Got the old "Hey sorry to cancel last minute but something came up and I won't be able to make it tonight" from the woman I've been dating the last month and a half or so. Responded by telling her she may as well be honest instead of vague and mysterious, she's lost interest. She then said she has a great time when we're together but there is a lack of communication when we are apart and I seem aloof. I had told her I am not much of a phone talker/texter when we first started dating and that women tend to take that as me not being interested, so I repeated that and said I understand where she's coming from and that it was nice meeting her and wished her luck.
"Wait, you're done with me? You're all set that's it? Can I call you?"
Sigh...
She really believes I can't see what's going on there. She called and said she wasn't cancelling because of another date she just "needed time to think". I told her how cliche that was and how whenever we hear our friends/acquaintances say things like that about the people they are dating we roll our eyes, she's not fooling anyone and it's not a big deal, she may as well just be honest. She got very defensive that it wasn't about that at all and can she un-cancel tonight's date with me. I told her I'm not interested in someone I have to drag normal conversation out of. Either you're lying about the fade away for some strange reason or you can't be honest about something as simple as "I feel like you're not interested, where is this going?".
"So wait, would you have made an effort to talk more if I said something?"
"Yes, I would have."
"Well I didn't want to be a nag"
"So you decided to try to find someone else and swing to the next branch?"
"I TOLD YOU, I'M NOT SEEING ANYONE ELSE"
"It's not a big deal, really it isn't. It's OK, some people aren't right for each other"
"You're infuriating"
"See, we agree."
"STOP!"
And that went on for a while.