The Ask Kuriin, A Gay Man, Anything Thread

Kuriin_sl said:

Last I checked, many fags that aren't fat love sports and don't shave their beard/goatee and like music outside of techno and crap. I bet you identify yourself as "straight-acting", don't you?

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Kuriin_sl said:

Last I checked, many fags that aren't fat love sports and don't shave their beard/goatee and like music outside of techno and crap. I bet you identify yourself as "straight-acting", don't you?

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In male bisexual and gay culture, a Bear is a large, hairy man who projects an image of rugged masculinity. Bears are one of many LGBT communities with events, codes, and a culture-specific identity.
The term Bear was popularized by Richard Bulger, who, along with his then partner Chris Nelson (1960-2006) founded Bear Magazine in 1987. There is some contention surrounding whether Bulger originated the term and the subculture's conventions. George Mazzei, for example, wrote an article for The Advocate in 1979 called "Who's Who in the Zoo?", that characterized homosexuals as seven types of animals, including bears.[1]


Bears celebrating the 2007 International Bear Rendezvous, an annual gathering of bears and bear-lovers held in San Francisco
Some Bears place importance on presenting a hypermasculine image and may shun interaction with, and even disdain, men who exhibit effeminacy.[2] The Bear concept can function as an identity, an affiliation, and there is ongoing debate in Bear communities about what constitutes a Bear, however a consensus exists that inclusion is an important part of the Bear community.[3][4] In particular, many bear community organizations define inclusiveness as a central value of the movement, such that anyone who supports values such as "having a good attitude to life, friends and helping the local community", is welcome in the Bear community regardless of appearance,[5] although the view that physical characteristics are central to the Bear identity is still seen in many other definitions.[5]
Bears are almost always gay or bisexual men. Increasingly, transgender or transsexual men (trans men) and those who shun labels for gender and sexuality are also included within Bear communities. However, heterosexual men who have Bearish physical traits and are affirming of their gay friends and family (or their gay fans, in the case of a celebrity) may also be informally accorded "honorary" Bear status.[6] A smaller number of lesbians, particularly butch dykes, also participate in Bear culture, referring to themselves with the distinct label of ursula.[7]

The AIDS devastation in San Francisco accelerated the generation gap between older and younger Bear-identified men, peaking in the early 1990s. Some older survivors claim that the current Bear culture has become "shallow and catty," which is also their common criticism of mainstream gay culture. The allegation is that the younger Bear community no longer reflects the culture's original function as a social alternative for primarily rural and blue-collar, traditionally masculine gay men. Moreover, the proliferation of Bear pageants and their title winners ("sash Bears") runs contrary to the early Bear community's identification with and admiration for unself-conscious masculinity

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Kuriin_sl said:

I'm all for guys fucking guys up the butt and all. But, seems like "shunning eliminate men" means straight-acting. Just cause you guys are fat does not mean you are masculine. It means you'll probably die of diabetes or a heart attack or a stroke before anyone else.

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