Marriage and the Power of Divorce

Noodlemod_sl said:

I thought having my wife be a stay at home mom would net me a clean house, dinner when I got home, and dick suckings at the ready.

None of that is happening and it's irritating me. I don't get home until 7-7:30 and the house is usually a disaster and I need to cook and suck my own dick at the same time.

I think I married a lemon

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Its hilarious my wife's mom doesn't work. My wife's now youngest sibling is 16 years old. She still constantly talks about how much shit she has to do. What she "has to do" pretty much consists of sleeping in the afternoon and watching Animal Planet. You'd think her house would be spotless since she now doesn't have a job and also doesn't really have to take care of a kid (though she over babies this kid -- I fear for him growing up) but nope its still kind of messy when we go over. Its hilarious. Unfortuantely my wife also inherited the "omg I'm so busy I can't clean" gene so I've just decided to make peace with that and be the one in charge of keeping messes under control.

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LOL I kept reading. Noodle we're married to the same person. When I ask her to clean up her shit I get tons of passive aggressive shit. The only difference is she talks shit to our dog and not our kid since we don't have one. Like I said anymore I just do it myself. But it helps I really only work 9-4. But honestly constantly thinking about a mess is more stressful to me than spending the 10-30m it takes to just clean it up.

Hoss_sl said:

I would be mostly OK with it, but then again, my wife isn't a slut. So you probably shouldn't be OK with it. Trust has to be earned and it takes time. Pretty clear she hasn't earned yours yet. I agree with CAD, go for a swinging relationship if one dick aint enough for her. That way she'll also be working to get you some strange pussy.

Also, post pics of her pls. That will go a long way in determining whether other dudes can be trusted around her.

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lol she's got a breeder's body, so unfortunately other guys cannot be trusted around her. But hey if things do end up going south I may let ya see.

Soygen_sl said:

My girlfriend is obsessed with cleaning, even to the point of being annoying sometimes. I guess I'll take that over the opposite.

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I'm not sure which I'd take. I let the mail pile up for about a week before clearing it out but my wife will literally let it pile up forever if I don't tell her to open this shit up and throw it away. It isn't that our house is a wreck or anything. She's in charge of cleaning the bathrooms weekly and doing the laundry. I'm in charge of vacuuming the house, dusting as required and I generally do the "generic pickup" stuff as well. But when it is her own stuff and I don't know what to do with it that stuff just sits around forever. Like her dresser in the bedroom has random shit on it from at least 6 months ago. I'm also an anti-hoarder where if I'm currently not using an item I throw it away where she tends to keep stuff around I feel is useless. [Case in point: I tried to throw away my old ass Gameboy Color with Pokemon Gold. She insisted we keep it incase we find someone who wants it. I was like ...this is a fucking 15 year old system!] Our house is generally clean but it is just not everything has a place -- and most of that shit is her stuff. Its just different from what I grew up in because my mom was obsessed with everything being put back and in a place when I was younger. It is just sometimes I get into a mood where seeing this shit strewn about irritates me and I clean up. Worse is when she bitches that I'm cleaning up because she is watching TV and my cleaning up is "disturbing her" lol.

I'll also note I'm probably like Noodle. I'm just venting. It isn't really that big a deal.

Daly_sl said:

lol she's got a breeder's body, so unfortunately other guys cannot be trusted around her. But hey if things do end up going south I may let ya see.

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I'm not exactly sure what that means, but I am intrigued. Does that mean I have to cheer against your relationship?

Haast_sl said:

I'm not exactly sure what that means, but I am intrigued. Does that mean I have to cheer against your relationship?

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Yes.

Cad_sl said:

My wife is the same way. I have to get her to STOP cleaning so we can watch a show or go someplace. We can literally be running 30 minutes late and know damn well people are waiting on us and she's sweeping under the table and rearranging this and that.

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Me too, My collage drinking buddies came over last week and my wife flipped out and started cleaning frantically. I lived with these guys for years and it was a freaking disgusting pit as it should...she did not seem to understand non one was going to care....if my mom is coming over I am mandated to give 24 hours notice for cleaning.

