Noodleface
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Not true, I told her why I was angry already
Now I just make noise so she still knows
Marriage and the Power of Divorce
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Now I just make noise so she still knows
Izo
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chthonic-anemos
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You're probably being too nice. Especially if you want daily BJs for the duration of marriage. Cut the passive-aggressive out and go apeshit instead.
Volcano NoodleGod gets daily sacrifices.
Volcano NoodleGod gets daily sacrifices.
Louis
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So need a little dating advice as the girl who broke your heart thread is basically dead. Back story... I started dating a girl rather seriously who I've been friends with for about 11 years. We've hooked up off and on since we met, but was never anything serious. She moved out of state (about 12 hours away) 4 years ago for work and we kept sporadic contact. About 1 year ago she comes in because of a death in the family and she ends up staying with me for about a month. Things go great and she decides she wants to move back home and luckily enough her company is willing to let her work remotely. Another thing to note, this is probably like 1 of the 3 actual real relationships I have had in my life, so I'm not some don juan or very experienced in real relationships. Things were going pretty good during the 2 months we were planning the move until one night she goes awol and isn't responding to me. After pressuring her the following week she ends up admitting me she saw (probably fucked) one of her exes. So I called it all off on my part, ceased communication with her, and pretty much lost trust with her.
About 3 months ago she randomly textes me, tells me she ended up moving home anyway, and wanted to see me. Even though I knew I probably shouldn't, I wanted ass, so I told her to come over. We proceeded to basically pick up like nothing ever happened, moved into the house she bought, and have been happily ever since. Good right?
It was until this week. She ended up having to go back to where she worked for the week for a court hearing that was work related. It made me really apprehensive because I knew she really liked living there and of course she'd be around people (guys) she hadn't seen in a while, but I didn't want to be a worry wort so I sucked it up and just told myself everything would be good. First night she gets there she tells me she's going down to the hotel restaurant for a salad. We're texting back and forth and then it just stops. After she didn't respond, I didn't send another message. All I'm reminded of at this point is of what happened earlier in our relationship. Next morning rolls around and she starts blowing my phone up while I'm at the gym. Finally call her back and she proceeds to tell me she got shit housed (with who I have no idea) and didn't realize she didn't respond to me. I tell her I'm pretty annoyed with her, had pretty much had nothing to tell her, and hang up. She texts with " Please don't act like that. I'm sorry I didn't respond. It was my first night out here and I was just having fun. I don't want to always feel like I'm in trouble." So basically I have trust issues and she just shrugs it off like I have no reason to be mad. I think if the situation is reversed, she's furious.
Like I said I'm basically a level 1 noob at relationships. Would you married folks be ok with your signicant other going down to the bar like and getting shithoused most likely with guys. I know all relationships have different boundaries they expect from their spouse, but am I being overbearing bitch for expecting that not to be ok? I've just been going back and forth all week whether I bring all this up when she gets back or just forget about it and trust her.
Sorry for the wall of text and the pity party. Most of my friends already have opinions on her, so i'd appreciate peoples insight who are neutral.
About 3 months ago she randomly textes me, tells me she ended up moving home anyway, and wanted to see me. Even though I knew I probably shouldn't, I wanted ass, so I told her to come over. We proceeded to basically pick up like nothing ever happened, moved into the house she bought, and have been happily ever since. Good right?
It was until this week. She ended up having to go back to where she worked for the week for a court hearing that was work related. It made me really apprehensive because I knew she really liked living there and of course she'd be around people (guys) she hadn't seen in a while, but I didn't want to be a worry wort so I sucked it up and just told myself everything would be good. First night she gets there she tells me she's going down to the hotel restaurant for a salad. We're texting back and forth and then it just stops. After she didn't respond, I didn't send another message. All I'm reminded of at this point is of what happened earlier in our relationship. Next morning rolls around and she starts blowing my phone up while I'm at the gym. Finally call her back and she proceeds to tell me she got shit housed (with who I have no idea) and didn't realize she didn't respond to me. I tell her I'm pretty annoyed with her, had pretty much had nothing to tell her, and hang up. She texts with " Please don't act like that. I'm sorry I didn't respond. It was my first night out here and I was just having fun. I don't want to always feel like I'm in trouble." So basically I have trust issues and she just shrugs it off like I have no reason to be mad. I think if the situation is reversed, she's furious.
Like I said I'm basically a level 1 noob at relationships. Would you married folks be ok with your signicant other going down to the bar like and getting shithoused most likely with guys. I know all relationships have different boundaries they expect from their spouse, but am I being overbearing bitch for expecting that not to be ok? I've just been going back and forth all week whether I bring all this up when she gets back or just forget about it and trust her.
Sorry for the wall of text and the pity party. Most of my friends already have opinions on her, so i'd appreciate peoples insight who are neutral.
Louis
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I'd say it was just unspoken knowledge, but you are correct about the not communicating with what we're comfortable with. Me specifically. I think I struggle with finding the line of what's not right in a healthy relationship and what's just being an over-controlling m8.
