Marriage and the Power of Divorce

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Jackie Treehorn

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Foler said:
This is a serious question for those who have experienced and haven't.

If you've been with a woman who was a complete freak in bed, really open to anything and the woman your currently married to isn't so much. Has that caused any sexual friction or tension? Or is just kinda like "been there done that" and you're ok with more vanilla stuff?
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I can’t answer to marriage obviously but long term dating yes.

I’ve been with a couple of women who were exceptional sexual matches to my own preferences and really stick out in that arena for various reasons.

Then I’ve dated for multiple years a couple of women who weren’t very experimental but otherwise pleased me. For me this is perfectly fine. I don’t need the person I’m in a long term relationship with to be the best sex I’ve ever had if everything else clicks.
 
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Sex is an important part, but not the most important part. Sure if it is missing that is a big red flag of nope, but it all depends on the dynamic, and the players involved.
 
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Foler said:
This is a serious question for those who have experienced and haven't.

If you've been with a woman who was a complete freak in bed, really open to anything and the woman your currently married to isn't so much. Has that caused any sexual friction or tension? Or is just kinda like "been there done that" and you're ok with more vanilla stuff?
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I couldnt live with missionary with the lights off for the rest of my life. Not saying she has to be as out there as me or into every single thing I am but I want someone who is open minded. Having a partner who isnt interested in having fun, adventurous sex would be like having a refrigerator full of our favorite foods but being unable to eat them.
 
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I couldnt live with missionary with the lights off for the rest of my life. Not saying she has to be as out there as me or into every single thing I am but I want someone is open minded. Having a partner who isnt interested in having fun, adventurous sex would be like having a refrigerator full of our favorite foods but being unable to eat them.
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I've dated one or two women who were like that. Lights off and mainly missionary. Lights off is kind of a turnoff, makes them seem insecure about their body.
 
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If the conversation is good and the sex isnt, I'll take that deal for a lot longer than the reverse.
 
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iannis said:
If the conversation is good and the sex isnt, I'll take that deal for a lot longer than the reverse.
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That's the key. The conversation. If the sex isn't good, but you can have conversations about it, the sex will get better. TALK MOTHERFUCKERS! Do you even?
 
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Foler said:
This is a serious question for those who have experienced and haven't.

If you've been with a woman who was a complete freak in bed, really open to anything and the woman your currently married to isn't so much. Has that caused any sexual friction or tension? Or is just kinda like "been there done that" and you're ok with more vanilla stuff?
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I don't have the same situation, but it's close enough that I can say you'll be OK with it if you chose to be with her. In my case what I miss is being able to fuck all night. She's a one and done kind of girl. When I was dating I'd usually get 3 nuts and at least twice as many orgasms from the girls I was with. But when I try to go for #2 with my wife, her pussy starts hurting and she just wants to go to sleep. It annoys me to miss out on the after sex exhaustion, but I see it as a challenge to work on her stamina. Last month we fucked 3 times in a day, which was pretty big even if there were large breaks in between.
 
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Thought about some annoying stuff my wife does just to bring the meta back.

This first one is selfish. When I get home from work, everyone else has already eaten.. just the way it is with kids, so I eat by myself. Well. I'd like to.. my wife stands across from me and just starts talking while I'm trying to eat. I don't mind a few sentences or important things, but she goes full conversation mode on me. I just want 5 minutes to eat. SHE DOES IT EVERY TIME. I know it's because I'm gone all day and she wants to talk, but I wish she'd give me a few minutes. I hate eating while people are actively watching me and also not eating. Makes me uncomfortable.

The second and biggest thing for me is how my wife views my workout habits. She's been on me to workout for months. I'm starting and actually before we met, I was big into weight lifting. To her this is unacceptable. She wants me to look like Al Seed or whatever his dumb name is from True Blood, but like... doing what she deems the right exercises. To her, this is Tae-Bo, or Jillian Michaels DVDs. Sorry, but that's not me. I tried telling her that I'll work out better if I enjoy it, but no. "You need more cardio". She also doesn't accept the science that weight lifting heavy is one of the best exercises you can do.

I finally got her to cave on me leaving the house and going to the gym but she criticizes everything. "I bet you just weight lifted UGH"

You think Al-seed got that way from TAE BO TAPES LADY??? No, he ate chicken 138 times a day and worked out for 4 hours.
 
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That isn't life with kids, man. They can snack and wait until you get home, unless it's like 9 pm or something. We have late family dinners by many people's standards, usually starting at 7:30. Always have. Kids sometimes went to bed directly after dinner, but that's life. Eat as a family - I think that's important.

