Marriage and the Power of Divorce

Mrs. G gets a pass on friendzoning, Lead. Not even a cool joke.

The girlfriend just said "mansplaining", which apparently got used today by every pseudo-journalism outlet to describe last night's debate.

She's got one foot in the indoctrination door! FUCK FUCK FUCK!!!! BRACE FOR EJECT!

That debate delayed Lucifer, f politics.

That was a joke, I'm awful at being a smart ass. Usually just comes out as mean.

Mrs. Gravy said:

Big_w_powah...thanks, but I actually did laugh.


Considering I have been bawling my eyes out missing G, wishing he was here...the silliness of that remark (....even if he was actually just being an ass...I apparently cannot trust my ass radar any more...) still made me laugh.

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Glad for that. I never got to actually express my condolences personally.

Gravy was the shit, and I'm glad you are around.

Leadsalad said:

That debate delayed Lucifer, f politics.

That was a joke, I'm awful at being a smart ass. Usually just comes out as mean.

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Sorry I jumped down your throat, man.

I'm just pissed at work, and apologize for my fucked up disposition right now.

Big_w_powah said:

Sorry I jumped down your throat, man.

I'm just pissed at work, and apologize for my fucked up disposition right now.

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That's damned big of you. I appreciate posts of this sort, showing honesty.

Np, I'm still annoyed at the tv show being bumped due to some silly useless shit! Tricia > an actual cylon running for president.

Big_w_powah said:

Glad for that. I never got to actually express my condolences personally.

Gravy was the shit, and I'm glad you are around.

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Dude did you know he was fuckin white?!?

Mrs. Gravy said:

Yes, yes he did. I have worked for him for 10 years and would never in a million thought this would happen....I edited my original post to provide more info.

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Think of it this way. You still got it woman.

It was across the line, obviously. I mean look you never know. Maybe his wife who you respect hates him. Maybe he had a weak moment. Maybe he's a fucking serial philanderer. I mean there's no telling.

You don't have to hate or fear him though. All the broken social codes aside, that was a compliment. And not just "oh baby you're hot". It was a compliment about the nature of your friendship. He didn't do it cause he's horny. I mean, probably.

It really can all go away. Don't shame him with it though. And you can without meaning to. Tell him some version of "Look, that never happens again. But we're still friends, yeah?"

Unless he's a complete idiot he'll take that deal and thank you for it. And then it'll be weird for about a month. And then it won't be.

People make mistakes. If there's not a history of this (obviously he's been thinking this about you for more than just the day it happened. That's how men are) then really you shouldn't worry. Why did he act on it that day and not any of the other days? I dunno, you'd really have to ask him.

Some questions though you don't actually want the answers to. It may be that he's thinking about retirement or afraid that he's about to get laid off, it's equally likely something like that as anything nefarious... so you know, seize the day make your play. It's better to regret something you did than something you were too afraid to.

And yes, he did it as clumsily as a teenager. I'm not saying you have no right to be offended or angry, only that you don't need to be afraid or protect yourself with hate.

Covering your ass is probably wisdom, as well, like the other guys have said. But don't let him see you do it. That'll go south quickly.

Haast said:

The girlfriend just said "mansplaining", which apparently got used today by every pseudo-journalism outlet to describe last night's debate.

She's got one foot in the indoctrination door! FUCK FUCK FUCK!!!! BRACE FOR EJECT!

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ass to mouth and dump her

Frenzied Wombat said:

A lot of guys I know literally TOLD their wives to stay home at not work because they couldn't deal with being their post work emotional tampon every day.

As one guy so eloquently put it:

"I make 175K a year, and my wife makes 55K being a teacher. Every fucking day, despite having ten times the responsibility and stress that she does, I have to spend at least 45 minutes after work listening to her moan about teachers, administration, and students. Then if it was a particularly bad day or I didn't listen well, I have to spend the rest of the night enduring her bad mood. I told her to stay home and now I have an extra 45 minutes to myself every day and don't have to deal with her moods. Worth it."

I'd dispute the "worth it" part, but I see this a lot..

Whether women employ this tactic consciously as an effort to stay home is what I'm curious about.

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This is where I found myself exactly two weeks ago. My wife worked a stressful as hell job for a manager that ticked off every single checkbox for the stereotypical shitty manager list. She came in one night and after the last "I don't want you to fix, just hear me vent." I stewed over it for a night, and then told her the next day to put in her notice.

I make enough to support us, and she's going to focus on making cakes and catering to supplement my income. Win/win to me. It's worth it in a sense that when you are attached to someone in a legally binding way, losing an hour of your life on a daily basis and then dealing with a downright rotten mood the rest of the time, or having someone who is awesome to be around, I'm picking the latter for sure.

Cad said:

Could just tell her to apply and get a job elsewhere like any rational adult would do.

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And that is the plan b. Right now she is just taking the time to try to get the business off the ground, since we have the means to afford no income right now, she is going to give the cake and catering business a year to get going. If it doesn't, she will most likely grab a part time gig at an office, because she will get bored of this.

Mrs. Gravy
Why do women do this

Complain about work for 45 minutes