You know you're getting old when.....

My son is only 11 but my wife over mother's him to the max. Just today he had some friends over and she had them jump out before she pulled into the garage. He was in such a hurry to hang with his buddies he didn't shut his door, wife pulled in and the garage shut the door for him. Door is superficially fucked.

Of course she could have double checked but he has never forgotten before. She is upset with herself and not him even a little bit upset with him.

Also he left a chocolate milk in his book bag over the weekend that explored today. She passive-aggressively tried to blame me for not checking while she was out of town this weekend.

I keep reminding her those are both on him but she's doesn't want to hear it. I just told her I don't care if his bag smells like spoiled milk but we are only buying one. Maybe using a stinky bag all year will do the trick.

girl from my high school class passed away. i couldn't remember her, even-though i knew i should. had find a yearbook online to jog my memory. also found out she married a 2 guys i knew back then that had both passed away.

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loudgas said:

Yup

We are united on most things, but the kids. She over-mothers them, needless to say this doesn't sit well with me. I plan on retiring in a few years, I have said if they aren't out of the house by then, I am.

On an unrelated topic, I messed up my back bending over to pick something up. I have never felt my age more these last couple of weeks.

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Friend of mine has a kid in that age range. He got a pass from covid, but that went away. He wouldn't apply to colleges or make an effort to move in a positive direction. He came home one day, and got handed an application to McDonald's and was told to fill it out. Last I heard, he was going to community college. Not great, but it is a start.

The big difference between your situation and theirs is that the wife is on the same page.

If you want to glance into the future, consider my cousin. He was sheltered by his mother, no expectations were ever made of him. He flunked out of music degree at an open door college. He never had a real job, still lives at home. He doesn't help around the house at all and expects to be given what he wants. New SUV? He didn't like it so they got him a truck. The added bonus is paying for his kids. He never really had two nickels of his own to rub together, so they are paying for them. Are his kids fuckups? Yew betcha.

You said that if they aren't gone when you retire, you will be gone. That might not be a bad idea if he doesn't get his shit together.


Give him this. Tell him it is this way or the highway. 100% the wife will scuttle the idea, though.

Fucker said:

Give him this. Tell him it is this way or the highway. 100% the wife will scuttle the idea, though.

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You know you're getting old when you think military service is an effective threat in 2024.

Gavinmad said:

You know you're getting old when you think military service is an effective threat in 2024.

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Probably best way to turn him gay or trans nowadays.

That ASVAB book has to be for idiots, because I breezed through it in 30 minutes.

Minor update, my son has moved in with my father-in-law and is enrolled in online school.

...and got some "nerve relaxing' meds for my sciatica, wish me luck.

Kajiimagi said:

In the middle of this myself, what 'nerve relaxing' meds specifically please?

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It's called Gabapentin, does nothing so far.

I have found using one of those Dr.Ho devices with the pads being the most effective.

loudgas said:

It's called Gabapentin, does nothing so far.

I have found using one of those Dr.Ho devices with the pads being the most effective.

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I don't often get sciatic nerve issues, mostly lower back muscle spasms, my doc prescribed me Tizanidine 4mg, like 90 pills a year ago, still have half a bottle left, it's pretty effective. It feels dumb but yoga has helped me a ton too when its really bad.