I can"t really make much sense of this, so I"ll just type it out as I think of things.
I met a girl on Facebook quite a while back, probably close to a year. We both knew some of the same people, but had never personally met or been at the same parties. Neither one of us really initiated anything, and we just kind of texted back and forth for a few months.
She told me that her last sexing was when she was in her long term relationship; 9 months at the time. She said she hasn"t dated much, and is kind of awkward. I wasn"t sure how much of that I could believe, but whatever. We met one day, by accident, and it turns out she"s like 5"10, perfect body, and a great sense of humor, but quite shy. So now I"m interested (a bit shallow, I know).
She starts messaging me more and more, telling me she really likes me a lot. I return similar messages, but none of them were on the phone. Like before, she hates anything but text, and I can"t stand texting all the time. If I call her, she lets it go to voicemail, and then listens to the voicemail. It"s pretty retarded, but I figure she just has an aversion to talking on the phone. A lot of girls do now, and I"m not sure why.
It starts to get a little frustrating here. She continues to ignore calls, randomly text me back at odd hours, and then sometimes not reply all day. I never, at any point, became needy or creepy. I just kept it casual and tried to set up dates. She would willingly agree to something, and then as the time came, she wouldn"t reply or answer her phone. She would profusely apologize and tell me she is just scared of seeing me, because she likes me so much.
Add to this that I"ve driven to her area, and I told her I was going to. This was a test, and I knew what was going to happen. I waited an hour, and then told her I left, because she didn"t reply. Immediately she replies "FUCK, I"m so sorry" though I can"t remember if she gave an excuse with that one.
At this point, my bullshit flag is raised, and I tell her in a voicemail that I"m tired of talking to her voicemail, and that texting only is lame. I broke off any contact, and she sent me an email telling me she misses me, and can"t stop thinking about me. I ask her if she wants a real relationship, because I won"t do text only anymore. This was about 3 weeks ago. She says yes and agrees we should really start seeing each other. I was so enthralled by her when I first met her, that I was willing to put up with it for a while; that"s my excuse.
I planned some stuff with her while on vacation, and when I tell her I"m driving up she replies "wait, don"t drive yet... shit." I"m like what"s wrong? I can"t remember verbatim what she said, but it was something lame like, she was scared and freaking out, and being too emotional about it. So I didn"t end up going that day, but she continually had other shit going on that week, or didnt reply all day until it was too late. Par for the course.
The last weekend of my vacation, I decided to say fuck it, and went to the dunes with my friends. I ended up in an accident when some kid with his teenage girlfriend on the back, went counter-clockwise in a sandbowl, where I was going clockwise in 5th gear. I was already in the bowl, he had no right to jump in. Sadly, he was one of the people in the group I was with. I ended up being thrown from my quad at 45 mph or so. He ended up with a concussion and face stitches. I just had a sore arm and sciatic nerve pain at first.
I call her while in the ER, and she doesn"t answer, so I left a message and then texted her my phone was going to die. I plug the phone in the next day and I had a lot of texts back from her. Once I told her I was ok (in text again) she said something, and I asked her a question. She didn"t reply, and after an hour, I wrote something like "this shit is lame, I just got out of the ER and I can"t walk, and you still won"t call me. I"m not texting anymore, goodnight." She immediately calls me, and this is the first call in 2 months.
Fast forward to this last Saturday, we had plans to go out, and this is the nth time (I can"t even count) that we"ve made plans. I call her on Saturday morning, no answer, I text once an hour casually, no answer. As it gets later into the day, I just write that I"m going to do something else. Predictably, 30 mins from the time she was supposed to go to a bachelorette party, she replies "that"s ok, Kelsey want"s me over there at 5-6 anyway." I said "whatever you say" so she gets that I"m pissed and says "well I woke up to you saying you were doing something else, so I figured I missed my chance with you." All I could say was "shock shock", because I wanted to lay into her for being a fucking flake.
Yesterday I had just had too much, I asked her if she was still going to the show in Denver. It"s a valid question, because taking a road trip with my friends, when she barely knows me, is going to be awkward for her. She said she planned on seeing me before then, and I said "Are we just friends?" she of course says no and that she likes me more than that. I said "I don"t think it"s going to happen, Vanessa." and from that point on, she hasn"t said a word to me.
I"m both relieved and annoyed at this point. I have a feeling she will contact me again, but I"m not doing this shit anymore.
Does anyone else have experience with girls doing shit like this?
One of my friends thinks that she is just stringing me along because she has no self-esteem. I said that you have to meet someone to really get the benefit of stringing someone along. Dates, sex, emotional support etc. Maybe this a new type of feedback for some girls?
I think she has to have a husband or boyfriend, because I"ve never had a girl do this to me. I"m not heartbroken, but I really did like her.
So there it is, more stupid stories to read while at work, or what have you. Parts of it are pathetic, but I put up with it for so long because I really believed she would come around. Discuss!
