I seriously don't know Araysar either here or in RL. Not sure why everyone thinks I do.
The Ask Kuriin, A Gay Man, Anything Thread
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Loser Araysar
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they're just trying to gay-smear me in some half assed attempt at rustling my jimmies.
i dont have a problem admitting i know color theory and used to use a color wheel to coordinate what i wear. i proudly own that shit.
i dont have a problem admitting i know color theory and used to use a color wheel to coordinate what i wear. i proudly own that shit.
Big Phoenix
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BrutulTM
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I thought of a gay question today. How do you feel about people who stay in the closet? I know some gay people are really down on anyone that stays in the closet as if it's immoral to do so, although I'm not sure why. Any thoughts on this?
Blackyce
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My gaydar is screaming right now. Do you call them curtains or window treatments?
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I wear a shirt and tie often. What colour shirt should be relegated to black pants, what colours to brown pants, what colours to khaki pants?
ZyyzYzzy
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Blackyce
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Personally I don't care if you're in the closet or not. Being an older (over 40) gay man, coming out was a very difficult and painful experience for me back in the 80's. I wouldn't wish it on anyone.
What I really can't stand though is someone who is in the closet, gets married and has kids. Now you're just fucking with other people and you're going to ruin a few lives because of your selfishness. At least just be single and try to fucking hide it. Don't go getting married and having kids to try to cover it up. I even know some dude who got married twice and has kids with both wives. That's just fucking selfish and assholish.
Some people really value the traditional life and family that just happen to want gay sex on the side.
BrutulTM
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I agree with that. The kids are one thing, but letting some poor woman spend years of her life in a relationship that is based on a lie is just wrong. I can't imagine that those couples have a good sex life either.
Many straight couples don't have a good sex life, so I imagine they'd be nearly indistinguishable.
Qhue
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I tend to try and live by the "Mind your own business" model of social interaction and so am mostly inclined to let closeted people live their closeted lives but with the proviso that once their closeted nature starts to directly impact other people in a negative manner then all bets are off. So if you make some woman's life hell because she is your unwitting beard while you engage in activities on the 'down low' then that's a problem.
The failing of such a policy is that it helps to perpetuate a lot of gross stereotypes about individuals. The more 'normal' you are the easier it becomes to remain hidden or at least unobtrusive. If the only visible example of a Star Trek fan is the overweight pimply socially maladjusted nerd living in his parents basement then people are going to have pretty bad impressions of people who like Star Trek. Same thing with flamboyantly over the top gay men and gruff flannel-wearing lesbians.
The failing of such a policy is that it helps to perpetuate a lot of gross stereotypes about individuals. The more 'normal' you are the easier it becomes to remain hidden or at least unobtrusive. If the only visible example of a Star Trek fan is the overweight pimply socially maladjusted nerd living in his parents basement then people are going to have pretty bad impressions of people who like Star Trek. Same thing with flamboyantly over the top gay men and gruff flannel-wearing lesbians.
BrutulTM
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That makes sense. If people know someone who's gay then it's harder to be prejudiced so I could see where some people would think that everyone should come out so people will be able to see how many gay people that there really are out there and that they are normal people then there will be less negative sentiment against gays.
iannis
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5-10% isn't a lot. You probably know one or two. (And humans being humans... if you know one, you probably know at least two). If all it was was fear of the unfamiliar then black people. There are over observed specious stereotypes which serve hateful ends, no doubt.
Allowing the social justice warriors to label everything "racism" hasn't worked out too well for the black community. They're just exploited twice. Labeling everything "homophobia" isn't going to work out too well for the homosexual one. I understand you're not saying that or actively implying it in any way. It's just that... good lord the dumb fucking people... they'll take it that way and they'll run with it.
But, to be fair, I have the feeling that a lot of them (the gays,thosepeople) honestly feel that being treated like American Inventors would be an improvement. And maybe it would be. I don't live their life.
Some of the property rights issues genuinely are fucked up.
Allowing the social justice warriors to label everything "racism" hasn't worked out too well for the black community. They're just exploited twice. Labeling everything "homophobia" isn't going to work out too well for the homosexual one. I understand you're not saying that or actively implying it in any way. It's just that... good lord the dumb fucking people... they'll take it that way and they'll run with it.
But, to be fair, I have the feeling that a lot of them (the gays,thosepeople) honestly feel that being treated like American Inventors would be an improvement. And maybe it would be. I don't live their life.
Some of the property rights issues genuinely are fucked up.
BrutulTM
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If I only know 20 people then your math is dead on there. I actually know considerably more than that though (people, not homosexual people). I am personally skeptical of the 5-10% number based on my personal experience though, but the community you live in makes a pretty big difference in that.
Qhue
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Asian Americans make up 5.8% of the U.S. Population according to our dear friends at the Census Bureau, so if you mentally tag every asian you see tomorrow while walking around as "gay" then you get an idea of what sort of magnitude we're talking about here.
As to the validity of the 5-10% number? Who really knows. Sexual orientation is really hard to get good statistics on, but chances are that if you live in a more urban area that you are probably higher than 10%, especially if you are in California, New York, Florida, or Massachusetts.
Also depends on what exactly you mean by "gay", Kinsey's research showed that there was more of a spectrum of sexuality rather than a binary on-off switch. I've personally questioned that assertion as I have absolutely zero attraction to women at all, but that does not seem to be the case for everyone. A great many straight guys seem more than willing to experiment at least once, but I don't think that means they are "gay" or even "bi".
As to the validity of the 5-10% number? Who really knows. Sexual orientation is really hard to get good statistics on, but chances are that if you live in a more urban area that you are probably higher than 10%, especially if you are in California, New York, Florida, or Massachusetts.
Also depends on what exactly you mean by "gay", Kinsey's research showed that there was more of a spectrum of sexuality rather than a binary on-off switch. I've personally questioned that assertion as I have absolutely zero attraction to women at all, but that does not seem to be the case for everyone. A great many straight guys seem more than willing to experiment at least once, but I don't think that means they are "gay" or even "bi".