Marriage and the Power of Divorce

Noodlemod_sl said:

You're misunderstanding. Relationships require a lot of work and I put a lot in to get us where we are today. I have no desire to ever again do all of this.. I'm all or nothing right now. I can't see myself ever wanting to court a woman for a couple of years, spend a year planning a wedding, pay for a wedding, buy a house together, raise a family - if it doesn't work out down the line then I'm resigned to the fact that I'm not doing it again.

Perhaps my wording was off.

Edit: Her not eating leftovers is one of the greatest perks I have going right now

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Going to second this. I can't imagine life without my wife currently, and I still love her very much so. But make no mistake, a long term relationship, especially a married one, is a ton of work. It is worth it, and I have no regrets, but, like noodle, if for whatever reason (death or divorce) I find myself having to start all the way over again... I just really don't know if I'd have the energy or desire to.

I'd get married again if my current one fell apart

Crone_sl said:

What's with the shift in attitudes around here lately?

I've read the entire thread, and it used to be Onoes would post a story, and we would get a laugh out of it, maybe a few holy shit you fucked posts, or whatever, but it was fun. Now, he posts a story, and it's pages of calling him names, and busting his balls over his choices. Some being nice, some others not so much.

It's like the fun is all gone, and it sucks.

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I agree Onoes is still fresh off the divorce. Let him be. He is still figuring it out. It takes time.

Nobody ever figures it out. Life is bonkers man...

Yeah if the mother of my daughter ever gets divorced I'm definitely not marrying her. Used goods.

Crone_sl said:

What's with the shift in attitudes around here lately?

I've read the entire thread, and it used to be Onoes would post a story, and we would get a laugh out of it, maybe a few holy shit you fucked posts, or whatever, but it was fun. Now, he posts a story, and it's pages of calling him names, and busting his balls over his choices. Some being nice, some others not so much.

It's like the fun is all gone, and it sucks.

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Ohh so that's not all just in my head huh?

Most of the time it doesn't bother me at all, it's really just posts like ZyyzYzzy's, that are literally nothing but straight insults and hateful mockery that rub me the wrong way. There have only been a couple of times that I've thought "Why the fuck am I even sharing this shit if people are just going to be assholes, fuck em.", but generally I feel like most of you guys are either being genuinely helpful or at least mocking in good nature.

All that being said, maybe my posting has run it's course. When I started posting a year ago, typically I would post something and come back to pages of comments that made me smile or laugh, it was all very fun. Anymore, it does just tend to be 2 or 3 pages of calling me a retard. While I understand that some of you guys are still very positive, and others are just trying a tough dad approach in order to get your ideals through to me, most of the time I don't find myself laughing anymore. There's a lot more sighing and rolling my eyes. I'm not whinging here, just stating an observation.

I don't know, I'm not peace-ing out or anything, but maybe I'll just kick it down to a yearly update or something. I lurked on Rerolled for god damn 10 years without ever posting a thing, I don't imagine it would be that hard to go back to. I don't know, I'll see what feels right. /shrug

Just post when stuff goes bad, not when it's good or you're feeling positive. The haters get their schadenfreude, the helpers get to offer advice, and you get to vent.

I think poking at the ridiculous horns is one thing, and trying to steer you towards better life choices is probably helpful. But I would agree the dick posts in the past page or two were a little much. Calling him chubby, incompetent, and ripping on the girls (which all pictured are totally doable) just being an asshole. Dude posts hilarious stories and takes all the feedback in stride. It's not cool to just be an asshole.

a_skeleton_03_sl said:

Yeah those of us giving him actual advice are just peanut butter and jealous and trying to make ourselves look better.

The ones that aren't high fiving his every move for the mistakes they are are only doing it to look good.

Can't be that we care more about his future than our own need for train wreck stories to masturbate to.

Where do you even get off making such a condescending post like that?

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It's posts like this one that are completely uncalled for:

ZyyzYzzy_sl said:

You act like a child starving for attention. It is sad someone with children acts out this way, seriously.

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Onoes may rush into things and think irrationally at times, but all signs indicate that he is indeed a good father.

I think getting on his case about the horns should end. Dude's got a full (all the way up to the shoulder Ohnoes?) sleeve circuitboard tat with a metric fuckton of black ink involved. The horns can be cut, that tat is a very permanent commitment which will affect his chances with certain women. Once again I'm cool with it, don't get me wrong. Good friend of mine is a tattoo artist with full sleeves and other shit everywhere. I get it. Ohnoes has made the choice to rock that tat and facial piercings because that's who he is. Getting on his ass about "maturity" over his haircut is silly relatively.

ZyyzYzzy_sl said:

I will be honest, he seems like a decent father, but the amount of things he does in his free time (just based on what he posts) far outweighs activities he does with his children, which is sad since they are probably going through a rough time. I know a lot of that probably has to do with current schedules between his ex-wife and him regarding them, but I sure as fuck wouldn't go on camping trips for Ren Faires and give up time with my daughter if I were in the situation.

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When did he say he gave up time with his daughter? He said he switched weekends or weeks with their mom. That shit happens, he still has to live his life and sometimes custody schedules don't match adult events you want to attend. Swapping custody schedule with his ex when those conflicts arise is how itshouldwork and is an indication that they are being as mature about the divorce situation as he claims.

Also, why, on this board of all fucking places even, are so many of you hung up that he goes to "ZOMFG RENFAIRES???!?!" If he said he traded weekends to go camping for a weekend fishing trip with some buddies it wouldn't garner a second thought. Really, I think if it was anyone else with a different posting history the ren faire thing would barely register. So he's into SCA events, big deal. Its like the tat/horns/rings, that's who he is, so what. Honestly I have more respect for that than if he was popping his collar to hit up some meathead dance club every other weekend, but maybe that's just me.

Famm, no one cares about tattoos anymore outside of the most conservative parts of the country and even then I doubt Onoes is going to be trying to find some wholesome christian woman.