Wife and i are pretty comfortable both working full time long term jobs bringing in a bit over 100k. She wants baby, I dont. Shes swung ok with it using her neices as surrogates and lots of pets with bouts of baby crazy. I have my reasons from various health things to inherit, hating/mistrusting kids in general. And big thing would be being near broke on childcare if we both continue working at a time when im getting more concerned about dumping money into retirement , she may be happy working a desk job into her 70s, but I dont think im going to last deep into my sixties doing any of the work I do.
Ive succeeded in getting some law enforcement job offers, the first i turned down being too far and a decent pay cut. But I'm pretty far in the process for some others I would take and now shes trying to give me ultimatums. I get my "dream" and she gets hers of having a baby......
She allowed logic to have us avoid a kid up until now, but now openly says fuck logic, feels before reals. I can't succeed in a way that helps us without her getting her boar anchor. I still firmly believe much of her balled up sentiment is of course hormones mixed with women looking at babies as cute pets ignoring the pain in the ass 8-18 age range if your lucky and they don't become basement losers. Losses her mind if i form nights now, but happily when debating kid is quick to volunteer that i would work nights and somehow sleep while watching kid....
So options: A, divorce, take half the big equity in house and return to glorious single life. B: Give up a career I wasted a bachelor's degree on, stay in my good but not amazing paying boring job and start jewing it up best I can for retirement.