Marriage and the Power of Divorce

Can we make a meta thread for iHomo? Like, he can post links and we can not comic them or something.

Kirun_sl said:

I love stories like this: "LOL! My EX is making so many poor decisions after leaving me! I care so little that I'm making sure to keep track of her whereabouts, texts, and all the men in her life!". Like he said, 9 times out of 10 there is more to the story. I think we're starting to see why she left him. The dude cares WAY too much about an EX.

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Just skimmed it but sounds like they have kids, so not really too possible to completely ignore her. Probably a good idea to know what's going on with her actually.

Olebass_sl said:

Have to agree with Chaos on this one. This is our man cave thread from all the shit we deal with at home from crazy ass women, and in a few cases their crazy ass men.
We don't need a Fedor of Marriage and the power of divorce.

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Himeo made a thread for his links and one mod rickshawed it linking to this thread as a place to discuss his links. Then another mod says he can't post it here. That doesn't fly just because chaos doesn't personally like the links. Himeo isn't breaking any rules.

Maybe. I don't see why there need to be 3-4 different threads with this red pill nonsense in them. And I don't see why Tuco shawed the thread rather than just let whoever wants it have their outlet. But this thread really isn't the place for that.

I agree. A lot of it is just revenge fantasy. It's not serious, day to day, real life shit that's happening to forum members.

Kurin was doing the exact same thing for like a year, but by putting 5 minutes of effort into every post he was getting people to actually read it. It was the exact same stuff he was posting. The bar has just been set higher than straight copypasta. Kurin was contributing topically with aimed and direct responses. That is mostly the difference. The place for copyvomit is the fat lesbian thread. Redpill could go in this thread, and has before, but the quality of the posts needs to be more tailored. That's why there are multiple threads which incorporate the same topics.

This is not an arbiter of taste issue. It's more a square peg round hole issue.

Famm_sl said:

Just skimmed it but sounds like they have kids, so not really too possible to completely ignore her. Probably a good idea to know what's going on with her actually.

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Oh, I agree that he's going to want to know "some" stuff. In fact, a lot of it will come from the kids alone. However, he even mentions he specifically looked up her OKC profile. It's pretty obvious the dude is going out of his way in an attempt at a "gotcha!". Don't get me wrong, I'm about as vindictive and vengeful as they come, but this dude obviously careswaymore than he really should.

Himeo is spamming both this and TGWBYHT with redpill shit. Have a fucking comment at least instead of just copy pasting posts from one forum to another. If people wanted to read posts from rp reddit, I'll give you one guess as to where they can go.

Back from my 2 week traveling vacation. Not a single hook up. Depressing. Also, catching up on this thread was equally uneventful.

I total forgot about our updates.

August 25, 2014 - Still single and awesome. Fed a stripper birthday cake on Friday night and had all the titties in my face. All the titties. It was bitchin'.

I had an interesting discussion with my wife about a week ago, and I've noticed things getting better as a result. We don't have the best sexual relationship. It's easy for us to go a few weeks at a time between, and she has never once initiated. We've talked about this in the past, but she's never made a change. She hasn't had a period in a few months. That's pretty normal for her, though. Anyway, she began having a period the other day and she brought up "I really wanted to have sex last night", but she never actually TOLD me that. She just kept quiet, so when it was bed time, we went to sleep.

Anyway, after she told me I started an argument. Sex is a two way street. You like it and I like it. You MUST initiate. I asked if when she was younger, did she plan on getting married and never once asking for sex? She said she never thought about that (She's Japanese, I understand the culture is different... hell, her parents don't even sleep in the same bed). She said that in Japan, things are more implied without actually being spoken. She was hoping that I would pick up on that energy and we would begin. I flat out said that was bullshit because she has NEVER picked up on my energy.

We kept talking and I told her that I loved her, but I didn't know if I was "in love" with her. Our life is great. We're good friends, but are we really partners? I asked if she has ever thought about divorce, because I certainly have. I don't like that I have, and it's 100% due to sex. Every other part of my life is great, but sex is lacking. I told her that I felt like a rapist that I had to initiate every time, and when she randomly rejects me that's even worse. I asked how she would feel if I never initiated for her, and would randomly tell her no when she was in the mood. She said that she would start to develop resentment towards me, and that was the epiphany moment for her.

We went to bed after talking like that for a few hours. The next day, she gave me head as I stepped out of the shower. That's a first. I'll take it and be happy while hoping that it leads to a better life in the long run.

My wife never initiated either and I brought it up. It's cool and all for the first year or so you're dating, but after awhile you start to go "is she just doing this for me?" Things instantly got better.

Let's all not forget that Himeo was the dude (I think) posting that fucking non-sensical sugar crusade in the weight loss thread. He is shaping up to be a terrible poster.

BrutulTM_sl said:

Women feel loved because a guy tells them and compliments them regularly. Men feel loved because a woman wants to have sex with them regularly. It's hard to keep up though because we are just wired differently and the other's point of view just doesn't naturally make sense to us.

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I don't think that's necessarily true.

I was on my period last week, so sex consisted of just blow jobs. Husband has also been stressed so we haven't been as sexual lately. I definitely feel... not less loved really because logically I know he loves me, but the lack of intimacy makes me feel down. I definitely equate sex in my marriage with love. When we are doing it like bunnies, I feel happier all around - loved, desired, needed.

Maybe that makes me slightly odd, not sure. It was like after I had babies. Doctors tell you to wait some absurd amount of time to have sex again. Yes there was a lot of blow jobs and hand jobs in that first few weeks, but by four weeks postpartum, we were having sex again after each baby. Why? Because I need the intimacy. Nothing helps me feel better when I'm feeling crappy than to have some good sex and feel loved, desired and needed again.

Obviously its different for men. You guys don't get the exact same things out of sex that I do. But to say women don't feel loved because of sex isn't correct I believe.

lindz_sl said:

I don't think that's necessarily true.

I was on my period last week, so sex consisted of just blow jobs. Husband has also been stressed so we haven't been as sexual lately. I definitely feel... not less loved really because logically I know he loves me, but the lack of intimacy makes me feel down. I definitely equate sex in my marriage with love. When we are doing it like bunnies, I feel happier all around - loved, desired, needed.

Maybe that makes me slightly odd, not sure. It was like after I had babies. Doctors tell you to wait some absurd amount of time to have sex again. Yes there was a lot of blow jobs and hand jobs in that first few weeks, but by four weeks postpartum, we were having sex again after each baby. Why? Because I need the intimacy. Nothing helps me feel better when I'm feeling crappy than to have some good sex and feel loved, desired and needed again.

Obviously its different for men. You guys don't get the exact same things out of sex that I do. But to say women don't feel loved because of sex isn't correct I believe.

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Women feel validated from sex. Men feel validated from sex (with a women that desires sex from them).

It's good that you've noticed:

When we are doing it like bunnies, I feel happier all around - loved, desired, needed.

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You're smarter than the average tuna fish.

^-- I think my wife is the same as Lindz. As long as I'm railing her with frequency things are pretty good. Doesn't really care about compliments etc. She cares more about frequent physical intimacy than cheesy shit or even going out on dates in general.