Girls who broke your heart thread

Dryst said:

Yeh I think the hardest thing to do is muster up the courage to just approach girls.

I hit on the Tanning salon girl last week and it literally was the first time i"ve ever tried to pickup a completely random chick. She smiled and made alot of noticeable eye contact with me when I was there to tan. The whole time I was in the tanning booth I kept going over and over ways to ask for her number after I got out... by the time my session was over I got this sudden feeling of disgust knowing I was going to puss out.. and of course when I left all I said was a simple "bye".

I went home, changed out of my work clothes (shirt/tie) into casual wear and I was so upset with myself that I said fuck it and went back up to the tanning salon. Even then I stayed in my car for 10 minutes talking to my best friend trying to gather courage to not be a pussy and go inside and hit on her in front of other people. I started to brain fuck myself again so eventually I said fuck it and just kinda blanked out and walked in.... went straight up to her asked her her name then said "Elizabeth this might be akward but would you like to have dinner with me sometime?" She started blushing then quickly told me she was very flattered but she had a boyfriend and I said "Hey, no harm in asking" and went about my day.

It felt so good just to not pussy out that it felt like I had actually gotten her number or something. Now if I could just recreate that confidence and do it again i"d be set. When you guys first started going up to sets how did you get the nerve... I just read about the 3 second rule and i"m praying that i"ll have the balls to follow through and talk to some sets this weekend.

Whats you guys opinion on hitting day sets such as retail workers? There"s this super hot girl working at my local gamestop but i"m not sure if I should do the direct or indirect approach.... she always seems to be surrounded by her nerdy male co-workers which looks like a cockblock.

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hahahahhahahhahaha there is SO MUCH GAY this post, please someone tell me that is a copy pasta.

Granted that your story was absolutely laughable, I"ll go on with how I pick up chicks while they are working.

You relate to them.Thats it.

If they are working, ask them how their day has been and bring up little annoying things that they can rant about.

If she is a waitress:

"Don"t you hate those people who tip 8%!"
"Have you gotten any of those people who run you around constantly?"

I have an extremely high success rate with waitresses. It gets so bad sometimes, that Req and I assign them numbers because we can"t remember their names most of the time. I get them talking forever, most of the time I don"t even listen to what they are saying.

If they work in a clothing store:

"Don"t you hate those people that pick the XXXL out from the stack and fuck it all up right after you get done fixing it?"
"Don"t you hate those people that keep all their clothes in the dressing room so you have to put them away for them?"

Once you get past the meet "n greet stage, ask them for some advice. Since they are bored out of their mind at work "because it"s a fucking clothing store" have them rate clothing that you try on. I use to work at a clothing store, and I got action while I was working, inside the changing room. It was epic.

Chicks that work in tanning salons are usually princesses. Annoying chicks that aren"t worth your time. Sure they may be hot, but dumb as shit. High fail rate unless they are bored out of their mind, in which case you only get 1 chance to succeed and thats when you first talk to her.

Just shoot shit out there that they feel passionate about. The more they rant and rave, the more positive rating you get. Women love to bitch, why not make them bitch when you first meet them. They talk forever and you can transition into how you guys should do something sometime. Maybe even a party at a friends house.

Easy as pie dudesauce.

aychamo_aycono said:

Keg I usually love you but I don"t think it"s cool to laugh at this guy. Dryst, approach anxiety is rough and it causes a lot of people a lot of problems. A good piece of advice people give is to just practice opening sets. Get in the talking mood. Go to the mall and make it a goal to talk to 25 women. Not to get numbers, just ask them some bullshit question ("hey my friend is asking me to buy his wife a present for him, I have $300, what should I get?").

To me, the reason you had such anxiety with this woman is cause you dwelled on it so long. That"s the basis of the 3-second rule. You just gotta do it. That"s what the "exercise" of 25 woman in the mall is for, to get you used to talking with woman. All the great pickup guys have opened sets with thousands of women. It takes practice!

Another thing that was pointed out to me is this: say one in twenty woman you meet are even dateable. If you only meet one woman a month you"re going to be single a long time. If you meet twenty woman a week, well, get ready to clear your calendar for all the dates you"re going to have!

The thing that"s helped me the most in my game is trying to be a 10(will post link when I get home). I walk into a bar and greet everyone I see. I give out social value to everyone in the bar. It sounds ridiculous but only to people who haven"t tried it. By the time I open a set I"m on fire and it"s good times. I"ll post the link, it"s the philosophy of the people at "the pickup podcast" (this is not the typical Mystery style stuff, it"s honestly life changing information)

I love it. Helps me in all aspects of life. Will post more when I"m not on my mobile (yes I suffered this whole post on my iPhone touchscreen!)

Also Tyen"s advice for conversation starters (openers) is great.

