The Ask Kuriin, A Gay Man, Anything Thread
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Famm
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Aaron
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OK here's one. Now, I don't mind what people's sexual orientation is, or at what age they discover it or proclaim it (child or adult). But what really rustles my jimmies is when you have children under 18 (some even prepubescent) starting to take hormones or even having surgery due to being trans-gender. Personally I think only adults should have this done.
What's you're thoughts on this? Is it OK to lop a boy's dick off just because he says he's a she (or for a girl to have a dick sowed on for that matter)? Is the GLBT community generally pro or against treatment/surgery on children?
Note: I'm not against children coming out or anything. I just think you need to be an adult before you start taking pills or chopping/gluing stuff off/on.
What's you're thoughts on this? Is it OK to lop a boy's dick off just because he says he's a she (or for a girl to have a dick sowed on for that matter)? Is the GLBT community generally pro or against treatment/surgery on children?
Note: I'm not against children coming out or anything. I just think you need to be an adult before you start taking pills or chopping/gluing stuff off/on.
Just for your pleasure, a sad update: We went out for dinner and drinks last night. After we left, did our usual goodnight hug, kiss, "I love you". I get a text later that I apparently gave him a "wet" kiss. Honestly had no clue I did. But he got mad and said no more and he thinks I did it on purpose.
Khane
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And then he went and told all his straight friends how you violated him so he can feel better about himself in some small, insignificant way.Just for your pleasure, a sad update: We went out for dinner and drinks last night. After we left, did our usual goodnight hug, kiss, "I love you". I get a text later that I apparently gave him a "wet" kiss. Honestly had no clue I did. But he got mad and said no more and he thinks I did it on purpose.
Void
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Unless you are both European, that is some of the weirdest shit I've ever heard. Your friend has to be at least bi-curious in order for any of this to be happening, but not even wanting a "wet" kiss would mean that he just isn't curious about you...which brings us back full circle to why he even does those things with you.
Everyone else has pretty much summed it up, but this is no different than a friend-zoning woman, so the only solution is for you to realize it is never going to happen and move on. Whether that means cutting the cord or not is up to you, but you need to stop thinking you have a chance. If you do have a chance, moving on will give it to you better than what you're doing now, and if you don't have a chance...well, you'll have moved on.
Sorry, it sucks when chicks do it, so I feel for you, but you need to hear it.
Everyone else has pretty much summed it up, but this is no different than a friend-zoning woman, so the only solution is for you to realize it is never going to happen and move on. Whether that means cutting the cord or not is up to you, but you need to stop thinking you have a chance. If you do have a chance, moving on will give it to you better than what you're doing now, and if you don't have a chance...well, you'll have moved on.
Sorry, it sucks when chicks do it, so I feel for you, but you need to hear it.
Hoss
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Assuming some of you gays are black. Blacks are kind of notorious for not liking to give oral. Is that true amongst black gays too? I'd imagine black lesbians couldn't really avoid it, but then they don't have the same bad rap that black guys do.
Along the same lines, is any one race more likely to be gay? For instance, does the racial makeup of the gay population of the US generally mimic the racial makeup of the population as a whole?
Along the same lines, is any one race more likely to be gay? For instance, does the racial makeup of the gay population of the US generally mimic the racial makeup of the population as a whole?
iannis
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Whites are more likely to be openly gay than blacks are (which makes it a difficult subject of study), but as far as I know there is no great genetic disparity between queerness between the races. Among cultures, sure.
Alex
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Kuriin
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My partner had a black boyfriend who did not suck dick but liked giving oral to a woman, if I recall correctly. I think it was his black upbringing as that community is very shamed of gays (hence the downlow shit).
Big Phoenix
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Loser Araysar
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jesus, just when you thought it couldnt get any gayerJust for your pleasure, a sad update: We went out for dinner and drinks last night. After we left, did our usual goodnight hug, kiss, "I love you". I get a text later that I apparently gave him a "wet" kiss. Honestly had no clue I did. But he got mad and said no more and he thinks I did it on purpose.
Frenzied Wombat
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Is it just me, or is there a higher percentage of flamboyant screaming-queen type black gay guys than white? It seems whenever I see a black gay guy he's got a major lisp, finger snappin' like there is no tomorrow, and is working the makeup counter at MAC.
iannis
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I remember making some offhanded comment about a coworker to another coworker. Something like, "That's gayer than Jerome". And then she says, "Oh no. Don't say that to him. He's not out."
The dude used to literally prance.
So maybe it's that there's a higher percentage of flamboyant screaming-queen type blackstraightguys.
Edit: And honestly, there's more white ones anyway. You REALLY notice the black ones, cause they're such a rare spawn.
The dude used to literally prance.
So maybe it's that there's a higher percentage of flamboyant screaming-queen type blackstraightguys.
Edit: And honestly, there's more white ones anyway. You REALLY notice the black ones, cause they're such a rare spawn.
BrutulTM
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If a smaller percentage of gay guys in the black community are out of the closet, then it stands to reason that the ones you know about would tend to be the more flamboyant ones that can't hide it as easily. I do think that straight black guys do tend to be a bit more flamboyant than straight white guys as well, but that might be because I've been watching Treme.
