Marriage and the Power of Divorce

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Selix

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Commander Vimeseh_sl said:
Last segment of the thread. Open relationship fellows who laugh at all of us monogamous guys, and let's face it they're probably right. Man i wish I had the charisma or energy to have a full time partner and bring in side shows as or when needed.

I'm in the formerly bitter, but now relieved and getting on with my life category. Spent a year and a half alone, working things out for myself and not really wanting any companionship. Now just getting back in to the dating pool. Have had a couple of different flings over the last couple of months and boy is it good to be back.

@selix

Biggest thing is to be as objective as possible and keep your ducks all in order. I know it's hard to keep the feelings under control.but the more you can present a solid front to your soon to be ex and the eventual judge the better you will come out of it on the other side.
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Nah it's ok. I was depressed as fuck before. Now I'm pissed. I can be motivated to accomplish amazing shit when I'm pissed and fucking with my children future is a numero uno way to make me pissed. She still seems to want this to be quick and painless and keep me from figuring out she ever talked to a lawyer though so as long as she is willing to "play the game" I'm going to use that time to secure everything and lock everything down. Already found her stash of documents and made copies of everything. Even tried to stash a copy of the mortgage documents though her name isn't on the mortgage (bought it 2 yr before marrying her).

She can have her bankruptcy filing drug addict boyfriend (his words) but I will not lose my house, my kids or my investment into their education.
 
Selix

Selix

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Commander Vimeseh_sl said:
Last segment of the thread. Open relationship fellows who laugh at all of us monogamous guys, and let's face it they're probably right. Man i wish I had the charisma or energy to have a full time partner and bring in side shows as or when needed.

I'm in the formerly bitter, but now relieved and getting on with my life category. Spent a year and a half alone, working things out for myself and not really wanting any companionship. Now just getting back in to the dating pool. Have had a couple of different flings over the last couple of months and boy is it good to be back.

@selix

Biggest thing is to be as objective as possible and keep your ducks all in order. I know it's hard to keep the feelings under control.but the more you can present a solid front to your soon to be ex and the eventual judge the better you will come out of it on the other side.
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Nah it's ok. I was depressed as fuck before. Now I'm pissed. I can be motivated to accomplish amazing shit when I'm pissed and fucking with my children future is a numero uno way to make me pissed. She still seems to want this to be quick and painless and keep me from figuring out she ever talked to a lawyer though so as long as she is willing to "play the game" I'm going to use that time to secure everything and lock everything down. Already found her stash of documents and made copies of everything. Even tried to stash a copy of the mortgage documents though her name isn't on the mortgage (bought it 2 yr before marrying her).

She can have her bankruptcy filing drug addict boyfriend (his words) but I will not lose my house, my kids or my investment into their education.


To be fair I don't want her homeless or destitute or anything. Cheater she is but mother of my children she is also. She's just not about to go off on her fairytale mid life crisis adventures at the detriment of our children if I have anything to say about it.
 
Aevry

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Xequecal_sl said:
I'm 30.
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I'm just about to turn 30 as well. I prefer older women though, but never cease to be drowning in tang - and I'd consider myself a 6-7/10 at best.

My recommendation is to get some interesting hobbies if you don't already have some. Start getting into wine for sure (bitches love wine).

I wouldn't recommend dating people at work, but you should totally get to know some of the married women there and see if they have friends. Every girl has at least 1 single friend - and it's not always the fat one!
 
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Xequecal_sl said:
I'm mostly bitter because I went for the self improvement route and it improved my life in every area except getting women. Over the past 5 years, I nearly tripled my income, bought a house, and put $100k in the bank, and lost like 50 pounds. Yet my ability to attract women seems to be less than it was 5 years ago. The Internet told me I'd be drowning in pussy if I did this shit. Why did you lie to me, Internet?
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I'm thirty one. At the end of the day it's still a confidence thing. I mean, I don't make a ton of money (not poor by any stretch but no 100k in the bank), and being honest with myself I'm not the best looking guy I'm the world. However I've gotten myself back in to shape and I'm going at things with as trite as it sounds a don't give a shit attitude. Yup that's a cliche but it really works. When you don't make the search for women or a relationship your goal but instead put yourself out there just to see what happens then they just seem to start popping up.

The hobby thing is a good idea actually. For instance I've always been interested in woodwork so over the last couple of years I've put effort into being actually able to produce it. A couple tables, chairs, chests etc. Well I decided to put some of my stuff out there and started hitting up events and workshops where you can showcase your stuff or learn new techniques. Surprisingly at these events I've met a few very nice women. Even outside of that scene I've sparked some interest just talking about it or showing some picks on the phone. I guess bitches love creativity like they love wine.
 
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Commander Vimeseh_sl said:
I'm thirty one. At the end of the day it's still a confidence thing. I mean, I don't make a ton of money (not poor by any stretch but no 100k in the bank), and being honest with myself I'm not the best looking guy I'm the world. However I've gotten myself back in to shape and I'm going at things with as trite as it sounds a don't give a shit attitude. Yup that's a cliche but it really works. When you don't make the search for women or a relationship your goal but instead put yourself out there just to see what happens then they just seem to start popping up.

The hobby thing is a good idea actually. For instance I've always been interested in woodwork so over the last couple of years I've put effort into being actually able to produce it. A couple tables, chairs, chests etc. Well I decided to put some of my stuff out there and started hitting up events and workshops where you can showcase your stuff or learn new techniques. Surprisingly at these events I've met a few very nice women. Even outside of that scene I've sparked some interest just talking about it or showing some picks on the phone. I guess bitches love creativity like they love wine.
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Honestly, I think its just because I was over reliant on my old social circle to meet women, and now being in a new town with few friends and not having that crutch, along with the fact that I'm not interacting with college chicks anymore, has left me pretty clueless. The fact that I work the night shift as well as live in Dearborn, where as a white guy I'm very much a minority, don't help.

I've found that if I wear my work scrubs to places, I'll have women approach me to make conversation, but I of course can never tell if they're actually hitting on me or just being friendly. I don't really get this because it still seems to work even if I go right from work and probably reeking of chemicals. I definitely don't want to end up being that creepy guy who harasses women in the grocery checkout.
 
Noodleface

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May your soon to be ex-wife and her new boyfriend have the best life together working hourly at walmart. Sounds like you're lucking out dude. Just be a good father to your kids and forget her (easier said than done, I know).
 
Soygen

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DickTrickle_sl said:
But then even the schlubs are actively looking and receptive to other women while ostensibly being with someone else. The same thing women are doing in this scenario.
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I was being completely sarcastic. I'm in the camp of "men and women are both shady".
 
Sutekh

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Whelp boys, round 3. Driving to Pittsburgh tomorrow and staying for the weekend + Monday. This is starting to turn into a dangerous habit, if this keeps up I might end up falling in love again and that's not good.
 
Sutekh

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I don't know I think it's pretty fair at this point, met half way, she drove here, now I drive there.
 
Sutekh

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I mean I would have easily driven there 3 times in a row and not had her drive anywhere so I guess just by those thoughts alone, yeah I am pretty whipped. But god damn if it isn't worth it, I don't know what is.
 
Sutekh

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Woah woah, pussy? Come on bro show some respect we've only spent a couple weekends together. When she stayed the night a couple weeks ago I told her we should take it slow and only cuddle while watching some movies, I gave her a forehead kiss as she left though so she's going to be dying for one on the lips this weekend.
 
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