. He's having fun. Who cares? The dude is taking care of his responsibilities, why can't he have some red hair if he wants? This isn't 1954, red hair isn't necessarily indicative of emotional problems.

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Here's a big "Fuck You" from all us natural gingers.

People are really conservative up there in Montana.

Multiple co-workers of mine have sleeves or facial piercings of some kind. It's acceptable these days.

He's in Arizona or Nevada, I thought. Beagle is Montana. In any case, I found the most troubling thing about Onoes was the story he told about having a really good conversation and connection.... with a 16 year old girl. I'm not concerned that he's a pedo or seeking that shit out or anything, he was pretty obviously disappointed with himself when he realized what was up. I just thought it was very, very telling that he didn't instantly realize that he was talking to a teenager. Between that, the Jurassic Park truck, the hair cut, the face metal, and the stories he has told us a picture emerges of a big dopey kid stuck in a man's body.

To be clear, there's absolutely nothing wrong with that, so long as he realizes it.

He probably meant his dick was starting to have a connection.

Let's face it.. 16, 18.. all looks the same nowadays.

Tenks_sl said:

If I saw Onoes on the street I'd just kind of assume he was obsessed with Fred Durst 10+ years ago and never grew out of it

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He IS doing it all for the nookie

Alex_sl said:

People are really conservative up there in Montana.

Multiple co-workers of mine have sleeves or facial piercings of some kind. It's acceptable these days.

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I think onoes lives in Kingman, az which is pretty much shithole suburb methlandia that you drive through to get to Vegas. I doubt it's the open and accepting place that most major cities are.

All correct, and yeah, I understand I'm a big dopey kid in a man's body. Most people assume I'm maybe mid twenties or so. Every time I talk to someone on the phone and then meet them in real life they are surprised, as apparently I sound like a respectable adult man on the phone, and then a teen in real life. I'm very excitable, I laugh and say whats on my mind, and just generally don't behave like a soul crushed adult. My coworker likes to say I'm a cartoon caricature of a man. I'm not clueless, and to a large degree I understand and even agree with a lot of the negative some of you guys are saying. What Brutal said about a well balanced individual not dying their hair and piercing up I get, I pretty much agree with, I just feel like my personality lets me get away with it.

That being said, there's a reason I've looked normal the last 8 or so years. I've worked my way up the system and gotten to a point where I can do what I want to a large degree. I'm the IT Director of an entire town's government, so obviously I'm able to handle people and responsibilities when I have to. I'm good with money, and while I will occasionally make bad decisions for "fun times", I'm typically very methodical and logical about all my choices. If I lost my job tomorrow, I would drive home, shave my head, remove the piercings, and start submitting resume's. I could blend back into the crowd no problem. Until then, I'll try to steal whatever enjoyment I can from this depressive world we live in.

I have no defense for not recognising the 16 year old as "too young" other than I'm bad with ages. There are 16 year olds who can pass for 21, and 21 year olds who seem to be 16. I'm bad at guessing.

And yes, Kingman AZ is a shithole.

Onoes_sl said:

So. Yeah. I'm not sure what the opposition is right now, as I'm not really trying to meet a normal girl and have a lasting relationship currently. While the hair will attract crazies as well, I had this haircut when I met my wife of 11 years too, so it's not like it impossible to find semi regular people interested in a weirdo. And again, someone up there mentioned me being a 35 year old doughboy in an emo costume, I would argue the emo portion, since I'm always laughing and smiling, but I'd agree with the 35 year old doughboy. So, who do you think has a better chance of getting laid? The 35 year old doughboy in the crowd, or the 35 year old doughboy who's wacky and different? I've had the haircut, what, 2 months now? I'm telling you, its a massive difference. I go out before to a bar, and sit with my friend or friends all night. I go out now and half the people who walk in come over and start talking.

And lastly, TheBeagle was doubting the validity of my stories? I have no idea why. I'm quiet for months at a time when nothing crazy is going on, and in the last 8-9 months of being single, I've only slept with 4 women, 1 being awesome sex crazy girl, 1 being married lady, 1 being normal girl I had no stories about, and 1 being crazy Dominatrix chick. I suspect I will be sleeping with rich girl this weekend, but who know's. I'm not really sure where any of those experiences fall into the realm of disbelief, as I'm pretty sure my entire single history could be replicated in a weekend by a good looking college guy. But whatever. /shrug

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Phaz mostly covered it, but you can look however you want of course. Just don't be shocked when you have lip piercings and red devil horn hair when crazy finds you. Sure, normal may find you as well. But the higher likelihood is crazy. And if you are digging it, then no problem. Your kids will probably want to emulate the look in their teens, but I don't know if that bothers you.

And perhaps emo kid was the wrong description. I would say more like Hot Topic punk. The Diet Coke of punk. And I was mistaken on the doughy party, you are actually looking pretty fit in recent pics.

Onoes, when you are so open with a forum you need to be prepared for all of the criticism - which I assume you knew before you opened up.

If you never posted pics we'd never know you were in the band Prodigy, or that you had a baby face, or a face of metal. If you never posted stories about fucking the crazy, we'd never know.

At this point I assume you know it's open game.

My current avatar was provided to me by a mod and I expect the same thing to occur.

Down to 187, still have a belly and man boobs, but I'm working on it ever so slowly. I started at 218 on Jan 1st, so I'm 31 pounds down, almost exclusively from dropping soda and watching meal size.

And yeah, I know I open myself up for criticism when I'm this honest, but I'll still defend myself off and on if I think something said is unfair. Like I said, I'm mostly in agreement with everything that's been said, so no worries.

Diet Coke of punk, lol.

Ya I was probably a little harsh. Sorry bro. It does take balls to open yourself up for criticism around here and you always deliver. If you're happy then that's all that matters. Carry on.

Oh, and Montana's not THAT conservative. At least not the part I'm in, (Missoula/Flathead Lake). The only other place I've seen with a comparable number of sleeve tattoos is Austin TX. I have zero tats and stick out like a sore thumb whenever we hang out at the bar on the lake and all i'm wearing are board shorts.