Your wife is being super nice because that's what her lawyers recommend she do just before serving papers. She can claim in court that she tried.
so the next day after she heard me tell capri I love you, she said she set up a meeting with a lawyer, i asked her WHY...are we getting a divorce now ?, she said no but she wants to protect her money, i asked ...protect from what ?, i give you my paycheck every week, you give me $100, what could i possibly do, you handle all the finances, the worst i could do is run up the credit card, but you check the balance everyday,
i said if you want separate cc's then lets do that, then i just said if it makes you feel better , talk to a lawyer, and maybe i should get one also,that separating our finances at this point will only benefit and protect me,
she could screw me over financially anytime....i don't know where the money all goes..
it was at this point that she realized that her getting a lawyer does nothing, i am not going to do anything to hurt her financially or my kids
again we are looking at a four year plan, before divorce, to ensure my son gets thru private school