Marriage and the Power of Divorce
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Eomer
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heh, that's a whole situation to deal with down the road. My bro didn't get a prenup when he got married, either. Thing is, as far as I understand it, neither of us would have too much to worry about in terms of the company in a divorce. It's pre-existing property, the only thing she'd be eligible for is any increase in value of the company after the marriage. The company isn't growing significantly value wise, it just throws off cash.
If we do get that far down the road, I'm not sure how she'd react. The problem with prenups is that there's so much misinformation out there about them. They're automatically viewed as an antagonistic thing, when in reality your prenup can simply say "here's what each person came in to the marriage with assets wise. Everything accumulated after this point must be split 50/50." But god, try to explain that to a woman.
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moonarchia
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Gravy
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Asshole. Posts pictures of his knob, won't post pictures of hot wife.
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Eomer
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Izo
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Palum
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Eomer - it seems like a complicated series of symptoms stemming from a simple problem. You (and, to be fair, the rest of her life) are not challenging her to meet any expectations or succeed in her mind. She clearly does not feel the thrill of achievement and your laid back attitude is, for better or worse, only complicating problems. She's not letting go of the money you 'lent' her, it is only serving to reinforce the point. On top of that you aren't challenging her emotionally to 'win your heart' you simply let everything slide and tell her she's perfect. It's part self confidence and abilities, but also partly practical issue in that she can't really be a full partner without significant improvement and it's not like that's a secret.
That wouldn't necessarily always be a problem, of course - she might find fulfillment in raising kids or have hobbies (especially high involvement ones), or perhaps you both shared interests and her interaction with you was centered around shared purpose rather than a vassal and patron relationship. I don't know if you can change things, it seems like you should certainly try to help after that many years but of course fulfillment and drive is internal and all you can do is perhaps give her some goals or focus. You could give her more responsibilities and interaction.
The more I think about it though, I'm not sure what you can really change besides perception - it doesn't appear she'll be in a position in the near-term to truly be an equal, if you haven't found shared interests by now probably won't suddenly discover a singular passion together and frankly if she is feeling unfulfilled by her career and choice in education at this point she's basically fucked without a self-kick in the pants to get motivated and make huge changes in her life. Sorry bro.
That wouldn't necessarily always be a problem, of course - she might find fulfillment in raising kids or have hobbies (especially high involvement ones), or perhaps you both shared interests and her interaction with you was centered around shared purpose rather than a vassal and patron relationship. I don't know if you can change things, it seems like you should certainly try to help after that many years but of course fulfillment and drive is internal and all you can do is perhaps give her some goals or focus. You could give her more responsibilities and interaction.
The more I think about it though, I'm not sure what you can really change besides perception - it doesn't appear she'll be in a position in the near-term to truly be an equal, if you haven't found shared interests by now probably won't suddenly discover a singular passion together and frankly if she is feeling unfulfilled by her career and choice in education at this point she's basically fucked without a self-kick in the pants to get motivated and make huge changes in her life. Sorry bro.
Khane
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Wormie is either full of shit, or fucked the amazon. Shall we take bets? I have 10 to 1 on Amazon. I think he's a weak willed mongoloid.
EDIT: How did I not remember this bet was already waged? Ugh, bros... I'm fading... into.... the abyssssssssssssss......
EDIT: How did I not remember this bet was already waged? Ugh, bros... I'm fading... into.... the abyssssssssssssss......
Noodleface
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Has wormie even been posting since then in any threads? haven't seen him around.
He might be dead guys.
He might be dead guys.
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His profile says he was on today. Hopefully after a morning threesome with his wife and classmate. With pics to share.
BE A BRO, ASSWAGON.
Soygen
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Uhh...wtf is wrong with you? You stopped working to make your girlfriend feel better about her own inadequacies?