Khane
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You're insecure and she's fickle. That ain't gonna work and you already know it.
I'm sure plenty of people will give you the feel good "talk about it, be up front, be honest, make sure you both understand how each other feel" but what is the point? It's not like you've spent years together, have kids etc. The two of you, based on your story, just ain't right for each other. You want a homebody and she wants to party.
Haast
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I would have a problem that she "was going to downstairs grab a salad", then goes silent, then wakes up and says she got shitfaced with undisclosed pals and never thought to txt again. It sounds like she was purposely withholding that info. That doesn't mean something DID go wrong, but I'd want to know why she didn't say what she planned on doing, which was clearly to meet up with friends for heavy boozing. That doesn't happen on accident.
You've got a valid reason to not trust her completely, but it either needs to be worked out or you should move on if you think you'll never trust her.
You've got a valid reason to not trust her completely, but it either needs to be worked out or you should move on if you think you'll never trust her.
Noodleface
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I'm retired from that. That was way too stressful to do every week
@Daly, seems like communication is lacking between the two of you. I'd be ok with my wife having fun as long as she told me what was going on. If she started going silent I'd be mad.
At some point you just either need to trust your partner or not and say goodbye. That parts up to you.
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It's a weird one for me because if I was serious with someone and they had some drunken fling out of town one night I wouldn't really care (as long as they were safe about it), but I know that isn't the norm. I just think that if I get along well enough with someone it would be easier to just forgive something like this. And it seems like you found a way to deal with it once.
Either way you either need to get her to agree to not party without you, deal with it when she does, or cut your losses and decide now you aren't a match.
Either way you either need to get her to agree to not party without you, deal with it when she does, or cut your losses and decide now you aren't a match.
Cad
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Or just be open/poly/swingers and not worry as long as she plays within the rules.
Louis
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@Khane There's a really big possibility you're spot on. Although, she's by no means a partier. I think my real question is whether or not she's cut out to be in a monogamous relationship.
@Noodle Yea I'm not trying to poop on her party, but acting shady like that given our past and her knowing how I felt about it pisses me off.
@Oblio I'm 29 she's 27.
Appreciate all the input from you guys. I intend on trying to "talk it out tomorrow", but I'm totally prepared to part ways for good.
@Noodle Yea I'm not trying to poop on her party, but acting shady like that given our past and her knowing how I felt about it pisses me off.
@Oblio I'm 29 she's 27.
Appreciate all the input from you guys. I intend on trying to "talk it out tomorrow", but I'm totally prepared to part ways for good.
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It's kind of a weird scenario for me because I'm not saying I'd be happy in a relationship where either one of us were actively seeking other partners. I'm a pretty monogamous person, myself, but I also just know sometimes shit happens.
Oblio
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I think I feel the same way as you, but that theory has never been tested so it is hard to say with certainty. It would also require a lot of history in the relationship, meaning a solid base built up for years and years. That way I would know her heart is still mine and it was just sex.
I was honestly expecting you to say she was 22-23 (under 25 for sure) which would make easier to understand, young and dumb etc. But at 27 in a somewhat new relationship? I mean you should still be in the honey moon phase I think. Talk to her and if you feel that she is sincere (only you will know) then stick it out and see how things go, but just remember you have had 2 red flags early in this relationship. If she pulls any shenanigans in the future I would abort.
Lastly, if you do forgive her you must truly forgive her. You cannot hang that shit over her head whenever you have a petty fight over what show to watch etc. Forgiving does not mean forgetting though, while you don't bring it up and hold it over her, you do not allow yourself to be treated in such a manner ever again by her. Not to sound too corny but 3 strikes and she is out.
moontayle
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Approach the talk with an open mind. Do your best to clear yourself of any preconceptions, but make sure you know what you want out of the relationship. Do you want a partner? A friend? A fuckbuddy? What does she want out of those three? Knowing what both of you want sets the ground rules. If it's the same, then you move forward. If it's different, you walk away. Oversimplification maybe but I think at this stage of things you can safely say it's not worth trying to find a middle ground.
Be warned, if both of you want a partner, you both have to work at it. You'll also both have to work to find a middle on everything. You're both at an age where you should be able to be reasonable, but don't fall into the trap of thinking you HAVE to work it out. If it's not working, it's not working. Doesn't matter who it's not working for.
Be warned, if both of you want a partner, you both have to work at it. You'll also both have to work to find a middle on everything. You're both at an age where you should be able to be reasonable, but don't fall into the trap of thinking you HAVE to work it out. If it's not working, it's not working. Doesn't matter who it's not working for.
Hoss
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I would be mostly OK with it, but then again, my wife isn't a slut. So you probably shouldn't be OK with it. Trust has to be earned and it takes time. Pretty clear she hasn't earned yours yet. I agree with CAD, go for a swinging relationship if one dick aint enough for her. That way she'll also be working to get you some strange pussy.
Also, post pics of her pls. That will go a long way in determining whether other dudes can be trusted around her.