Marriage and the Power of Divorce

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Noodleface

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Wife just went to the vagina doctor..

Said she might be pregnant..

Have an ultrasound in a week to know for sure or something..

I didn't know they give you "maybe" for that sort of thing, I guess it could be a false positive. I am in shock.
 
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Why not go to a dollar store and buy a pile of pregnancy strips for $5? Those things are pretty much spot on. Have her pee on a pile of them if she likes.

That should clear up any maybe's.
 
Noodleface

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Well she took a piss test at the doctor. She's had some problems that I might have mentioned before so I think that's why they're telling her "maybe"
 
Noodleface

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Maybe, in a week. I should have waited until I knew for sure, but I was sitting at my desk kind of in shock and had to tell someone. I figured emailing my team wouldn't be good.
 
lindz

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I need some man advice for my husband.

So his closest "friend" at work told my husband yesterday that it looks like he'll be getting a divorced. He was super bummed and my husband said he was there for him if he needed anything. Friend said no and that was that. This isn't someone he has a relationship with outside of work, though we've talked about getting together with our families several times. They are close at work though, talk personal stuff, have played boardgames at lunch most days for the past six years. He knows the guy pretty well.

He's not sure what to do. If it were me and anther woman, I'd invite my friend out for drinks or dessert or something and talk it out but I'm not sure how guys deal with these things. For those that have been through divorce, what sort of support would you want?
 
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pemulis_sl said:
Drinks, not dessert! Offer to drive so neither of them has to.
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Wear sexy clothes also to rub it in. Give him a big frontal hug and a kiss on the cheek when you pick him up and when you drop him off also. Sit at the end of the bar and wink at him also .....

This is a bad idea. He needs space it sounds like. IF your husband tries to force the issue make sure you aren't involved.
 
iannis

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lindz_sl said:
I need some man advice for my husband.
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This is what titty bars existfor.

Other than that what you do as a man is: offer help, if it's wanted/required and don't shirk it if it's invoked. Other than that you continue to proceed as if nothing changed. That steadfastness is a sort of emotional support all its own, maybe particularly masculine maybe not.
 
McCheese

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NoodleAnus_sl said:
Guys are simple creatures, we say what we feel. If the dude said no I would give him space.
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This. The wife of one of my good friends just had a miscarriage after 5ish months of being pregnant; I offered support, he politely acknowledge, and we've gone back to our typical interactions of beers, talking about football, etc. It's not the same as a divorce, but I think Noodlefart is right about guys generally saying what they mean and meaning what they say regarding stuff like this.
 
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NoodleAnus_sl said:
Wife just went to the vagina doctor..

Said she might be pregnant..

Have an ultrasound in a week to know for sure or something..

I didn't know they give you "maybe" for that sort of thing, I guess it could be a false positive. I am in shock.
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If it happens, you can thank rerolled for making it happen. We're all wizards.
 
chaos

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Dude: says exactly what he means so there is no possibility of confusion

Chick: "Dude's are weird"

can't explain that.
 
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Yall are full of it. Guys tend to act like they're fine regardless of situation because we're shaped to act stoic all the time. That's hardly a reflection of what's really going on.

That doesn't mean be all touchy feely with him or assume he HAS to spend time with friends; he's still a guy. But your husband offering male-appropriate support is good (offer to go out drinking, golf, strip club, video games, be wingman, whatever he's into). For some relationships and some people, it's appropriate to take charge ("you and I are going out Friday"); for others, it's best to be available but not pushy.

"Guys always say exactly what they mean" is a load of bs. No one is "fine" when they're getting divorced.
 
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I was fine. Not that I disagree entirely, but yeah, some of us are fine. I would still offer to take him out somewhere, definitely one on one. If he says no though, drop it.
 
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