And having the wife go full conversation mode when you just want quiet? Man, I can relate to that. My wife wants to pow-wow about every moment of the day. I just don't feel the need to do that. And if something happened during the day that really irritated her, she wants to describe it in full detail. I've recently started saying "You know how when that happened it really irritated you? I don't really want to share that irritation with a full description." She gets grumpy for a minute, and then realizes she was putting me through exactly what irritated her. Blah.

Anyway, I still love being married.
 
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Why can't she feed the kids but not eat till you get home?

I think that would satisfy her need to talk to an adult and your need to have a pleasant dinner.
 
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I understand the conversing part, I'm the same way, I need to talk with *someone* to vent my anger. She could stand to be considerate about how and/or when she does it though.

As for body image, that boggles my mind. Just reverse the genders in that scenario and imagine how long that would go before you end up divorced. I would never dream of telling my wife I want her to work on her glutes.
 
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Noodleface said:
You think Al-seed got that way from TAE BO TAPES LADY??? No, he ate chicken 138 times a day and worked out for 4 hours.
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Shake-Weight and Spin Class.

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Last weekend our latest bout was because my father was going to stop by on sunday and visit our daughter. He recently got divorced and my wife "doesn't want the house the house to turn into an adult day care center". Keep in mind her mother spends every weekday 3 hours in our house babysitting baby girl.

I am all kinds of done with this marriage. She stop having sex, and every time I push, it is tomorrow, tomorrow.
 
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lurkingdirk said:
That isn't life with kids, man. They can snack and wait until you get home, unless it's like 9 pm or something. We have late family dinners by many people's standards, usually starting at 7:30. Always have. Kids sometimes went to bed directly after dinner, but that's life. Eat as a family - I think that's important.

And having the wife go full conversation mode when you just want quiet? Man, I can relate to that. My wife wants to pow-wow about every moment of the day. I just don't feel the need to do that. And if something happened during the day that really irritated her, she wants to describe it in full detail. I've recently started saying "You know how when that happened it really irritated you? I don't really want to share that irritation with a full description." She gets grumpy for a minute, and then realizes she was putting me through exactly what irritated her. Blah.

Anyway, I still love being married.
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My kids go to bed early. Theyre also extremely difficult at dinner time so it's a phase now with them. Not much we can do about that. I don't care about eating alone. I just want 5 minutes.

The body image stuff is fine. The thought of saying that to her is hilarious. It'd be nice if your ass was.a bit more solid like Scarlett johnansons don't you think? I don't care. But if she wants me to work out, please let me do it on my own terms.
 
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Noodleface said:
My kids go to bed early. Theyre also extremely difficult at dinner time so it's a phase now with them. Not much we can do about that. I don't care about eating alone. I just want 5 minutes.

The body image stuff is fine. The thought of saying that to her is hilarious. It'd be nice if your ass was.a bit more solid like Scarlett johnansons don't you think? I don't care. But if she wants me to work out, please let me do it on my own terms.
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I have no problem with the body image stuff either. If my wife gave me something concrete I could work to improve, I'd probably be ecstatic. As long as it wasn't something faggotty like wanting me to grow a beard and wear flannel and skinny pants.

The hypocrisy is just galling, that's all.
 
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Noodleface said:
The second and biggest thing for me is how my wife views my workout habits. She's been on me to workout for months. I'm starting and actually before we met, I was big into weight lifting. To her this is unacceptable. She wants me to look like Al Seed or whatever his dumb name is from True Blood, but like... doing what she deems the right exercises. To her, this is Tae-Bo, or Jillian Michaels DVDs. Sorry, but that's not me. I tried telling her that I'll work out better if I enjoy it, but no. "You need more cardio". She also doesn't accept the science that weight lifting heavy is one of the best exercises you can do.
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That is just straight up some grade A bullshit. Not only is she unbelievably wrong about lifting weights, which is by far the most productive use of your limited time in the gym, but to be on your case about how you work out takes nagging to a level I find incomprehensible.

I honestly don't know how you could stand it.
 
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That is just straight up some grade A bullshit. Not only is she unbelievably wrong about lifting weights, which is by far the most productive use of your limited time in the gym, but to be on your case about how you work out takes nagging to a level I find incomprehensible.

I honestly don't know how you could stand it.
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I mean I've been married for 5 years so Ive come into a skill where I can listen to nagging and then not do what she says. She can complain all she wants, I am not doing her work outs. I'll forward her hard science one day when I'm tiredd of getting laid everyday again.

I understand the importance of cardio. But there's a time and place for that.
 
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I honestly don't know how you could stand it.
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If there's one thing I've learned from this thread, it's that Noodle has an unbelievably high threshold for bullshit.
 
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