Its actually pretty awesome. Her mom is very much the opposite, which is why she says she is the way she is. One passive aggressive comment comparing her to her mother gets shit in line really quickly.

Interesting that Daly yadayada'd over the formation of the relationship in his story.

She had a death so came back home, stayed with me
Yadayada moving in?

Does she know you are boyfriend/Girlfriend?

IMO you need to figure out if she cheated or not, come to terms with it or not, but this shit needs to be figured out before you waste much time. I was in a similar situation a decade or so ago, was cheated on, got back together, one day I just thought, You know I don't think I want to spend the rest of my life worrying about cheating so I need to move on, I did it was a huge moment as I had really only been in 2 relationships before and was very insecure, (she was also really hot)

Hahaha yea she's well aware we are in a relationship. Also, there's 11 years of history between us. I figured I already wrote enough paragraphs of text to try to get the issue at hand explained.

Tenks_sl said:

Its hilarious my wife's mom doesn't work. My wife's now youngest sibling is 16 years old. She still constantly talks about how much shit she has to do. What she "has to do" pretty much consists of sleeping in the afternoon and watching Animal Planet. You'd think her house would be spotless since she now doesn't have a job and also doesn't really have to take care of a kid (though she over babies this kid -- I fear for him growing up) but nope its still kind of messy when we go over. Its hilarious. Unfortuantely my wife also inherited the "omg I'm so busy I can't clean" gene so I've just decided to make peace with that and be the one in charge of keeping messes under control.

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LOL I kept reading. Noodle we're married to the same person. When I ask her to clean up her shit I get tons of passive aggressive shit. The only difference is she talks shit to our dog and not our kid since we don't have one. Like I said anymore I just do it myself. But it helps I really only work 9-4. But honestly constantly thinking about a mess is more stressful to me than spending the 10-30m it takes to just clean it up.

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Yeah man. I mean I work the same hours but I have the worst commute in the history of the universe. But I'll sit at work and constantly be thinking about how destroyed our house is. It stresses me out because I'm tired as FUCK when I get home and I have to deal with it.

The worst room is my "office" . Two weeks before the baby was due she destroyed the room to go through some shit she had. It looks like a hoarders room. Well guess what? The kid came two weeks early so it's still destroyed. She tells me not to touch it because she's getting to it. Room is completely unusable. It's being turned into my man cave / office, maybe in another 10 years or something.

Today I came home and she bought one of those gate systems to make a caged in area for our soon. The fucking piece of shit is 36 square feet and takes up the entire living room. We literally cannot have anyone over until he's done using it.

Fucking christ. Kill me now.

Noodlemod_sl said:

Today I came home and she bought one of those gate systems to make a caged in area for our soon. The fucking piece of shit is 36 square feet and takes up the entire living room. We literally cannot have anyone over until he's done using it.

Fucking christ. Kill me now.

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Hey bros

Noodlemod_sl said:

Yeah man. I mean I work the same hours but I have the worst commute in the history of the universe. But I'll sit at work and constantly be thinking about how destroyed our house is. It stresses me out because I'm tired as FUCK when I get home and I have to deal with it.

The worst room is my "office" . Two weeks before the baby was due she destroyed the room to go through some shit she had. It looks like a hoarders room. Well guess what? The kid came two weeks early so it's still destroyed. She tells me not to touch it because she's getting to it. Room is completely unusable. It's being turned into my man cave / office, maybe in another 10 years or something.

Today I came home and she bought one of those gate systems to make a caged in area for our soon. The fucking piece of shit is 36 square feet and takes up the entire living room. We literally cannot have anyone over until he's done using it.

Fucking christ. Kill me now.

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Time for you to express your expectations on how you want to live. I "NEED" this office clean and kept clean, we will now make this a "no clutter room" i need this in order to keep my sanity. Clean it (with out anger or blame) and be a freaking Nazi about that one room going forward being clutter free.

If that does not work take out your wifes phone and rub your balls against the screen then put it down and look her straight in the eye and say "ya, that just happened"
(i did this today, will report back when she starts talking to me again)