The Girls Who Broke Your Heart Thread

I watch that video every time it's posted somewhere. So good.

Wow I haven't heard Bill Burr's standup in forever. That set was absolutely brilliant and hilarious

The whole special that bit was from was good. Tons of excellent woman advice.

I feel like Bill Burr might be a better comic/commentator than Lois C.K.

But then again, C.K. is prolific as hell. Burr can save it up and distill out the not-as-good or excessively arty and self-indulgent parts.

He's my favorite living Comedian.

I'm gonna have to scour the Internet for his comedy sets. Thoroughly impressed by that clips and a special I saw on YouTube

Not a broken heart, but my penis is a bit sad at the moment. I've been seeing this girl but during sex whenever I start to get really into it, she slows me down telling me that it hurts. I'm no donkey dick, the problem is that this girl still has tight vaginal walls. I know, right. I havent had to deal with this stuff since I was sixteen. I asked her if she was a virgin (she doesnt fuck like one) or what. She said that she had a boyfriend for 12 years. Although I was really drunk when she told me that so I might have gotten that wrong. She's so small that when she's on top it does hurt me, so I know what she's talking about.

Is this a job for lube, or with more time and effort will this work itself out? Other advice?

Usually I adjust positions. I'm not saying I'm a freak of nature either, but I've got enough that for certain girls like you're saying it can be a lot. That's usually not a bad thing but I find that you can't flip a smaller girl over and pound away doggie with her face down/ass up like you could with a taller or larger girl. Does she prefer on top? Some shorter/smaller girls seem to, they can control things more and not have you jamming it into her cervix. It kinda sucks, with a short enough girl you almost can't even do missionary with any good force. Then again I'm well over six feet and at this point I wouldn't go for a shorter girl again, largely because of all these sexual reasons.

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dangler_sl said:

Not a broken heart, but my penis is a bit sad at the moment. I've been seeing this girl but during sex whenever I start to get really into it, she slows me down telling me that it hurts. I'm no donkey dick, the problem is that this girl still has tight vaginal walls. I know, right. I havent had to deal with this stuff since I was sixteen. I asked her if she was a virgin (she doesnt fuck like one) or what. She said that she had a boyfriend for 12 years. Although I was really drunk when she told me that so I might have gotten that wrong. She's so small that when she's on top it does hurt me, so I know what she's talking about.

Is this a job for lube, or with more time and effort will this work itself out? Other advice?

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It's a stretchable organ. It'll autocorrect eventually and in the mean time use lube.

second july in a row I've been cheated on. both were the 'good girls' that everyone thought were absolute sweethearts and anyone who hears is shocked and appalled by the news. worst one is, this one was part of my social circle. someone that not only i saw every day from a relationship standpoint but also someone who is involved in my hobbies and social life. the 'don't shit where you eat' words never felt wiser.

briefly read last two pages, felt like Famm has a lot of women pegged despite his pessimistic outlook. first real bump in the road with our relationship (we actually argued over her drinking) and she jumped at the first chance she had to bail and (in her view) upgrade.

ham_sl said:

briefly read last two pages, felt like Famm has a lot of women pegged despite his pessimistic outlook. first real bump in the road with our relationship (we actually argued over her drinking) and she jumped at the first chance she had to bail and (in her view) upgrade.

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Well, pessimistic about commitment and marriage maybe. I'm not saying never have a girlfriend, but understand what the realities are with women. They have hundreds of times the options of the average man. Quite often a very average girl has hundreds of times more options than a well above average male.

If you had the drop-of-a-hat sort of access to women that they do with men you would likely not give a fuck about being her boyfriend. In a way, that says even more about a woman who can actually bond with you and stick it out through your relationship issues. She could literally drop you as soon as shit gets un-fun and have a new man overnight. You generally don't feel like you can make that move at any given moment. Girls who won't even try to show that restraint, you're better off without her, cliche as that sounds.

How old are you and these girls ham? If you're still in your 20's just keep your options open, this is all helping you eventually decide what you want out of a woman. Even early thirties its not that big of a deal. What's your goal? Marriage? Kids?

You might also consider what kind of girls you're dating and if maybe your social/cultural circle keeps leading you to damaged goods. Two July's, is summer a variable at play here with the partying? I feel like you keep going back to partying/drinking as a recurring theme with your girl issues. Once again, if these girls are younger that's kind of par for the course. Being committed to girls who party is pretty much a futile exercise, its only a matter of time.

Famm you greatly underestimate or are unaware of the power of oxytocin. It's my experience that 25+ yr old girls are typically more committed to their man than the man is, if there is a disparity. I think ham is young, and if we're talking about <25 then nothing else matters. Young girls + summer = fun single time.

Ham, that sucks, and in the same month is rough, but don't go off trying to make some conclusions. Im pretty sure far more breakups happen in the summer than any other season. 2 is also a very small number to easily occur with random variation. Unless you are young, in which case my suggestion is dont worry about relationships and just have fun

I didn't know he wasthatyoung...or maybe he isn't and the girls are.

I admittedly know functionally little of oxytocin but doesn't it affect men as well? I'd have to disagree, anectodally at least I'd say men are by far the more emotional and attached especially at younger ages. Its a common stereotype that the girls are more committed. They certainly make a lot of noise over breakups, but in practice they move on much much faster than the guys whose hearts they break. Especially in the 20's when women have the world at their beck and call and men are still barely more than teenagers socially and romantically.

But yeah, if you're that young just take it in stride and keep dating, no sense in taking it too seriously. I'll be the typical old guy here and say "someday you'll look back and realize that", but as I've said repeatedly here, as a man you can wait until your 40's even to get serious and still be more than fine. In fact its probably a better idea. If you're dating girls under 25 then forget it, that's no age to be trying to tie them down IMO.

It's simple hypergamy and women at their sexual peak + Ham being nowhere near his peak at all.

http://therationalmale.com/2012/06/0...ating-the-smp/

And when you say a woman starts getting more permanently attached at 25+ it's because she's done riding 20-30 cocks during her prime, realizes the wall is fast approaching, and is now looking for a beta provider to start a family "before it's all too late". However, these marriages usually fail in 5-7 years as the woman gets extremely bored of her sycophantic beta husband and decides to take the kids (for the alimony payments alone) and try and have one last ride on the carousel of cocks she was formerly riding during her formative years of 18-27.

And then inevitably she either finds another sucker beta at 40 or starts collecting cats and becoming a huge feminist because she's a fucking moron and doesn't actually know what she wants.

Useful links:
http://therationalmale.com/
http://heartiste.wordpress.com/

If Dumar gets a load of the sexual market value chart he's going to go into overdrive derail mode.

^ lol. Leadsalad seriously hates women

Re xytocin - yes it affects men also. It's the chemical responsible for the "pair bond" feeling and affects both sexes. I don't know a whole lot of details about it, but I brought it up because often it seems like people describe women as ready to "upgrade" at any opportunity and will jump ship whenever something better comes along. This completely ignores the fact that we are essentially chemically tied to our partner, and there is a severe tradeoff that anyone goes through when ending a relationship. They are basically going cold turkey on a fairly addictive drug. So if a chick "upgrades" from you, there is probably a (legitimate) reason she left you. Her being a typical whore is I think a lot less common than guys like to say. Again excluding <25 girls because who knows what the fuck is going on in those brains.

Anyway, oxytocin is a fascinating chemical that has only recently become a focus of researchers. I'd recommend some reading on it if you're interesting in the pair bond phenomenon or what makes us feel close to people in general. I need to do some more reading myself