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Maybe I really should look elsewhere. That's not what I'm looking for in a dating site. That's why I originally asked about sites centered around professionals.
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...You do realize that regardless of age or occupation, 99% of the population wants to fuck, right? The other 1% are basically asexual. Dating websites facilitate the finding of people that meet whatever standards people have for who they are going to fuck. You will not find a dating website, not even Christian Mingle, that doesn't adhere to this basic principle.
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You do realize that fucking someone isn't that great of an accomplishment. Maybe I'm actually looking for something more. I enjoy sex as the next guy, or maybe I don't. I never found it that difficult to find someone to have sex with.
Sorry I brought it up to begin with. Was looking for women in the professional world whose main motive wasn't to gold dig. In the past when I've tried meeting during the breaks with my long term girlfriend of 19 or so years that seemed to be what I attracted with great ease.
Sorry I brought it up to begin with. Was looking for women in the professional world whose main motive wasn't to gold dig. In the past when I've tried meeting during the breaks with my long term girlfriend of 19 or so years that seemed to be what I attracted with great ease.
Who said it was an accomplishment? It is just what people are looking for. Your requirement is that it not involve a woman just after your money and that it is more than just sex. OK. If it involved "something more" and zero sex, would that be interesting? No. So you're looking for someone to fuck who meets other requirements. Good news, dating websites are designed to facilitate that.
He covered that, she wouldn't sign a pre-nup. So it was basically marriage in all but name and eventually they got divorced in all but name. Makes perfect sense to me, but then I grew up around a ton of gold diggers.
It sounds like you have a lot of personal contacts even within your professional relationships, why not ask them if they can think of anyone they'd be willing to set you up with. If they can't, then they aren't qualified or capable of writing your online dating profile either (because they either don't know you well enough, or aren't truly interested in finding you what you're looking for).
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Put that you make 50K a year under the "income" part of your dating profile. Now you don't have to worry about gold diggers. However, there are "true" gold diggers-- those that are only interested in money or a cushy life, and then there is a huge swath of women that just want someone "successful", which generally translates to "affluent". This crowd doesn't consciously want you for your money and aren't necessarily looking for early retirement when you slip the ring on, but they are looking for a certain "lifestyle" down the road. The first category is easy to avoid using my ProTip, the latter I've just accepted as a fact of life.
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I agree, but there's a bit of a double standard there. I can't tell you how often I get lambasted (even in this thread) because I don't want to date a broke woman.
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Broke, no. But I know a guy who is a teacher, and getting a quality woman has proven difficult purely because of his income. It's been proven that income/height are the two most important qualities women look for in a dating profile. Adjust either factor upwards in your profile and watch the number of "winks" and emails start rolling in. When I changed jobs years back and was dating online, simply incrementing my income accordingly caused a deluge of "winks" to flow in the next day, most likely because I was initially filtered out of their search due to my income.
I always hid my income in my online dating profile (or left it lower than it actually was) and didn't really have problems. Perhaps your friend is making excuses to something outside his control because it's easier to think that since he's a lower income guy thats why he isn't getting dates?
Granted this is also when I was like 25. I'm sure as you get older it becomes more important to women.
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What if she was 9+, smart, engaging, made killer pancakes, but only ever wanted to work as a clerk at a health food store?
EDIT - Just saying, I bet you have your limits on the career thing.
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I did a little experiment once. I never had all that hard a time getting dates on these sites but I found that professional women's response rates to my messages were way lower than non-professional. This is when I did not have my income listed. So then I listed my income to see if it would make a difference. I got even less responses from professional women. But my responses and especially the amount of messages I received without sending a message first from non-professional women fucking skyrocketed. I had almost 100% response rate from hair dressers and bartenders.
It's like women with decent careers have some sort of internal strife and turmoil about actually wanting a man who has a career. So they want someone who makes more money than they do, but if you list it you must be a show-off and they certainly don't want that. Who the fuck knows...
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No I really don't. I will never be part of a relationship where it is expected of me to be the sole provider. Ever. I went down that road twice in the past and both times money and ambition were the biggest catalysts to me breaking things off. That is a road I won't travel again.
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Well, "problems" is a relative term in online dating. When I made half as much as I do now, I didn't perceive any problems, but when I incremented my income when my salary went up, suddenly I got flooded with emails and winks. That created relativity and the perception that there was one, because suddenly now I was getting twice as many emails, from generally much more attractive women.
As for my friend, he's been straight up told by dates that they don't feel that he can support a family on a teacher's income. He's definitely no Don Juan, so there can be other contributing factors, but being fed that line by a date is certainly an ego blow.
I'll state that where you're located makes a big difference in the above claim. For instance, when I lived in Montreal I didn't get the feeling that income mattered as much to women as say here in Dallas.