Lejina
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Jesus christ dude. You know there's plenty of room between 100% aloof asshole and stage 5 clinger, right?
The Girls Who Broke Your Heart Thread
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Guest, it's time once again for the massively important and exciting FoH Asshat Tournament!
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Vanderhoof
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You have to be willing to put yourself out on the line emotionally if you ever want to have a successful relationship. Getting hurt sucks but it happens to everyone. I think anyone in your situation would feel hurt. You can't account for her actions and it ultimately doesn't matter. Eventually, you'll find someone who you click with. Keep trying.
yea, lol, 3 quick 1-line texts over a 10 hour period totally means I'm a stage 5 clinger and she should just hang up on me when I say hello.
Famm
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You shouldn't have even texted her again after she blew your goodnight text off. Something else is going on though for her to completely go dark like that, not even trying to FZ you. Maybe she found out something about you from someone else? Or she's just a complete flake, in which case you dodged a bullet so fuck it.
Nope, not alpha, I beta'ed it up, but I kind of had a flashback to when I was in high school, asked a girl out to prom, she said yes, and then an hour later her friends came up to me in the hall and told me she changed her mind...
I know that a woman is damned if she does damned if she doesn't when rejecting someone... but *I* am always hurt more when someone seems enthusiastic and then blows you away when you're not there... feels like they were just leading you on because they feared rejecting you, which is way worse than just getting rejected.
I mean I messaged a girl on okcupid she said, "eww, go away" ... I laughed, blocked her profile, and then moved on... it was funny, but dunken donuts girl made me feel like an asshole for thinking that she was interested in me, when she clearly, by her actions, wasn't (despite what she said, I'm still smart enough to know that actions speak 1000 times louder than words)... I'm obviously still occasionally clueless when it comes to reading social cues.
I know that a woman is damned if she does damned if she doesn't when rejecting someone... but *I* am always hurt more when someone seems enthusiastic and then blows you away when you're not there... feels like they were just leading you on because they feared rejecting you, which is way worse than just getting rejected.
I mean I messaged a girl on okcupid she said, "eww, go away" ... I laughed, blocked her profile, and then moved on... it was funny, but dunken donuts girl made me feel like an asshole for thinking that she was interested in me, when she clearly, by her actions, wasn't (despite what she said, I'm still smart enough to know that actions speak 1000 times louder than words)... I'm obviously still occasionally clueless when it comes to reading social cues.
Yea, it was just confusing, again, I haven't had a girl pull that move on me since high school, so it was very out of the blue.
Haast
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Bro, I think what he meant is you don't have to dismiss every woman as a useless piece of shit to be gamed because 1 woman was a stone cold bitch. I don't think he was referring to YOU as super-clingy.
Weird shit like that happens. It's happened to me. Un-rustle jimmies and go for the next one up. Sometimes it doesn't work out, and many times you won't get the explanation you probably deserve.
No, see, I don't like being hurt... it's WAY easier to dismiss every woman as a useless piece of shit to be gamed. There is absolutely zero downside to it, and prevents me from looking like a fool until I "get" that she's intentionally cold shouldering me and not just like dead in a ditch after a car accident somewhere.
Eomer
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Nah, I think it's more likely that ol' dead eyes was completely misreading the situation. The girl was probably just being friendly during the date and leaving the place because she sensed the seething hatred of women emanating from him, and just wanted to make it out alive by pretending to be interested.
Nope, no underlying issues here!Antarius_sl said:
Haast
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Feien
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In your first post I had finally found some sympathy for you, we have a hardcore redpiller who still makes human mistakes and expresses emotion (or as you guys would put it, some beta characteristics), that happens to EVERYONE, and the 'alpha' that says otherwise is either a liar or a psychopath. But then you come back and say something like this and I realize that it''s just way easier to dismiss you as a useless piece of shit than as a human. Sure, life in a way can always be easier if we were completely selfish, but it would also be very lonely.
C'mon. You know better than that behavior. Theywantyou to dismiss them and give nary a fuck.That is attractive. I shouldn't be telling you this. You might've had a chance with donuts; you might not. But you ruined it either way.
I realize that now of course, just a stumbling block and was not thinking clearly from lack of sleep. I know things are completely ruined with this chick, but there is still a part of my mind that wants to know "why" she didn't want me, and THAT is why I know I still have a long way to go to recover from years of ingrained beta behavior.
Big Phoenix
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fucking L O L.
You realize focusing on her like is why you are the farthest thing from "alpha", right?
Nester
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So she did to you what you proudly do to other women? And it makes you feel crummy?
Dwell on that for a while.
Yes, I do realize that... hence the capitalization of THAT to EMPHASIZE the fact that THAT is the reason I'm still a work in progress.
Treat a man like crap, intentionally, and you'll be in his thoughts for a while, curious why he wasn't good enough for your affections, especially if you sprinkle in just enough kindness to lead him on.
Treat a woman like crap, intentionally, and you'll be in her thoughts for a while, curious why she wasn't good enough for your affections, especially if you sprinkle in just enough kindness to lead her on.
Shit works... except no one bats an eye when a woman does it. No white knight will come to my defense and tell her she shouldn't have ignored my texts because that's "mean".