The Girls Who Broke Your Heart Thread

Dabamf_sl said:

I never understood guys who put up with unstable women who act like that. I don't know the answer because I've never dealt with it, but I imagine it's something like (1)staying calm and (2)absolutely never putting up with it (ie tell them why you're leaving and just go home). When people have tried to pass some ridiculous accusations at me or are being unreasonable, I always say that we both know they are being unreasonable and that I feel insulted they would think they can pull that shit with me.

If you engage emotionally you automatically lose. And if you repeatedly date women like that, you should look at why you are attracting that kind of woman.

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And in actuality, engaging them emotionally works better than engaging them logically. Logic really seems to piss them off and these fights historically come to an end when they finally push me to the brink and I rage, at which point they cry and say they're sorry and want to make up.

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McCheese_sl said:

And then the awesome crazy make up sex happens, which is the one shining beacon of light when dealing with the crazy.

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Frenzied Wombat_sl said:

Sorry, you either haven't dated much, live in female Nirvana, or have an amazing ability to vet a woman's behavior-- both present and future. To somehow have gotten this far in life without ever dating an irrational overly-emotional chick is honestly an accomplishment. I'm not in all honesty doubting you, because if you had dated one of these chicks, you would know that using calm logic like "you are being unreasonable" is like throwing kerosene on the fire.

And in actuality, engaging them emotionally works better than engaging them logically. Logic really seems to piss them off and these fights historically come to an end when they finally push me to the brink and I rage, at which point they cry and say they're sorry and want to make up.

I won't dispute that I potentially attract crazies though, but I do think that statistically there are more crazy chicks out there than sane.

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violentsalad_sl said:

Bill Burr video

Pretty much, ignorance is bliss.

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Frenzied Wombat_sl said:

Like a few days ago the GF goes into a rampage because I mention going back to a restaurant we had gone to a few months ago. She insists we've never been there. I say she's wrong, we have, and even remind her what she ordered. She looks up the restaurant on her phone and says she doesn't recognize it and "I must be confusing her with some other girl I took". I sigh and tell her I'll take her there tomorrow and prove it to her, mentioning the dessert we had. She suddenly remembers saying "Oh yeah, that's the place you made me feel fat asshole" and then escalates the fight to shouting levels saying I was "pompously" trying to prove her wrong by saying I would taker her back AND continues to harp on how shitty I made her feel that night at the restaurant THREE MONTHS AGO. Any mention of "why the fuck are we arguing about something that is ancient history" is just like adding fuel to the fire.

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Famm_sl said:

I bet every one of those chicks comes from broken marriages, single mothers, daddy issues, raised by grandparents, etc. Many of them likely worse, like prior child sexual abuse.

You talk about vetting girls, that's one of the most important things, if not the biggest thing, to find out. What was their upbringing and what is their parents' current status and what is their relationship with both parents like as an adult?

Unless you just want to fuck them, the crazy ones are best at that anyway.

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Dabamf_sl said:

I broke my longest-ever dry spell. hurray

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Palum_sl said:

Soooo, huh. No one's posted anything for awhile so I might as well ramble a bit.

Went out with this chick on Friday, pretty cool and cute to boot. She was 'retail outgoing', IE she could talk about anything but herself. She was obviously very shy/reserved/nervous so I guess I wasn't surprised when she dodged the goodnight kiss, but says she wants to go out again. Send her a text later to make sure she got home safely (fuck you, seemed like the thing to do after another drink) and she apologized for being awkward but said she had a good time. So I made a joke about how I'll simply add a kiss to her tab for next time.

At this point she says with 'Oh, so you say but I never had any interest in pursuing it further!

I honestly thought you were just enjoying my company!'
So I made the best of that unholy bear trap and responded 'I did, those things aren't mutually exclusive you know.'

So yea, probably fucked with that one but this afternoon I sent her a link to a youtube video I had promised to send her yesterday anyway and we chatted a bit. So in said conversation I told her I needed to hit the range now that all the preppers had finished buying ammo and said she should come (because I'm stupid, maybe?). To which she said yes, except she didn't know her schedule next weekend yet but would let me know ("for sure"). I don't mind the shy/awkward thing but I'm not going to do the "let's 'friend' date and hang out for 8 months until maybe you want something else". So we'll see, I guess.

Which brings me to this next point, in that before that conversation today, I decided to ask this other chick out. I didn't initially because she didn't seem my type (very proper and polite conversation) but I kind of warmed up to the idea that she wasn't a complete prude after a few more exchanges. Year older, not as cute but much more outgoing (figure skater and shit). That'll be some evening this week when we can figure out a time.

Dating two chicks at the same time has never ended well for me. Usually just a time thing, where I am slightly more interested in one so I 'ignore' the other a bit too much only to submarine the first choice anyway. So now I'm wondering if I should simply preempt myself and assume that chick 1 is a lost cause for one text which could have been an awkward or shitty joke and bag the one that means business or try and walk the line again.

Blargh.

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Palum_sl said:

Soooo, huh. No one's posted anything for awhile so I might as well ramble a bit.

Went out with this chick on Friday, pretty cool and cute to boot. She was 'retail outgoing', IE she could talk about anything but herself. She was obviously very shy/reserved/nervous so I guess I wasn't surprised when she dodged the goodnight kiss, but says she wants to go out again. Send her a text later to make sure she got home safely (fuck you, seemed like the thing to do after another drink) and she apologized for being awkward but said she had a good time. So I made a joke about how I'll simply add a kiss to her tab for next time.

At this point she says with 'Oh, so you say but I never had any interest in pursuing it further!

I honestly thought you were just enjoying my company!'
So I made the best of that unholy bear trap and responded 'I did, those things aren't mutually exclusive you know.'

So yea, probably fucked with that one but this afternoon I sent her a link to a youtube video I had promised to send her yesterday anyway and we chatted a bit. So in said conversation I told her I needed to hit the range now that all the preppers had finished buying ammo and said she should come (because I'm stupid, maybe?). To which she said yes, except she didn't know her schedule next weekend yet but would let me know ("for sure"). I don't mind the shy/awkward thing but I'm not going to do the "let's 'friend' date and hang out for 8 months until maybe you want something else". So we'll see, I guess.

Which brings me to this next point, in that before that conversation today, I decided to ask this other chick out. I didn't initially because she didn't seem my type (very proper and polite conversation) but I kind of warmed up to the idea that she wasn't a complete prude after a few more exchanges. Year older, not as cute but much more outgoing (figure skater and shit). That'll be some evening this week when we can figure out a time.

Dating two chicks at the same time has never ended well for me. Usually just a time thing, where I am slightly more interested in one so I 'ignore' the other a bit too much only to submarine the first choice anyway. So now I'm wondering if I should simply preempt myself and assume that chick 1 is a lost cause for one text which could have been an awkward or shitty joke and bag the one that means business or try and walk the line again.

Blargh.

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Johnny49_sl said:

I miss my Hooker/Girlfriend....I wonder how she is doing.....

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