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lol well the dude was in a tanning salon i mean wtf come on now i honestly just assumed that was a copy paste from another board.

you give some good advice but i think you make it too complicated. just make an effort to go out in public places and be as friendly as possible to everyone, not just random women or people you know. just smile a lot and learn how to make the other person feel comfortable in conversation. if you do this enough sooner or later you"ll be just doing it naturally.

Another important detail is putting yourself in a situation where the odds are for you.

Don"t approach a chick unless you know exactly how it is going to play out. Hold all the cards.

If you throw out meaningless sentences, then the discussion will be meaningless and you are in for some epic fail. Talk about something you know a thing or two about in which will perk their interest.

For example, you are at a bar in the fascist fucking state of Massachusetts. You go stand outside for a smoke and see one or two hot looking ladies outside nearby smoking as well.

Once eye contact and awkard silence is achieved, pipe in and say how bullshit it is not being able to smoke indoors. Let them gripe about it with you a bit, then tell them you aren"t used to it since you are from a state where you can smoke inside bars. Then ask them if they lived around the area all their lives. No matter what their answer is, it will open up at least 30 questions in which you can talk forever about.

After you are done smoking tell them you will see them inside and maybe have a drink or two with them, since the convo went superb. Chill with your buddy a bit then jump over there and continue conversations.

Once you start playing out situations like that in your head, you can get any lady you want in situations which you can bring up great conversation starters without looking like a jackass. Always be aware of the situation and if your approach is absolutely un-warranted and retarded. You can"t stop a girl while they are walking down the street and start some convo with her, that shit has a high fail rate.

Learn to read between the lines, read their mind, and know the situation you are walking into like the back of your hand.

If you are ever in Boston, I"ll show you how it"s done sir.

if they didn"t want to get hit on they"d be at curves.


just be friendly and smile and say hi and shit and if they seem like they"re feeling it make some joke about how you gotta work off all the wings and beer you"ve been eating or some shit. that will open up some convo hopefully and you can continue to say hi to her and talk to her whenever you see her at the gym. when you feel comfortable enough ask her out to get a drink or something.

This is what I do in gym situations. (Usually there is a pool at the workout places I go which makes the close sweet as fuck but I"ll omit that part. Love to showoff the diving skills~)

If you are in "datable" shape, wear clothes that bring out your best parts. If you have a massive cock when flaccid, wear some shorts that let that bulge show. I don"t have that luxory but if you do, fucking use it.

Scope out the hoes you want to hittup, and get a good idea of where you can workout while they watch you on their treadmills. They will be on that shit all day so you have all their attention to look like a stud.

Work out hard, to where the next day you are going to be sore as hell. Put on a motherfucking show for those ladies. Don"t fuck around and don"t hold anything back.

IFa chick is giving you the "fuck me" look are you only allowed to approach chicks in a gym. One failed attempt will fuck your whole aura there. Especially if the chick is a regular. They have friends.

If they are on a treadmill jump on the one next to her. If she looks interested in talking to you IE Awkward silence while she isn"t listening to music, throw something out there.But wait! You need material...

All gyms have TVs, once something ridiculous comes on, maybe some jerry springer or CNN, bring up something to catch her attention. "Did you see that, a guy with no legs on Jerry Springer, isn"t that nuts?" "Oh jeez, I"m so glad the election is over, that election wore me out." or "I can"t believe they would take away gay rights like that, thats crazy."

Have very short talks, nothing too big. Since these are really shortYOU HAVE TO MAKE HER GIGGLE A FEW TIMES.Bitches love a good laugh, so be sure the material you are throwing out has some lulz in it. You don"t have to be the most hilarious motherfucker on the planet, but in awkward situations, the littlest things get a chuckle. Don"t make a big deal out of it.

If she is feeling your vibe, then later on when she gets off the treadmill (give her a bit to get relaxed), ask her if she wants to snag a sandwich at the local coffee house nearby. Be like"I"m so not hitting on you right now, but if you want, I"d enjoy someone to tag along to grab a sandwich at "soandso"s."
-You say you aren"t hitting on her so whether you win or lose, you don"t look like a sleazey motherfucker.
-It also puts you above them, making them think they aren"t worthy to be hit on by you. I don"t know the logic behind it nor care to read up on it, but it works for me.
-If she mocks you because you said, "I"m not hitting on you" then you got yourself so many zingers to throw out there that the shit will be in your bag with the slightest response.
-If she says no in a way that makes her sound interested, but she doesn"t have time then tell her "Maybe some other time then."
-DO NOTask for her number unless you know for a fact that she is interested in that cock sandwich.
-DO NOTrisk your reputation on getting antsy to have a phone number and be ignored every time you call.


No matter if you win or lose, you CANNOT look like a sleaze or a douche. I can"t tell you how many times I"ve failed picking up a lady that night but still pulled it off a couple weeks later.

As long as the vibe was there (any idiot can figure out if he is connecting with a chick or not) she won"t say no and you just got a date.