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Marriage and the Power of Divorce
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Gavinmad
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All sympathy to tarrant for his homefront situation sucking but i suspect he is so fucking dumb he doesn't know alpha and beta exist as anything other than redpill words.
Jk tarrant.
Jk tarrant.
Kirun
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I don't really understand how my post is remotely "redpill".
A relationship needs to be reciprocal, period. If you aren't getting anything out of it that you couldn't do on your own/wouldn'twantto do on your own, what's the fucking point? If a wife/partner puts in her 8 hours, comes home, and shares the home duties, I see absolutely no problem with making her feel "special" every now and then. And the same goes for her. If your man is busting his ass at work for 8+ hours, comes home, helps with the kids, mows the lawn, whatthefuckever, treat him like The King every once in a while.
What I take issue with are lazy housewives who have punched their early retirement ticket and want "housewife" to be their "full-time" job. And you know what? More power to you if that's the choice you and your partner arrived at. However, the kids should be cared for, fed, clothed, washed, house well kept, etc. That's the JOB you decided you wanted to be hired for, so do it and do it well. I don't know about your line of work, but in mine, if you slack off or otherwise do a shitty job, you get fired. The boss doesn't take you out for a spa day because you got so flustered by all that was on your plate for the week that you only managed to do half of your workload. Good work should be rewarded and shown appreciation for, absolutely. Laundry piles, shit scattered to the winds, messy diapers, etc.? Go fuck yourself.
Hoss
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You might be screwing up man. It's possible she already feels plenty of love from you. But odds are if she was moved into making changes to make you feel more loved then she's not feeling it either. She might very well be trying to save your marriage right now and you're attitude is really fuck it, don't have time for the bitch she should be happy with 3 hots and a cot?
How much time do you think it'll take to make her happy? Unless her thing is quality time it doesn't take long at all.
Khane
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Blazin
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I'll share my anecdotal story on the flip side of the coin of keeping house. This past year I closed my business and began working from home working on managing investments and commercial properties that I own. I make a decent living doing this, but it had changed things rather dramatically on the homefront. My wife views it as "retirement" and I now handle most of the kid issues, shopping, cleaning, laundry, cooking etc. Which I don't really mind and normally just take care of things when the market is closed, but it has given me a new perspective on household chores/duties. My wife has several times referred to only one of us "working" and it stings, I do my best to keep on top of things but I can see how being the one at home can make a partner feel like they have to prove their value while the other rarely worries about if they are "contributing" enough.
When I was earning a lot of money over the past almost two decades I don't think I gave much thought to whether I was earning my keep. I do think it's interesting from the biological/evolutionary standpoint, I'm not sure what degree these behaviors are ingrained in our chemistry for men to be more comfortable "providing" versus "maintaining/nurturing" or if it's poorly cultural. It hasn't been even a year yet but I feel like a fish out of water in this role, and to a degree I now feel trapped because I can tell my wife is enjoying not having to do a whole list of things and wouldn't want it to go back the other way.
When I was earning a lot of money over the past almost two decades I don't think I gave much thought to whether I was earning my keep. I do think it's interesting from the biological/evolutionary standpoint, I'm not sure what degree these behaviors are ingrained in our chemistry for men to be more comfortable "providing" versus "maintaining/nurturing" or if it's poorly cultural. It hasn't been even a year yet but I feel like a fish out of water in this role, and to a degree I now feel trapped because I can tell my wife is enjoying not having to do a whole list of things and wouldn't want it to go back the other way.
Noodleface
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Yeah our marriage isn't on the rocks or anything. If you recall, I was doing EVERYTHING and she was doing nothing. Now she's doing some stuff so I can relax. I still buy her stuff and treat her well. It's not like I come home, eat the meal she made, lay some pipe and roll over and go to bed.
I know people love to take everything I say and tear it apart so I'll leave it at that.
I know people love to take everything I say and tear it apart so I'll leave it at that.
Tarrant
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You're only missing horns to fill your new role in this thread. And a Jurassic Park Truck.
Noodleface
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moonarchia
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No Noodlebutt, I was asking out of concern. Balance is a thing. She is going out of her way to improve for you after you requested it. If you aren't being especially appreciative about it it can very easily blow up in your face.
Khane
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Haha out of her way? Being a normal human being who doesn't horde shit and actually cleans up after themselves is now going out of your way?
It's like that Chris Rock skit where he talks about men bragging about being a decent father and expecting accolades. That's what you're supposed to do!
It's like that Chris Rock skit where he talks about men bragging about being a decent father and expecting accolades. That's what you're supposed to do!
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While I entirely agree with you, it is clear she's making more of an effort than she had been. Perhaps a date night, or something like flowers to say, "hey, I have noticed you're trying harder, and I appreciate it." might be in order.
But, whatever.*shrug*
Khane
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I'm not saying to ignore it and never say thank you for dinner or do shit that lets her know you love her. I'm just offering commentary on things like pretending she's somehow going above and beyond and insinuating this new behavior is somehow a retaliation against noodle and that he needs to shape up and recognize. Some crazy thought process going on in some of these recent posts.
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Noodleface
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