Marriage and the Power of Divorce

Soygen said:

I'd love to hear those stories. Just sayin'...

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FUR REAL, like she got poisoned and anal is the only antidote. I wish I knew what I did right, I'd start holding seminars.

A few years ago if you'd asked me, our sex life was our biggest problem. Now I'd say it's finances/house shit. More mundane.

Khane said:

No that's a pretty standard first date.

Why would you want to eat on a first date? It inhibits conversation and you're eating instead of getting drunk and fondling each other.

It's also cheaper and you aren't stuck waiting for your food if it clearly isn't going well.

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Wife and I ate on our first date. Took fuckin 3 hours To eat

Yeah. Drinks is a social setting where either one of you can just bail and it's relatively cheap -- so no one is spending any actual money.

I dunno man, it's way different out in the stix. I can do "lets go walk around this lake if the weather is nice" or "I've never been deep into those woods. Wanna see what's back there?". Can't get away with that shit in NY.

When I lived in a different city me and a girl went and explored an delapidated railway depot. That was actually a lot of fun. It was like walking around in fallout world. She shamed me though, she was a much better climber than I am. She'd get up on a roof and laugh at me.

I liked that girl.

How deep do these woods go just sounds like rape.

I think this is a good idea for the crowd sourcing we should come up with a list of first date questions for lulzsect.

Soygen said:

Right, so prime first date material.

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It sounds like a joke, and it kinda is. I don't actually lead with "the implication" to random pretty strangers. But it is quite effective at weeding out the ones who aren't worth the time.

It tells you a great deal about them without having to ask any awkward questions.

Blazin said:

Maybe instead of standard Khane qualifiers we just type (Khane clause).

"I agree with Khane here (Khane clause)"

"Though Khane is fucking retarded and knows nothing of relationships or women and will be forever alone, I agree with this particular assertion"

Would save time but still allow us to agree with Khane without losing credibility

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Here let me try : When it comes to first date advice Khane is 10d Chestmaster

"Though Khane is fucking retarded and knows nothing of relationships or women and will be forever alone."

Omi43221 said:

Here let me try : When it comes to first date advice Khane is 10d Chestmaster

"Though Khane is fucking retarded and knows nothing of relationships or women and will be forever alone."

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"Though Khane is a smug condescending fat crook-dicked ginger who once tried to break up with an entire online community despite it being the only long term relationship of his lonely life..."

So yeah. No coke, and you might be ok.

You might also tell her, if it comes up naturally, that you are X days clean (maybe you can lie a little here and pad it if the X is low) and really trying to change your life.

Women just LOVE to fix a man.

She might also just wish you luck and decide that's a bigger mountain than she wants to climb. But at least then you'll have been honest about it and can respect both of you.

Picasso3 said:

"Though Khane is a smug condescending fat crook-dicked ginger who once tried to break up with an entire online community despite it being the only long term relationship of his lonely life..."

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How dare you... coat hangers are not crooked.

Khane said:

No that's a pretty standard first date.

Why would you want to eat on a first date? It inhibits conversation and you're eating instead of getting drunk and fondling each other.

It's also cheaper and you aren't stuck waiting for your food if it clearly isn't going well.

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Isn't it fairly proven that eating a meal with another human is one of the most bonding things you can do?

We're talking first date. Not dinner with the fam.

Mrs. Gravy said:

Self flagellation can be rewarding?

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Kinda.

Honestly, If I have to pretend to be something that I'm not then I'm not interested. I'm willing to do that for work. Never love. I am also what they call a confirmed bachelor. I used to think that meant "gay", and it does. But it can also mean just a guy who is so god damn selfish that he won't take a wife. And that's true. In my 20's I was terrified of children. In my thirties I was disdainful of divorced mothers with young children. I called it either fear or good sense at the time, but really it was only selfishness. I don't believe in "the one". That's a ridiculous notion. But I do believe in a spectrum of compatibility... and I know perfectly well what an odd duck I am. I know where the faults are that can't be fixed and shouldn't be patched.

It usually involves a great deal of flaggelation, that's true, there's been dozens that just fizzle. Near misses. Not nearly as many hostile separations as I would have thought. I learned young to not force it.

But when it clicks god damn it there's only one thing in this world that's better. When you can form a real connection. If I have to take a beating sometimes, then I just have to take a beating.

It's either all or nothing, ya know? Half assed just isn't worth the effort. And forcing something is half assed. Yeah. Love is a compulsion. That's my experience of it. I don't mean infatuation. That's fun to indulge in, generally harmless, a different structure. But that's not love.

There is a reason why i'm single, after all. I've only ever met two women that were insane in just the right (but completely different) ways.